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post #1 of 120
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What do you feel that people have wrong about SAHMs? :

I think that the biggest one is people thinking that you just relax, watch TV, and occasionally toss the DC's a bread crust and some water...
post #2 of 120
That not what you do?!:
post #3 of 120
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That not what you do?!:
Ssssshhhhhhh!! Don't blow my cover....
post #4 of 120
I had a mom ask me tonight, at DS's soccer practice, if I was still enjoying my "life of leisure."

I said I wouldn't exactly call it that, but, yes I was.
post #5 of 120
I think a common one is that we're all bedraggled, unwashed, wearing sweats and having ponytails, yelling at our kids because we're so burnt out, and are basically unfulfilled.

Sure, everyone has days like that. But I'd like to think that more often than not, I'm dressed, happy, having fun with my kids, feeling relieved not be doing a 9-5, and even wearing makeup.

So there!
post #6 of 120
people usually assume we're wealthy,because im a sahm, and because we live in a nice neighborhood, within walking distance to the beach. we're quite the opposite-we rent a little fixer upper townhouse, and we are constantly counting coins....
i hate that.
life of leisure...
hahhahahah.
post #7 of 120
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Yes. The affluince one just tweaks my brain.. Couldn't be that we're just frugal.. No, no.. Must be that we're rich.

How about the one about wanting constantly to escape?

Or is that one really true?
post #8 of 120
aside from the fact that we lay on the couch eating bon-bons all day, don't forget that we SAHM's are also boring and stupid.

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Originally Posted by Greenie View Post
What do you feel that people have wrong about SAHMs? :

I think that the biggest one is people thinking that you just relax, watch TV, and occasionally toss the DC's a bread crust and some water...

Don't forget the chocolate covered bon bons!
post #10 of 120
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Don't forget the chocolate covered bon bons!
Well...... I forgot... But....

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Originally Posted by mandib50 View Post
aside from the fact that we lay on the couch eating bon-bons all day, don't forget that we SAHM's are also boring and stupid.

Mandi remembered!!
post #11 of 120
In keeping with the affluence theme, I hate hearing "oh, you're so lucky to sah!"

I'm not "lucky." Over the past 7 years that I've been at home, I've worked my hiney off to live frugally. I do all kinds of things for "extra money" to spend on things like groceries!
post #12 of 120
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In keeping with the affluence theme, I hate hearing "oh, you're so lucky to sah!"

I'm not "lucky." Over the past 7 years that I've been at home, I've worked my hiney off to live frugally. I do all kinds of things for "extra money" to spend on things like groceries!
Yep. I've been an eBaying fool for the last little while.. Just keeping us afloat until we move. :

Sigh. At least I get to be poor with my little baby.
post #13 of 120
I hate the one that I'm "wasting my education" by being a SAHM. Goodness, I use more of my "education" raising my son then I ever did working! Plus, how is it not "wasteful" for another person to waste their education raising my son for me? Just because they would be paid? Stupidest thing ever!

I also hate the "does nothing" one. Holy cow, I'm busy all the time too. It's just that I have more time to enjoy ds.
post #14 of 120
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Originally Posted by mandib50 View Post
aside from the fact that we lay on the couch eating bon-bons all day, don't forget that we SAHM's are also boring and stupid.

That's what I was going to add - that we're too stupid to get a "real job!" :
post #15 of 120
There are a couple that bug me to no end.

The thing that gets me the most is people assuming that since I'm at home, I obviously have time to run THEIR errands for them. I am constantly being asked to do things for other people, who don't seem to get that dragging a toddler around is a lot of freaking work.

The other thing is the constant need to "get me out of the house," even if I insist that I don't mind staying at home most days. I mean, really, if I say I'm okay hanging out here, then I mean it. I know when I need a break, and a lot of times it's more work to try to go do something. Especially during the day, with the whole toddler in tow thing.

Drives me crazy!
post #16 of 120
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I hate the one that I'm "wasting my education" by being a SAHM.
Ah yes... I actually had one of my former college professors say to me, when he discovered that I was a SAHM, "That's too bad... You were really smart." I felt like shoving my Phi Beta Kappa key up his
post #17 of 120
My mil is big on the escape thing. She assumes I'm dying for one.

Since she's always been a sahm, there's not much I can say. Perhaps she always wanted to get away.

I certainly don't. If I did, I'd put my kids in school/daycare and get out of Dodge!
post #18 of 120
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Yeah.. Stupid... :
post #19 of 120
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I had a mom ask me tonight, at DS's soccer practice, if I was still enjoying my "life of leisure."
My dd decided to pretend she was a cat and actually use the litterbox yesterday. This is when I had a cold and had to get out to pick up something for dinner. My ds2 had been in there, dumping handfuls of litter in the hallway about eleven times that day. My dd was juggling linguini. Every time I got into the fridge, ds2 managed to grab something and/or knock something over.

Life of leisure??? Sure, my house is a mess, but that doesn't change the fact that I vacuum and sweep every day (this a new and necessary development) and can't remember what hot coffee tastes like...

People are kind of stunned sometimes, really.
post #20 of 120
That I cook and clean.
Well, I guess I do a little of that, but not as much as one would think!!

By the way Greenie.....I like your username! My name really is Greenlee!:
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