Mt dd does things. She writes on walls and cuts thing obsessively. She has little control and has tantrums that freighten me. She would rather break something she loves by fighting over it than asking me for help. She lies about everything even if there is no chance or any consequences ("Have you seen Lily's car? I can't find it" when it is in the toy box where she was just getting stuff and she knows its there) It is like she incapable of telling the truth. When she does something wrong she is completely remorseless. My friend told me the other day hen they were together she pushed a child and when my friend went ot handle the situation madeline said" Well I had to do it" all nonchalant like "what did you expect. She deserved it . no big deal.
I have talked to several people and we know she has issues with attatchment and sensrooy issues all stemming from her stay in e NICU as a babay. And it is getting to the point where I resent having a child like this and he sister is starting to imitate her. Which really concerns me. I am so tired and dso much in survival mode and just dealing with what is happen i haven't gpot a clue how to be premptive. I also don't want her to feel oike I hate her (which she already truely believes) and that I am always coming down on her or that I love her siblings more. It is just easier to feel close to them because they are so effectionate and want to be my friend. they aren't always working against me. Sorry wandering from the topic.
I think the time has long come for professional help. I hate the mother I am becoming. this is not how I envisioned things. I have ebven gotton over the guilt, feelings of failure and inadequacy. I don't care if this is my fault anymore. My shame etc. . .can't stand in the way of us getting past this. Whether I caused this or not it needs to be fixed and I obviously haven't got what it takes to fix this. the problem is dh says absolutely ot. If I were just more organized and provided a more stable home environment
Well maybe if he was ever home! I swear he is never here. ever. I say if he isn't going to be home to help I should get to handle these things my way and my way is finding someone who can deal with her issues without my emotional baggage.,
Ok enough ranting and whining. Where does a girl even begin to look for help? Ho do i talk to dd about getting her help without making her feel llike a freak (or is that just my baggage). Does insurance usually cover this? what about dh? Internet resources? I am just so over whelmed by how she is I hardly have any strength to move forward to solve these problems. they just seem so big and so unsolvable and it all seems so late in the game. we should have addressed this when she was 4 not waited until she was 6 1/2 and everything is escalating.
Anyhelp anyone has to offer would be greatly appreciated.
I have talked to several people and we know she has issues with attatchment and sensrooy issues all stemming from her stay in e NICU as a babay. And it is getting to the point where I resent having a child like this and he sister is starting to imitate her. Which really concerns me. I am so tired and dso much in survival mode and just dealing with what is happen i haven't gpot a clue how to be premptive. I also don't want her to feel oike I hate her (which she already truely believes) and that I am always coming down on her or that I love her siblings more. It is just easier to feel close to them because they are so effectionate and want to be my friend. they aren't always working against me. Sorry wandering from the topic.
I think the time has long come for professional help. I hate the mother I am becoming. this is not how I envisioned things. I have ebven gotton over the guilt, feelings of failure and inadequacy. I don't care if this is my fault anymore. My shame etc. . .can't stand in the way of us getting past this. Whether I caused this or not it needs to be fixed and I obviously haven't got what it takes to fix this. the problem is dh says absolutely ot. If I were just more organized and provided a more stable home environment
Well maybe if he was ever home! I swear he is never here. ever. I say if he isn't going to be home to help I should get to handle these things my way and my way is finding someone who can deal with her issues without my emotional baggage.,Ok enough ranting and whining. Where does a girl even begin to look for help? Ho do i talk to dd about getting her help without making her feel llike a freak (or is that just my baggage). Does insurance usually cover this? what about dh? Internet resources? I am just so over whelmed by how she is I hardly have any strength to move forward to solve these problems. they just seem so big and so unsolvable and it all seems so late in the game. we should have addressed this when she was 4 not waited until she was 6 1/2 and everything is escalating.
Anyhelp anyone has to offer would be greatly appreciated.
but how could I send her off to school why the other two kids were home all day enjoying a love fest. It would never escape her attention. i would totally feel like I was blowing her off. Thanks for the supprt. I have a friend who is a counselor that works speciafically with kids who have attatchment problems and the such and we have talked to her a bit. I would love it if I could get in with her but then it is sorta wierd working with someone you know.
