is this wrong of me to be upset?

[msnadia]

Two of my ex co-workers are due this month as well. One I still communicate with every now and then. Her due date was sept 8th. Well apparently she has her baby today and was previously it was a girl. During the course of our pregnancy we discussed the names we picked out...She said she wanted to name Alana but the spelling she gave was Aallanna (some shit along those lines that looks jacked up). Well today she's informed its a boy. When I told her I was going to name my little one Isaiah Armon she's like where did you get that muslim name from? Muslim name? No sweetie sorry its Hebrew meaning God is salvation and Armon means Castle . Why in the hell does she decide to name him Isaiah Gabriel? It really made me mad to know that you didn't like that name to begin with but you want to take my shit? I know people have the same name but its the principle of the matter, now I'm at the point where I want to change his name but I absolutely love it....is it wrong of me to be upset? Its crazy what if I invite her little boy to my childs b'day party and he's like My name is Isaiah and my birthday was before yours...your mom stole your name from me? I know that probably won't happen but I'm heated right now.

[LeosMama]

You're over-reacting. Names are not property. It's a beautiful name, and she is complimenting you by using it for her child. She may not be aware of it as complimenting, but that is what she is doing.

And the kids won't be telling each other that one mother 'stole' the name from another unless an ADULT tells them that first. Don't you be the graceless one to say such a thing to your child.

You can win here...YOU came up with the name that she found so handsome that she just had to copy it...and now YOU can be the graceful, elegant woman here and accept that it is a compliment to you and if the children ever ask/mention the duplication in names, you say "Yes, Betty chose the same name for her son that I had mentioned to her for mine, and it shows that she and I have similar tastes. Many friends agree on such things. Don't you both have a strong, handome name?" No mention of 'stealing' no bitterness or any such thing.

[ish]

It's difficult not to over-react, especially at this stage of the game, but try not to take it so hard. "Name-stealing" is really, really common.

It happened to us twice with DS1. Each time we had a name and shared it, one of our "due-around-the-same-time" friends used it for their son. It was discouraging, but we always took it as a sign that we just hadn't found the "right" name yet (and we hadn't). I am so glad we chose a different name - as much as we loved the first two, the third name works like a charm and fits DS1 to a T.

[RainbowsMum]

It would have upset me.... I don't know exactly why.... Maybe just cos I find it so hard to choose names?? But either way I can understand it upsetting you anyway, especially this far on as well...

[msnadia]

Originally Posted by LeosMama

You're over-reacting. Names are not property. It's a beautiful name, and she is complimenting you by using it for her child. She may not be aware of it as complimenting, but that is what she is doing.

And the kids won't be telling each other that one mother 'stole' the name from another unless an ADULT tells them that first. Don't you be the graceless one to say such a thing to your child.

You can win here...YOU came up with the name that she found so handsome that she just had to copy it...and now YOU can be the graceful, elegant woman here and accept that it is a compliment to you and if the children ever ask/mention the duplication in names, you say "Yes, Betty chose the same name for her son that I had mentioned to her for mine, and it shows that she and I have similar tastes. Many friends agree on such things. Don't you both have a strong, handome name?" No mention of 'stealing' no bitterness or any such thing.

I never really looked at it in that sense. I was upset for the time being and it as by passed. The sad thing about it is she did not call to tell me she named the baby Isaiah. I hear from my friend that called to tell me that she's afraid to pick up the phone to call me...smh...Thats over and done with but I really appreciate you for helping me to see it in a different perspective