My Mom is having second thoughts about coming

[MovingMomma]

AAAHH!

My Mom is supposed to be flying out tomorrow, and she just called to say she is having second thoughts. :

I really do understand...it's not that she doesn't want to come, she just doesn't want to leave my littlest brother (he's 4.5).

But I want my mommy here! Especially after I've been counting on her coming. :

If she doesn't come I don't think DD will be able to be here for the birth, b/c I don't really want the friend that we have watch her to be here. Is is feasible try to handle her ourselves with just DH, me, the midwife & her assistant? (We're planning a homebirth.)

This is not what I wanted to hear today.

[mojumi]

Oh, what bad timing! Could your mom bring your littlest brother with her?

I didn't have a homebirth, but our childcare didn't work out when I labored with #2, and we ended up without a careperson for ds while we were at the birthing center. Between dh, the midwife, the labor assistant, a fast labor, and a big bag of new toys, books and snacks, it all worked out just fine.

I'd think being at home would make things even easier since your dd wouldn't be out of her comfort zone and all her 'stuff' would be there already. Her backup careperson may be fine to have in the house, just let her know the bedroom or whereever you are laboring is 'off limits' except to your dd if she needs/wants to see you. But if it were me I'd probably go ahead without the unwanted careperson -- you could always call her later on if it seems like you actually do need another adult around for your dd.

Many many hugs to you! I'm so sorry you have this extra stress right now!

[MovingMomma]

Originally Posted by mojumi

Could your mom bring your littlest brother with her?

She is thinking about this right now.... Of course it will cost a lot more (his ticket would be about twice what hers was). But they do have a seat on all the same flights. She called the airline & they are holding a seat for him up to one hour before the flight leaves. All she has to do is call them & tell them if she wants it & they'll charge her card then.

Little Brother would be going on a camping/gold panning trip with Dad & several other siblings if he doesn't come with Mom, & he is excited about that & Mom thinks he understands everything well, except perhaps the length of time he will be away from Mom (12 days).

Originally Mom wanted to bring him, but I told her I'd really prefer he didn't come. DD & Little Brother get along well enough for a day or two, but then they start to get possessive/jealous/territorial, etc, and I didn't want DD (& me!) to have to deal with that along with the arrival of a new sibling. Plus sleeping arrangments would be much easier if he didn't come, etc. Mom decided that it was too expensive to bring him, anyway (at half the price it is now!) and we compromised on just her for a shorter time than we'd originally talked about.

Then her good friend left her 4.5 y/old DS for a couple of weeks (but he was also without his Dad & an older sibling who is like a 2nd mommy) and he's been having some separation anxiety since they got back. So now Mom is worried about Little Brother again. :

That is really good to hear that things worked out during labor for you w/out a specific careperson! It makes me feel better about ending up in that situation. Thanks for the support!

At least this should be resolved one way or another soon! Mom will have to decide by tonight b/c they (or she) would have to leave early tomorrow morning to catch the plane.

[MovingMomma]

She's coming! Little brother is not. Mom isn't so worried about him anymore, either. Whew!

[maciascl]

Originally Posted by MovingMomma

She's coming! Little brother is not. Mom isn't so worried about him anymore, either. Whew!

Wonderful news!!! So glad to hear it!

[dvons]

Yay!! Glad everything worked out!

Deb