I can so identify!!! My first partner, who said it would all be great and who couldn't wait to have a baby, went nutso when we actually got pregnant (we were 19) I left him during the pregnancy but took him back a month before the birth. He was okay in that selfish kinda way, for a few months, then things got really nasty. I gave him the boot when DD was 6 months and it was the BEST thing I ever did for her and me!!
I remeber that feeling of dispare. I remeber jumping when the phone rang or someone knocked at the door. I remeber hoping it would be him, that he somehow would have changed and realized what a huge mistake he was making. That he somehow found the place in him that wanted to be a father and husband.
I wish there were someway to ease your pain right now. His timing could not be worse!!
I'm so glad your friend is coming to be with you. Try to focus on yourself and your baby. Regardless of what he does this is your baby, you are the mother....or as I like to say MAMA BEAR....grrr watchout Mr. or she'll go mama bear on ya!!!!! Oh, I just want to smack him!!!!! Don't allow his insecurity to comprimise your birthing or bonding time with your sweet child. You can do this without him!!!!! And if he's the kinda guy to pull a stunt like this then you are better off without him!!
Much love to you dear mama, and sweet baby. You are in our thoughts and prayers!