|Originally posted by amarasmom
How did your dh feel about your sexuality? Did it take some time to get used to?
Is you dh bi too?
Is anyone in a poly relationship but your dh is not? How does he feel about that?
And hi Amarasmom!
My Dh knew about my choices before we dated. After getting out of a 4 year relationship with a man who thought woman-woman contact was wrong and sick, I was NOT going to date anyone who didn't support who I was (its not like I can change who I'm sexually attracted to, right?). I was actually sort of dating a woman when I met my Dh (we shared a bedroom, were intimate with each other, but we both also had boyfriends) so it was pretty obvious...
He had no problem with it. Of course he is also a man who really ah, enjoys, the idea of women interacting sexually with each other, so I'm sure that helped. But aside from how it affected him in a sexual way, he's very supportive and understanding. Like I said previously, I'm not 100% sure where we fit into things in the poly world, because we never have intimate contact with our beloved friends solo (that would be our #1 "rule" with each other)... but I have had encounters with women where Dh did not interact with either of us and he was ok with that (I'm sure in some part because he got to see the "action"), letting me enjoy that part of myself in a way we are both comfortable with (the being together part of the equation). He is totally comfortable letting me snuggle and be loving (non sexually as well as sexually) with my 'girlfriends' and doesn't take offence at any of it... so its not all a big "oooh get to watch naughty stuff" perk to him, he's accepting of all sides of how I interact with our special friends...
He himself is not bi at all. In fact, I would say he's utterly paranoid of a man trying to come onto him... so thats a little odd, but its ok... If he was bi though, I would be understanding and supportive of him as well.
The poly relationship I don't think I can really answer... since any of our other relationships aren't romantic relationships but rather close loved friends that we see *together*. So nope, I'm not in any relationship he isn't at least semi involved with (with the exception of a girlfriend in the past was at one point only sexually involved with me... but he was still present... since then my Dh and her have ah, become much closer
I hope this sounds at least halfway clear... since we don't neatly fit into poly it can be a little complicated to explain, but we're both very happy with how things work, and all of this really has helped strengthen our love, trust, and devotion with each other...