bi mama roll call! - Page 5

[Raven]

I am bi and married to my dh who is totally understanding. I choose not to persue my "other" side while married b/c it would just cause complications for me emotionally. Luckily I havent felt desparate to do so. I have spoken to dh about the possibilty of things happening and he is pretty open-minded about it.

[robynberkley]

Arduinna...congrats on coming out. I'm struggling with all the emotions myself. Admitted to myself a year or so ago I'm bi, then came out to my husband 6 months ago. I love my life and my husband and I am trying to be honest with folks about who I am but I feel like I'm doing this bass ackwards...getting married, having kids THEN realizing I'm attracted to women, too! THe last year has been a jumble of emotions...sometimes bordering on being a pubescent teenager but I'm understanding ME much more now. And I have to honestly say, my therapist is a big help!

As for books...I've read Married WOmen Who Love WOmen and Lesbian Epiphanies and found both kind of depressing because they involved stories of women who came out in mid-life who usually ended up leaving their husbands. Not an option I wanted. BUt I recently picked up Bi Any Other Name...edited by Lorraine Hutchins and someone else I can't remember...and it was way more enlightening and fulfilling to read than the other two books...it was more about me and how I defined myself.

I don't get to MDC very often but anyone should feel free to PM me to chat!

[CerridwenLorelei]

I think I am --fairly sure

I was going to explore with a friend in hs ..but her little brother woke up and killed it
this post is the first time I have gone any public of any kind so I guess I have officially outed myself..
dh knew I had "leanings" when he married me.
We just recently learned about polyamoury
However I doubt I will find anothe woman willing to have a middle age often ill cranky woman in a triad or quad...

In the meantime I just shake nervously when I imagine what might happen if it ever did happen kwim??
and I live vicariously through this board

[Nicke]

Congratulations on your "outing" CerridwenLorelei!

I think we all are a little nervous at the thought of being with our first woman, or being in out first triad/quad or whatever the case may be. It is different. Not an every day thing, kwim? But I must admit it is exciting!

[CerridwenLorelei]

nicke

thanks
I was very scared to do this but did it

Exciting ? Maybe more if I thought there would ever really be a chance lol

[Duce62]

hello,

i am new here.

i am bisexual, going through a divorce from my dh.
i think that the human body is beautiful , why limit yourself when you feel otherwise kwim?

[Iona]

I've had two experiences with a woman and have since considered myself bi not only b/c of the experiences but b/c since I've been attracted to women. I have not came out to my family but my fiance is well aware. My experiences were with a woman he and I both knew only months before he and I got together. He is straight but is completely open to my bisexulity. Yet sometimes I think thats only b/c he hopes to have a threesome someday.

[HappyHippieMommy]

Hi all.

I am a new member here, but I am a proud BI mommy.
I 'lean' more towards women, but am married to a man. lol
well..just wanted to say "HI"

[Nicke]

Hi Jenn

Thanks for sharing with us and welcome to the boards!

[HappyHippieMommy]

Originally posted by Nicke
Hi Jenn

Thanks for sharing with us and welcome to the boards!

Thanks so much.

[Duce62]

wow! another jen, LOL

nice to "meet you!"

[mamamarieke]

Hi all. I was invited to come hang out here where all the action is, but I'm not bi! Is that okay? I'm a new dyke mama to a beautiful 16 day old boy.

[LunaMom]

Another bi mama here. Didn't truly "come out" to myself or to dh until a year and a half ago, but I was long aware that i was attracted to women, often more so than men, for a long time.

To answer some of Arduinna's questions, even though she didn't start the thread...yeah, the whole process is really overwhelming. I wish I knew that before it happened...I would have kept a lot of those feelings within the confines of my therapist's office and out of my conversations with dh if I knew they would all change drastically as time went by. I kind of made his life into a hellish roller coaster for about a year.

None of my friends seemed at all upset by it. Some of them didn't seem at all surprised, which was interesting. A couple gave me a really squeaky "WHAT???" shriek, not in a horrified way, just a surprised way, and it was sort of fun to cause that kind of reaction. Nobody seemed worried that i was going to come on to them, though. And honestly, I think I subconsciously avoid friendships with women I find attractive. Not that my friends are ugly - just not my type! The only person who might have been made uneasy by it was someone I became friends with BECAUSE I had a crush on her, and she's straight...she may have figured it out.

I guess I'm not fully out because many of my relatives don't know (I'm estranged from my mother, though, and my father is not living, so that solves that hurdle), and my inlaws seem to have forgotten, if that's possible. : Well, they just sort of pretend it isn't there - I guess it isn't their issue, anyway...but a few weeks ago, my FIL made a "fairy" joke and I just LOOKED at him. :

I don't bring it up with people I meet unless it comes up, and then I'll just be casual about it. It usually comes up in the context of past relationships or attractive celebrities or something like that.

[darkpear]

Wow, am I glad I found this thread

I've been attracted to both genders for as long as I can recall. I've never had a serious relationship with a woman though; I just tend to relate better to guys. Perhaps it's because I've always been a tomboy. I never had any interest in dolls but would build huge elaborate Lego space stations, when I wasn't climbing trees, or playing video games, or reading SF. I don't shave my legs and I wear men's clothes a lot - they're comfy, last longer, and the sizing is much more consistent In spite of all that, I'm finding myself very happy in the role of a full-time mommy.

DP is bi also, which is nice because he doesn't have the same assumptions that a lot of straight guys seem to. Some of them honestly seem to think that dating a bi girl = automatic threesomes for them :

We do run into a lot of silly assumptions still though. I'll tell people (when they ask - I don't bring it up myself, but I don't hide my sexuality either) that I am a bi woman involved with a bi guy, and they'll tell me "Oh, so you're both straight now." Umm, no...

[Nicke]

Hi LunaMom and darkpear

Welcome to the thread!

[Mama Katrina]

Hi! I am "in the closet" bi I just rather not have another issue that brings heated arguments to family outside the family that lives in this house. I've never met a woman that I could be with yet, but dh is open for me to seach for one So I guess in a way we are also sort of poly (still new to that term).

[Indigo73]

"Oh, so you're both straight now." Umm, no...

Don't you just love that. LOL - I have had that said to me too.

[alsoSarah]

Hey,

Somehow I stopped getting notified of new posts to threads, so I've missed a lot of posts here...

Hey to all you mamas-- wondering how you're doing.

I'm glad to see so many new mamas joining us here on the thread.
Welcome!

peace,
alsoSarah

[grrrlmom]

lesbian mama

Lesbian mama here.
(With the exception of my ex {my sons sperm donor} who just dressed like a girl and acted like a girl.) So I guess I was temporarily bi for the two years that I was with him? Though I've never really been attracted to guys at all.

[sadie_sabot]

Hi, another bi with a guy here. I love love love my dp but am more and more finding the idea of hooking up with other men kind of...ewww. (we're also poly) i think that future relationships will likely be with women.

But sheesh, who has time???? I barely have time to do much with dp!

maybe when dd gets older...maybe I'll meet a nice bi momma at some play group or something