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nervous, not in the right mind set? second homebirth! I need support mama's! :)  

post #1 of 15
9/14/06 at 4:40pm
Thread Starter 
Hi mama's
I'm currently 33 weeks pregnant with blessing #3. My first son was born via c-section. (I was young, had a horrible OB and 'failure to progress')

My second son was born at home after a long 25+ hour labor. It was such a healing experience and a real journey. I would NEVER birth any other way then at home.

Now that I'm pregnant again I'm starting to get nervous. I know I have done it once so I can again right? I feel so not in the birthing mind set, if that makes sense. (we've just moved, the house is : my youngest is only 15 months... etc...) somedays I feel so empowered and excited and others I'm honestly terrified. I need some encouragement or something?

THANKS MAMAS
post #2 of 15
9/14/06 at 4:55pm
wow, i practically could have written your post. i feel much the same way. i don't know what the deal is. this pregnancy has flown by, while my others seemed to take forever. maybe that's it, i don't know. i'm suddenly worried about things i never even though about last time, child care for the birth, the possibility of transfer, we moved in may and my house is still a wreck, it seems like the mess just keeps moving from room to room. i know everything will work out, and i'm not usually a worrier, so who knows why i'm eeling like this.
post #3 of 15
9/14/06 at 5:05pm
I had a terrible first experience and have had two beautiful home births since. One thing I find really calming is meditation. My mom is a midwife and had a copy of The pocket midwife, which she gave to me. I found it really, really helpful and a beautiful way to try and get out of my own way. KWIM? Anyway, here's the link http://www.pocketmidwife.com/
post #4 of 15
9/14/06 at 5:12pm
This will be my 4th homebirth (8th baby) and I am still nervous about it. Not about it being a homebirth, but rather just birth in general. I think it is normal to be somewhat hesitant about labor and birth, for me it really HURTS. When you know something is going to be a lot of work and a bit painful you get a bit nervous, even if you KNOW something wonderful and good is going to come of it. KWIM?

I have talked to my mw about it and she always assures me that I will do great like I always do. But still...I am nervous and even a bit scared. Once labor hits I forget about it all and concentrate on the work ahead, and my mw has always been right, I get through it and I am always so much happier in the fact that I did it all on my OWN!

YOU CAN DO IT MAMA!!

Kasey
post #5 of 15
9/14/06 at 9:03pm
You are an informed and brave mama. Your body is strong and capable and knows exactly what to do. No matter how hectic life is, how messy a house is, or how worried we are birth remains a normal and magical event. Growing inside your belly is a lucky child. Lucky to have a mama loving and confident enough to birth in the most gentle way possible even if she is a little scared. I wish you a beautiful birth and a thriving new babe.
post #6 of 15
9/15/06 at 8:41am

Not sure I'm much help but I'm right with ya!

Hey there! I think you have already helped me without knowing it. I am just a week behind you, due middle Nov. with my #3 but this is my 1st homebirth. I am so excited, I guess I'm not in reality huh? Well we just had a huge placenta abruption scare that ended up being something else so I am so thankful to be planning homebirth again. Anyway, I'm positive your scared feelings will again change to cofidence. Wish I had your experience under my belt but I will next time if all goes well. Thanks for your help......Monica
post #7 of 15
9/15/06 at 12:12pm
Do you have Ina Mays Guide to Childbirth?

Nothing empowered me more than reading birth stories and watching as many birth videos as I could!
post #8 of 15
9/16/06 at 8:40pm
Thread Starter 
oh mama's THANK YOU!!!!!!!!
seriously you have no idea how much ALL of you helped.
I know I can do this...

mbhf I'm glad I'm not alone I have wondered if it flying by has to do with it, its like all of the sudden I'm 33 weeks? WHAT?! My house will come together... in time

MotheringHeart Firstly how awesome that your mom is a midwife! COOL! I'm going to check out that website! THANKS!

7kiddosmom This post REALLY helped me... Labor REALLY hurts, a different kind of pain but still pain!! You really made me feel better about everything though to know I'm not alone. Thanks mama and I know you will do great!

septmommy awwwww you almost main me cry, pregnancy hormones thanks a lot!

MonicaInMichigan how exciting your first homebirth!! I'm glad I helped in some way sorry though you are going through the same thing. I can promise you this though, you will feel totally empowered after your beautiful homebirth!

anothermama I have read it but obviously need to get it out again
Thanks mama!
post #9 of 15
9/17/06 at 12:18am
I could have seriously written your post. For some reason I'm kind of nervous about this labor and birth. My last labor was really fast but so intense and I'm not looking forward to that feeling again. Plus, we've had some other stuff ging on around here that's adding to my anxiety. I've been trying to read as many birthing books. Birthing From Within is being read right now. I think I may start Spiritual Midwifery next. I'm also been reading my Complete Mother issues for birth stories. I htink I just need to get myself in the right mindset. I've been so preoccupied, I haven't prepared myself. But I do know that we can do it no problem.
post #10 of 15
9/19/06 at 6:44pm
I'm right there with you, I'm 20 weeks along, we just moved about a month ago, we're in an apartment that we seem to be overflowing, and I just don't feel at all ready to be as pregnant as I am. DD is 22 months right now and requiring all my attention, and my husband is so tired when he comes home every night.

Normally, I'm a big list maker, and organize myself that way. Lately, though, I can't do that, because just seeing how MANY tasks I have to do overwhelms me. I'm thinking about just giving DH a master list, and having him decide on daily tasks for us, so I don't ever have to see EVERYTHING listed all at once again, just take it one day at a time.

At least it's gorgeous outside today in Austin, and it's supposed to be again. That does help me a lot. Reminds me to just take it one day at a time and that no task or crisis is all that bad when you put it into perspective.
post #11 of 15
9/20/06 at 10:43pm
And I'm pretty much in the same boat!! I'm pregnant with my 3rd, the first 2 were born at home and this one will be as well. I'm not really nervous about the HOME birth part of it, just the BIRTH part of it!! It sounds like this is pretty normal....I mean, birth is such an incredible, life changing event, it makes sense to have some apprehension. At least, that's what I keep telling myself! I too feel like this pregnancy has flown by, and here I am at 32 weeks, and am I really ready to have this baby??!! I know that thinking about this upcoming birth is bringing up stuff from the last 2 births. Which is good, so I can process it - BUT I have to actually take the time to do that. I definitely want to learn from my past experiences and take that wisdom into this experience.

Anyway, here's to gathering our wits about us before labor starts!
post #12 of 15
9/21/06 at 11:18am

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Amanda,
I'm glad I'm not the only one who is nervous. I'm nervous about birthing again in general but would be 500 times more nervous in the hospital. So I'm excited that we're just about positive we're going to do this! Yay!

I have that book by Ina May, my sister sent it if you want to read through it again.
I checked out a bunch from Norfolk library that are due next week. If you want, maybe we can go there that day, I'll check them in, you can check them out, and we can let the kids play in the huge play area there!

I'd love to help you get your house ready. I know how you feel with boxes and mess around. It will feel so good to look around at a clear area.

How about just focusing on ONE room--your bedroom. Or whichever room it is you plan on birthing your sweet babe.

I can't wait till your baby comes and mine too. This is so cool that they are going to be so close together.

You can do this. Remember, you've got to show me the ropes of homebirth. I know you can do it and me too!
Erica
post #13 of 15
9/21/06 at 12:58pm
Reading "Birthing From Within" helped me near the end when I started to get nervous.
post #14 of 15
9/23/06 at 3:34pm
Like the pps said, it's so normal to be nervous.

Would it help you to rehash your previous homebirth? I find that wnever I get discouraged, I think of my homebirth and it helps me to find my strength. I too would never have a baby anywhere but at home, and what a gift you are giving this baby to come!

Your body is the product of perfect design, and you know how to birth your baby!
post #15 of 15
9/23/06 at 4:23pm
You're soooo not alone.

This will be my second homebirth and I am a HUGE advocate for birth, especially HB. My mother is a hHB midwife for goodness sake.

That said, YES I am totally getting nervous. I have possibly less than a month to go!! OMG--- you kiddin'? I'm starting to freak for sure. Gotta keep busy, gotta keep busy
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