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Originally Posted by ACsMom  A friend of mine, who is pretty down with AP, recently recommended this book to me.
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Same with me, when I was a new mom, so I took their advice and bought the book figuring it was something that would work with cosleeping breastfeeding AP tyhpes. Also because my husband was stressed out by the sleeping situation. Definitely not a good idea, not a loving way of doing things as far as I am concerned. He did allow you to rock your child or nurse her to sleep, but then you were supposed to move her to the crib and leave her there, not going back at intervals to soothe as you might with Ferber. So it is true CIO which can be damaging. Children have different personalities and there are some you can just lay down in a crib or on a bed and they will fall asleep. And there are some for whom that will never work.
I tried to figure out why my friends liked it, and when I think back on their recommendation, it was that they liked understanding how much and why their kids need sleep. I think feeling like you are doing something for their good, even if they don't like it and cry, makes it easier to go through with it, but I think it differs from tantruming situations where you don't want to give in and let them have whatever they want. I tried it for awhile, and I feel that it hurt my child and our relationship. I would nurse my daughter to sleep in my bed and then move her into the crib. Sometimes she would stay awake and sometimes not, but she usually woke up after being placed in the crib. She would cry until she vomited sometimes. I stopped doing it once she vomited into the crib as I was lifting her into it.
