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post #21 of 65
my grandmother loves to tell about an extended breastfeeder at her church whos child was a shirt tugger. i think the child was about 3.
post #22 of 65
one thing that has me a bit dismayed is that I WISH that it would be socially acceptable for my ds to nurse in public like this. He's 4 1/2 years old.

and this thread is a bit depressing, bc I am getting the feeling that even here at MDC, an older child nursing in public is a great novelty.
post #23 of 65
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Originally Posted by UrbanPlanter
one thing that has me a bit dismayed is that I WISH that it would be socially acceptable for my ds to nurse in public like this. He's 4 1/2 years old.

and this thread is a bit depressing, bc I am getting the feeling that even here at MDC, an older child nursing in public is a great novelty.
I feel ya.
post #24 of 65
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post #25 of 65
My 2.25 year old will pull at my shirt & say milk at home or in public if tired or sad... It would be nice to see more children, 3 yrs, 4 yrs, 5 yr olds asking for milk at our local playplaces... but I think in reality children live in our harsh world & by age 5 they can see people staring & whispering... & are affected by that... I dream of my son being able to ask for milk (even in public) in the next few years... I hope the world doesn't have too much affect on him (or me!)...
post #26 of 65
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Originally Posted by doriansmummy
My son is 4, and he did not nurse in public after 1.5-2 years.
He was just too busy. If you dont want your kiddo to nurse in publc you just set limits....
I think it depends on the kid. My 2.5 year old ds would break down into heart broken sobs and feel deeply hurt if I tried to keep him from nursing in public. The couple of times we have been out and I wore clothes that made my breasts inaccessible, he understood, but was very, very sad, and eventually broke down into tears. He wasn't trying to manipulate me. It just hurt him. So, I have decided that he needs to be allowed to nurse in public still, just as he needed it as an infant.
post #27 of 65
my DD has no problem with shirt diving anywhere it comes across her mind at ... so i would say no its not an urban legend but also my dd is only 3 (well in a month) ...
post #28 of 65
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Originally Posted by doriansmummy
If you dont want your kiddo to nurse in publc you just set limits....
I have to agree .... this would never fly with dd. She would freak right out start screaming MOMMY MILKS and that would be that ...
post #29 of 65
My 3 yo still nurses in public, and pretty much walks over and starts to pull my shirt up. 99% of the time I'll pull her into my lap and nurse her regardless of where we are or who is around. Strangers, company, loud noises or places will all trigger a lot of anxiety for her, so she often wants to nurse more when we're out than when we're at home. I do what makes her feel comfortable and loved. Urban legend? Seems a bit odd to read this at MDC. .. especially in the CLW forum..:
post #30 of 65
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by WitchyMama2
Urban legend? Seems a bit odd to read this at MDC. .. especially in the CLW forum..:
LOL I didn't mean that NIP was an urban legend just that SO many people had run into them since I personally NEVER see toddlers nursing in public. I didn't mean to offend anyone I just was curious if most women with 5 yo nurslings nursed in public.
post #31 of 65
I think people retell stories like this because they believe it will have shock value to the listener. Wouldn't it be great if when people heard one of these stories, they didn't bat and eye and responded with, "So?"
post #32 of 65
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by WitchyMama2
I think people retell stories like this because they believe it will have shock value to the listener. Wouldn't it be great if when people heard one of these stories, they didn't bat and eye and responded with, "So?"


I am glad I asked though because it was nice to hear that there are still women who NIP a toddler. I will nurse Marah Jade at the park or the lake but she doesn't ask if we are at Target or something.
post #33 of 65
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Originally Posted by lyttlewon


I am glad I asked though because it was nice to hear that there are still women who NIP a toddler. I will nurse Marah Jade at the park or the lake but she doesn't ask if we are at Target or something.
I'd actually enjoy shopping without my 3 yo asking to nurse. Do you even know how hard it is to push a cart while leaning forward to nurse your toddler who is sitting in the cart?
post #34 of 65
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by WitchyMama2
I'd actually enjoy shopping without my 3 yo asking to nurse. Do you even know how hard it is to push a cart while leaning forward to nurse your toddler who is sitting in the cart?
I can totally picture it.
post #35 of 65
Maybe the story implies that the child just lifts the shirt and starts in because the observer doesn't catch the discussion and is surprised by the child helping to hold mom's shirt.

My daughter still nurses in public at 3years 10months. I ask her to wait in some situations (we don't nurse at the grocery store, cause there's nowhere to sit and it never occured to me to lean over the cart. Sounds uncomfortable.) I think strangers may not know what she's asking for though, (she says "nupping?") so the first they know that she's asked is me fiddling with my clothes and her latching on. I've seen plenty of 2 and 3 year olds nurse in public and one 4 year old I can think of. It depends on where you are I think, how private people keep the nursing.

You set the tone when the child is still an infant. Do you go to a sheltered corner to nurse? Then the child grows up thinking nursing should happen somewhere quiet and a bit private. If you just nurse them in the spot you where when you noticed they were hungry they learn to nurse anywhere.
post #36 of 65
My son will be 4 in January and he TRIES to get into my shirt all the time, but I have imposed limits (you have to have my permission to nurse being the main one!) 6 mos. ago he was still nursing a dozen or so times a day and NIP often... I can't remember the last time he NIP now. It's weird how much has changed in such a short time, when he was such an avid nurser for 3+ years.
Anyway, I could totally see him doing that, if I was distracted (he likes to try to nurse when I am on the phone).
post #37 of 65
My son is 4.5 and he would never just yank my shirt up let alone ask to NIP. He is far too busy for that. NIP is extremely rare here. I've only seen it 3 times since DS was born and that was with newborns. And one of those times the woman had two men stand in front of her holding up blankets! I wanted to walk over and say 'oh honey you're just making people stare at you'.


When my son was 4 months my grandmother heard that he was nursing and she told me to make sure I wean him early because 'the neighbor boy would fight his mother out into the street for it and he was 5!' I wonder, how in the world did she know her neighbor was nursing? Did she do it out on the lawn? Probably not. I bet it was just neighborhood gossip.
post #38 of 65
I was waiting on a table once and the mom was sitting in a booth and the kid was tall enough to be standing on the floor nursing next to mom. mom was not hunched over. she just kept chatting. At the time I was probably 18 or so and it was weird to see but now I would be proud of that mom.
post #39 of 65
My 4yr DD has never flipped my shirt up in public to nurse. Yes, she is a clown and will find out the person that she thinks wouldn't like to see an older child En and will reach down my shirt and loudly ask to nurse but you would have to know her to understand her.

She also doesn't stand up and nurse even though the icon in my siggy is cute. She lies down and snuggles with me during that time.
post #40 of 65
my 4 year old always hides her face under my shirt. as clowning while outside. esp. if i am talking to someone and not paying her attention. and while there if she spots a naked boobie she will take a couple of quick nursing. this only happens during naptime. so it clues me in that she is tired.

i guess she does that because i still NIP.
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