Another bi mama here. Didn't truly "come out" to myself or to dh until a year and a half ago, but I was long aware that i was attracted to women, often more so than men, for a long time.
To answer some of Arduinna's questions, even though she didn't start the thread...yeah, the whole process is really overwhelming. I wish I knew that before it happened...I would have kept a lot of those feelings within the confines of my therapist's office and out of my conversations with dh if I knew they would all change drastically as time went by. I kind of made his life into a hellish roller coaster for about a year.
None of my friends seemed at all upset by it. Some of them didn't seem at all surprised, which was interesting. A couple gave me a really squeaky "WHAT???" shriek, not in a horrified way, just a surprised way, and it was sort of fun to cause that kind of reaction. Nobody seemed worried that i was going to come on to them, though. And honestly, I think I subconsciously avoid friendships with women I find attractive. Not that my friends are ugly - just not my type!
The only person who might have been made uneasy by it was someone I became friends with BECAUSE I had a crush on her, and she's straight...she may have figured it out.
I guess I'm not fully out because many of my relatives don't know (I'm estranged from my mother, though, and my father is not living, so that solves that hurdle), and my inlaws seem to have forgotten, if that's possible.
: Well, they just sort of pretend it isn't there - I guess it isn't their issue, anyway...but a few weeks ago, my FIL made a "fairy" joke and I just LOOKED at him.
I don't bring it up with people I meet unless it comes up, and then I'll just be casual about it. It usually comes up in the context of past relationships or attractive celebrities or something like that.