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[meandk0610]

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[lactivist]

Thank you all so much! I have to admit that I am looking for a book for my husband. I have asked him to read books since the beginning of our relationship so we could be on the same page. He has read one in the whole time we have been parents, Living Joyfully With Kids (which is excellent). We have been arguing more about discipline lately due to our very headstrong and amazing toddler. He has said he would read a book and I didn't want to screw up my one big chance. I think I will buy a few of the recommendations and let him pick which one appeals to him. I have been meaning to read Unconditional Parenting so I will definitely get that one. Thanks so much! Feel free to keep them coming because I am always looking for good books. Several of these I have read but don't own so I have some deciding to do. You all rock!!!
Wendi

[pampered_mom]

I'm very pleased to have found this thread. I don't normally end up in this section of Mothering, but I've been on the search for the best GD books out there. I'm very pleased to see that some of the ones I requested from the library is on this list. I can't wait to read them! Thanks again!

[umsami]

Originally Posted by Nisupulla

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
by Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish

My eldest threw that into the toilet about a year ago (it was a phase... let's see what else we can flush). Guess, I'll have to go buy it.

I like a lot of the ones mentioned. In terms of readability, I really like Hillary Flowers, "Adventures in Gentle Discipline." It's a great book for browsing and picking up a tip or two without having to commit to reading a whole chapter.

[ZeldasMom]

I like Adventures in Gentle Discipline by Hilary Flower. It's the kind of book you can open up to any page and find something useful. You don't have to read it in order, so it is the perfect, bathroom/bedside table book. Also, for any particular issue, it has an array of GD perspectives, which I like.

It has a very positive tone, toward both children and parents. I try to read from it a few minutes a day, and I think it really helps keep me in the kind of place I want to be with my kids.

A very different book I really like is Parenting from the Inside Out. I think in many cases people know the right way to care for children (they want to use respecftul, nurturing, nonviolent methods), and when they don't follow that route it is often because their emotions have gotten in the way. This book helps you figure out how to be more self aware so you can parent the way your wiser mind knows is best.

[ZeldasMom]

Originally Posted by umsami

In terms of readability, I really like Hillary Flowers, "Adventures in Gentle Discipline." It's a great book for browsing and picking up a tip or two without having to commit to reading a whole chapter.

Somehow I mised this when I posted. Great minds think alike!

[mommaof3]

For husbands, I think that Alfie Kohn's DVD, also called Unconditional Parenting is a great choice. You can watch it together in one evening, and Alfie is just SO dynamic and convincing and fun!

[sally Z]

Originally Posted by mommaof3

For husbands, I think that Alfie Kohn's DVD, also called Unconditional Parenting is a great choice. You can watch it together in one evening, and Alfie is just SO dynamic and convincing and fun!

i want to get it for my dh, he will so not read the book. It just cost so much to get it to South Africa

[DevaMajka]

Originally Posted by boongirl

Becoming the parent you want to be is also a great one.

Definitely my fave for kids up to 5yo.

Originally Posted by Nisupulla
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
by Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish

Great - picks up in age where Becoming...leaves off
Easy to read (I prefer Loving your child is not Enough - very similar to How to talk... but better. Though not as simply laid out and easy to read as How to talk.)

[eckmannl]

Originally Posted by umsami

In terms of readability, I really like Hillary Flowers, "Adventures in Gentle Discipline." It's a great book for browsing and picking up a tip or two without having to commit to reading a whole chapter.

This one is my favorite. It's so easy to just pick up and turn to any random page and learn a little something

[aidansmom05]

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[Mountaingirl3]

For an engaging intro to GD with a great attitude and concrete suggestions that work right away:
Ages 1-3
Happiest Toddler on the Block -- Harvey Karp
4+
Playful Parenting -- Lawrence Cohen

I always love to hear about new books. They are a great pick-me-up when my energy for GD fades. Thanks for the ideas, everyone!

[hapi2help]

I am so excited to see this thread......I really need something for me to read and something for my DH. My 14 mo is spirited and wonderful and is overwhelming my DH........I just created a "wish list" on Amazon with all of these books!

Thanks.....

[Mrs.PhD]

Originally Posted by Mountaingirl3

For an engaging intro to GD with a great attitude and concrete suggestions that work right away:
Ages 1-3
Happiest Toddler on the Block -- Harvey Karp
4+
Playful Parenting -- Lawrence Cohen

I always love to hear about new books. They are a great pick-me-up when my energy for GD fades. Thanks for the ideas, everyone!

I just got back from a semiar to see Harvey Karp (put on by the county's school board.) It was only $5 and they gave you a copy of a book or viedo for coming too. It was great. I really enjoyed him. Funny though much of his work is stuff that just comes naturally to me anyway. Still it was very good.

[Venice Mamacita]

Reading Alfie Kohn's "Unconditional Parenting" created a real paradigm shift for me, so I recommend that to everyone who asks (his new book about homework is awesome, too!). My DH, however, won't read anything more than a few pages long, so I broke down and bought the DVD and we watched it together . . . what a relief! Now DH understands where I'm coming from, and I got to review. Wish Cohen would put out a "Playful Parenting" DVD!

"Becoming the Parent You Want to Be" is great because it puts the focus on you as a parent, rather than your kid as a "problem."

[Fuamami]

I really like Anthony Wolf's "The Secret of Parenting", and I think it's a good one for dads, as Wolf's perspective as a dad really comes through. It's funny, engaging, and really the MOST anti-punishment book I've read yet, though I think it would be very easy for someone more "mainstream" to swallow.

[momileigh]

These have both been mentioned several times, but I wanted to cast my vote.

How to Talk... for practicality. Also see the other Faber and Mazlish books for more of the same stuff from different angles, Siblings Without Rivalry and How to Talk so Kids can Learn.

Unconditional Parenting... for scholarship. The DVD is a great intro.

[jessjgh1]

Originally Posted by lactivist

Living Joyfully With Kids (which is excellent).
Wendi

Wendi,
I did a search and it came up with many different (but unrelated) titles-- who is the author?

Jessica

[jessjgh1]

I looked on Audible.com and How to raise your spirited child is available.

How to talk/TEENS is also available, but not How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

I'm glad I looked because I may be able to listen to a book, I certainly have not found much time to read and have about 4 books I am currently reading/skimming through- lol.

Jessica

[hapymom]

Originally Posted by MtBikeLover

How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will talk.

I have read quite a few other books and this one is still by far my favorite. It gave so many concrete examples that it helped me implement a lot of it immediately.

Many other books can get bogged down with theory.

I agree, that is a good book!