Sarah, I did not stay in the house with my preemie past his due date (the hospital said to stay in for 6 weeks after we came home, and that ended up being right before his due date), BUT... if I had a preemie with your daughter's health situation, I'd probably stay in for the winter, with maybe the exception of going to individual people's houses who aren't sick. It is a tough call, and you really have to assess the health of your own child before making that decision, kwim? My son was ok, but he also was breathing completely on his own the day after his birth, so while his lungs were immature and he was given surfectant, he didn't need breathing help during his 4 week NICU stay, except for about the first 18ish hours. That can make a huge difference. In my son's case, I took him out, but kept him in a sling with the fabric over his head so people couldn't come up and touch him without my permission (yes, people do this ALL the time at places like Walmart and such
, and I didn't let people hold him at church for the first few months.
If I'd been in your position though, I'd have likely been alot more careful about going out. Yes, it will be a LOOOOOONG winter for you.
I know I was about to claw my eyes out during the 6 weeks that I stayed in! Just make sure DH lets you go shopping and other stuff as much as possible, so you can get out and about. That's where the ability to take a bottle actually came in handy with DS (he was 100% at the breast when he came home, and was still able to take a bottle whenever necessary - I got lucky).