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post #1 of 34
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Today I was cleaning out baby stuff and getting stuff ready to give away, and I came across a bag with remnants from my first baby shower, 4 years ago. Guess what I found in there??

A copy of the Pearls' "To Train Up A Child" :Puke just reading the back of it is making me shake. The fact that it is IN my HOUSE is making me feel sick. What do I even do with it- I don't even want to throw it in the trash for fear a trash collector or someone working at the landfill might see it and read it! I think I will have to put it in the fireplace and burn it. I remember recieving it as a gift but never had the time to read it before I had the baby.

And, in this little book where everyone wrote little bits of wisdom for raising a baby, the same woman who gave me the Pearls book, wrote this whole long thing saying that the best thing we can do for our children is to train them to sleep on their own, and if they've eaten within a 'reasonable' amount of time to lay them down and just pray. And she highly recommended Babywise.

And, another woman who had a 1 month old baby at the time of my shower, also wrote that she highly recommended babywise and said it was a wonderful resource for nursing families, and I should start reading it now so I'm ready to do the plan when the baby comes. I can only hope that she saw the light soon after that and did not continue to follow the plan!
post #2 of 34
Blech!!!! Someone posted the entire book online and I was shocked by some of the tales of child abuse in there! There is this one incident that Debi was talking about in which a child came up and hit her, she hit him back, and they kept going on and on like this until the kid finally gave up! Seriously! :
post #3 of 34
Ulch, how horrible to suddenly come face to face with that! I say have a good cathartic purging by burning it or ripping it up!
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post #5 of 34
I must be hormonal. I read the phrase, "lay them down and just pray" and burst into tears for those babies.

I'm not a book burning advocate, but that one would get torched.
post #6 of 34
The story of the mom beating her child until he gave up made me want to cry. That makes me so sick. You should ceremoniously burn it.
post #7 of 34
I love consignment shopping and I come across both of these books occasionally. I always buy them and bring them home and destroy them!
post #8 of 34
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Originally Posted by moonfirefaery View Post
The story of the mom beating her child until he gave up made me want to cry. That makes me so sick. You should ceremoniously burn it.
It wasn't even HER child! She was teaching another mother how to break her child's spirit. :
post #9 of 34
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Originally Posted by PuppyFluffer View Post
I love consignment shopping and I come across both of these books occasionally. I always buy them and bring them home and destroy them!
Same here !!!
post #10 of 34
That is disgusting. Why would you want to break your child's spirit? My son has a beautiful, unique, independant, strong spirit. I am pleased that he was blessed with such a will. While it may be hard for me to 'control' him (who cares? Parenthood is about guidance, not control!) it will be that much harder for OTHERS, like peers, to control him later. My son's strong spirit is a GIFT that will protect him in life! Why would I want to break that?! Just to save myself some time or frustration running after him or gluing together broken knickknacks? I'd rather pull him out of a cabinet six times a day than try to break him of pot use!!!
post #11 of 34
I haven't read that book but my aunt bought me The Baby Whisperer and I was so sorry she didn't include the receipt. I should have put it in my camping box as kindling if I was really thinking.
post #12 of 34
:Puke
post #13 of 34
My heart does break over the "lay them down and pray" :
post #14 of 34
BURN IT!!! seriously...

love and peace.
post #15 of 34
I agree. Torch it. The Pearls bring out the worst in me. Just thinking about all of the child abuse perpetrated under their guidance makes me
post #16 of 34
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Originally Posted by minkajane View Post
It wasn't even HER child! She was teaching another mother how to break her child's spirit. :
Well, now I am curious! Just what is this book about? Maybe I was seriously off base to compare it to the Babywhisperer!
post #17 of 34
Yuck!! I'd want to hurl too!

Someone I didn't really know gave me the Baby Wise book when my DS was born. I read it out of curiosity and then got rid of it. I don't think I could stomach even trying to read the Pearll's book though.
post #18 of 34
Here is the entire book. I read it and noticed that for the rest of that day, I had less patience with DS and I was a bit harsher with him - just from reading it! I would recommend doing something to cleanse your spirit both before and after reading - whether it be a prayer, a meditation, a ritual, whatever. You WILL need it!

I do think it's important to read this book, however. How can we argue against something we have never read? We need to know exactly what it says so we can tell people exactly what's wrong with it.
post #19 of 34
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THROWING A FIT TEMPER TANTRUMS

My nine- and eleven-year-old daughters came in from a neighbor's house complaining of a young mother's failure to train her child. A seven-month-old boy had, upon failing to get his way, stiffened, clenched his fists, bared his toothless gums and called down damnation on the whole place. At a time like that, the angry expression on a baby's face can resemble that of one instigating a riot. The young mother, wanting to do the right thing, stood there in helpless consternation, apologetically shrugged her shoulders and said, "What can I do?" My incredulous nine-year-old whipped back, "Switch him." The mother responded, "I can't, he's too little." With the wisdom of a veteran who had been on the little end of the switch, my daughter answered, "If he is old enough to pitch a fit, he is old enough to be spanked."
Switch a seven-month-old baby?! What is WRONG with these people?
post #20 of 34

I think I'm going to hurl

I just read a bit of that book---is it for real???!!! Good God--how horrible!!!
The quote below made me feel like crying, throwing up, and screaming all in one moment!!!

"Somehow, after eight or ten licks, the poison is transformed into gushing love and contentment. The world becomes a beautiful place."

When was this published??????
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