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post #41 of 528
Frog somehow I'd thought that you and Turtle already had a tadpole. I'm getting you confused with another lady I know online where it's her turn to have the baby because her partner had their son.

Sigh, it sooo was the plan to get our lives together before having kids, but instead we totally wasted like 4 years in stupid jobs. Seriously, I wish someone had told me years ago that if you're going to put off having children until after you graduate you should apply for school.
post #42 of 528
: Popping my head in to say that I am a planner/anal retentive control freak type too, and ttc#1 was just maddening for me. Know when I finally conceived? When I said "eff it" and just decided to chuck the opks and all that body awareness stuff. Irony of ironies.

I feel your pain ladies, I remember those feelings all too well.
post #43 of 528
http://fernandfaerie.com/frugaldiapering.html
How to sew diapers.

http://www.thenappylady.co.uk/Advice...onID=2&index=0
How to fold the diapers when you've sewn them.

http://www.diaperfreebaby.org/
How to use fewer diapers.
post #44 of 528
Thanks for the links, Sapphire chan!

Finch - I wish I could do that. But even if I stopped temping, I'd still be looking for CF and obsessively counting the days. A sort of hinted to a friend that was are ttc recently (I haven't told anyone). She asked if we had just stopped preventing, and I said well, since I know when I'm O'ing, that's not really possible. The main thing is, I want to know when I ovulate so that I really know what the EDD is. I keep hearing friends say how 'they' switched her due date a couple times....I don't want to give them the benefit of the doubt.
post #45 of 528
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A sort of hinted to a friend that was are ttc recently (I haven't told anyone). She asked if we had just stopped preventing, and I said well, since I know when I'm O'ing, that's not really possible. The main thing is, I want to know when I ovulate so that I really know what the EDD is. I keep hearing friends say how 'they' switched her due date a couple times....I don't want to give them the benefit of the doubt.
I want to be able to figure out my own EDD too. I don't want to have to rely on "them."

We were planning on not telling anyone about TTC. So much for that. Pretty much everyone we know knows now. We just can't seem to keep our mouths shut. We're just too excited. I'm starting to regret sharing our secret though, because now we're getting all these (well-meaning) questions, about if we're pg.
post #46 of 528
We've only told families and that was because of wanting help with childcare if I end up being a student mama.
post #47 of 528
........another ttc for #1......though this cycle and next I'm supposed to be off!!

We tried 2 cycles....ummm.....4 and half months that is. : .......however, I've this feeling...well not feeling there are reasons...I don't kow how to say it, it seems really werid...I might have conceived last cycle but didn't implant and I got my AF at 7 dpo. But I am not sure if that's even possible.....!!!

In the begining I was so stressed out but now..........relaxed......!!!
post #48 of 528
DH and I have told my parents that we're TTC and I've told only some really close friends. We haven't told his parents yet. I think that we'll tell them after we move if we're pregnant if we are by that time. I don't want the stress of my MIL telling my DH that we're being irresponsible since he left his job to get the house ready for sale with me. My parents are very supportive since they've done a similar thing and they live like champs now. All I know with using FAM to get pregnant, I have two friends who have done it and it has worked very well for them. I mean I had one friend who had really irregular periods and they were trying for months to get PG and it just didn't work until they used FAM. They used it for the second pregnancy and they got PG on the first try. My other girlfriend had the same results. They were PG within 6 months of starting and have two little girls thanks to that method. I also want to know my due date because I don't trust "them" to give me an accurate date so I'll definitely fudge my LMP dates to accomodate the average unless I actually O on day 14 the month we conceive. Sorry so long...
post #49 of 528
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so I'll definitely fudge my LMP dates to accomodate the average unless I actually O on day 14 the month we conceive. Sorry so long...
I'm going to do this too if for some reason I have to have the baby in a hospital or for health insurance purposes. We're changing insurances right now, so if I got pg this cycle the start of my lmp would be before the new insurance starts, but the actual conception date would be after the new insurance started. : Sorry if that makes no sense. I don't really get it either. All I'm saying is I'm willing to lie too!
post #50 of 528
I know many of you from the Not Mamas...Yet Tribe and the One Thread, but I'll introduce myself again for those I haven't met before. I'm 32 and DH is 42, and like everyone else in this tribe, we are trying to conceive our first baby. We have been married 3 1/2 years -- first marriage for DH and second marriage for me and neither of us have any children from previous relationships. Our baby will be the 1st grandchild on my side of the family, but DH's brother already has a couple of dds, prompting my MIL to tell me I have to have boys! I'm 4dpo today, and this is our 5th cycle trying and off BCP.

Pretty much everyone we know knows we are ttc, except for DH's parents. We know a LOT of people who are pregnant or have recently had children. Tonight I am going to a childbirth class for the first time. One of our friends is pregnant with twins! Her husband is going to be out of town for work, so she called me and asked if I would be interested in going to her childbirth class with her since she knew we are ttc. Of course I said YES!

For a long time, I refused to buy any baby stuff because I felt like it was too much living in the future. However, I have recently changed my mind because I began to feel like I was totally bottling myself up and not allowing myself to act on what I really want. So I have ordered 2 slings and a whole stack of prefolds from a couple of co-ops here on MDC.

Both of the co-ops are still open. (In order to access the links, you need to have been on MDC for 60 days and have 50 posts):

Prefolds: http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=526300
Slings: http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=515254

I'm not going to buy any baby clothes because 1) I expect to get many at baby showers, 2) I live in Florida and, especially since at this point I'll have a summer baby, I see no point in dressing a baby in anything other than a diaper and maybe a onesie, especially when slinging, and 3) I LOVE garage sales and know I can pick up pretty much whatever I want for clothes any time at $1/item or less.

My new strategy is to start spending a little bit of money every month to purchase some baby items. Since I intend to be a SAHM, I see this as a way to spread out the costs of a baby and bearing those costs while I have the most income. I'm going to focus on items which are least likely for me to receive at a baby shower, especially since pretty much no one I know irl is crunchy!

So this post has turned out to be a book, and it's time for me to get ready to leave for work!
post #51 of 528
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My new strategy is to start spending a little bit of money every month to purchase some baby items. Since I intend to be a SAHM, I see this as a way to spread out the costs of a baby and bearing those costs while I have the most income. I'm going to focus on items which are least likely for me to receive at a baby shower, especially since pretty much no one I know irl is crunchy!
That's part of the reason we've been buying things, too--I work outside of the home, turtle doesn't, and she'll be a SAHM.

Plus, we're in the process of being licensed to do foster care, and you don't get showers for that.

Lots of people know we're ttc--I can't keep my mouth shut.
post #52 of 528
Thread Starter 
I wish I had more time to look at this during the day!

My in laws know, but my parents do not. I think they would be disappointed because we are not"financially stable." My in laws are completely excited. Sometimes I wish we had kept our mouths shut though, so people wouldnt always ask.

Sapphire--thanks for the links, I will check them out today!

You ladies are my support, thanks so much!
When dh and I talk about what you all say anout things we call you my friends. Like, "My friends said..." or he says :You should ask your friends..."
post #53 of 528
Our parents and a couple friends know we are TTC. I can't keep my own secrets. Our parents are really supportive, so I can ask them lots of questions.

Is anyone a little scared about being pg? I'm in the middle of phase II right now and I keep thinking, "wow, I might really get pregnant." This is the first cycle trying, so I might be a little extra nervous. You know what I'm afraid of? Getting blood drawn and throwing up! I am slowly convincing myself that getting blood drawn isn't really that bad and I have to do it, but I'm still pretty scared of throwing up. I know that's stupid, but I can't seem to convince myself otherwise. I think I'm going to plan on a homebirth and I'm nervous about finding a good midwife. I've done some research on a few around here, but I haven't actually talked to any or talked to anyone who has used them.
post #54 of 528
We haven't told many people we're TTC-just a few close friends and you all, of course! My sister also knows but none of the rest of our family knows. My MIL wouldn't be able to handle the waiting and would call every week to check, and I don't think I could handle that! And my parents just don't think they are old enough to be grandparents yet.

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Originally Posted by MichelleAnnette View Post
Is anyone a little scared about being pg? I'm in the middle of phase II right now and I keep thinking, "wow, I might really get pregnant." This is the first cycle trying, so I might be a little extra nervous. You know what I'm afraid of? Getting blood drawn and throwing up! I am slowly convincing myself that getting blood drawn isn't really that bad and I have to do it, but I'm still pretty scared of throwing up. I know that's stupid, but I can't seem to convince myself otherwise.
Yup-little scared to be pregnant as well. There is so much I don't know and won't really understand until I'm there and as a planner I want to know! I, too, have a thing with throwing up-it really upsets me! Hopefully, I'll just feel ill and not have to throw up ever!

I would love to have a homebirth but a midwife assisted homebirth is illegal here and my DH would be scared out of his mind with an unassisted homebirth. There are no free standing birth centers either, so we're seriously considering driving to Kansas to have our first, whenever that may be.

I'm so excited though! It is hard to refrain from buying things though-especially when I find good stuff at great prices!
post #55 of 528
Thread Starter 
MichelleAnnette
I noticed you said phase 2. Do you do NFP?

And yes, I am scared, but I figure everyone is. I too, would love a HB and a MW. We have already talked to one and she said to call her as soon as we know so we dont lose a spot. It will cost $3500, and I dont know where the money will come from, but the MW said, if people REALLY want a HB, they find a way to get the money.

I forgot, I had to tell my sister. I tell her everything. She lives far away and I miss her so much, but I know if we have a baby, she might move by me. So it would be a double bonus!
post #56 of 528
Robbins, midwives are a-legal here I guess. They aren't licensed, but there aren't laws against them either. I bet there are still some midwives practicing illegally where you live.

Matey, yes we do NFP. Are there any differences between NFP and FAM (other than the terminology)?
post #57 of 528
Thread Starter 
I also do NFP, but I dont know anything about FAM. I just get excited when I see a fellow NFPer.
post #58 of 528
I'm going to have a homebirth with a direct entry midwife. Indiana is illegal but not hostile. If you're in a hostile state it'll be harder to find a homebirth midwife and you should start looking now.

I'm rarely sick, but I've found that when I have vomitted it's just been annoying, so I'm not worried about that. I don't plan on having any tests done, so there'll be no need to have blood drawn. Incidentally, wiggling your toes helps a *lot* with getting blood drawn.

The possibility of fatigue worries me a bit, I'm naturally inclined towards procrastination and needing to sleep an extra 3 hours a day would make me totally unproductive.

Oh, and basic difference NFP/FAM? Whether you use condoms or abstain to prevent.
post #59 of 528
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=512211

As greenegirl mentioned, there's a coop for prefolds going on. Above is the link for it. They still need some people to meet the minimums. :

Right now I'm definitely feeling like AF will be showing up soon. This waiting game stinks!
post #60 of 528
I feel really lucky because here in the Netherlands the norm is homebirth with a midwife. So I don't have to worry about being covered for a homebirth. My sister had her baby here almost two years ago and decided she wanted a waterbirth so all she had to do was rent the pool and set it up at home. I think that costs something like $300 total. Everything else including a woman that comes to help for the first two weeks after the birth (mostly helping the new Mom with teaching the correct method for breastfeeding and handling of the newborn, laundry and stuff like that) is covered by regular insurance. So that's very cool.

I got to be at my nephew's birth and it was a very moving experience. Nothing like I expected from things I'd seen on TV or movies. Maybe because a waterbirth it was beautiful! My sister did it all on her own, just with some urging from the midwife. Now I'm looking down the barrel of the gun - I know I will be able to do it but the scariest part about pregnancy is the actual birth - I just don't know how I will react. Maybe at the last minute I will demand drugs!!!

Okay enough of me worrying, especially since I'm not even pregnant yet!!!:
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