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When I was pregnant w/ ds there was a lady in MS who was 8 mos pregnant and murdered and her baby stolen from her womb. Some of you may remember this story. I think her name was Bobbie Jo and the little baby was found alive and returned to her daddy. Now here I am incubating #2 and a newborn is kidnapped from her mother and then another pregnant lady is murdered and her baby stolen. The little baby was stillborn or at least that is what the article says. These are such sad a devestating stories. I just think it is odd that they seem to be happening more during my pregnancies. I know it is just a coicidence but goodness.

here is the article : http://www.comcast.net/news/national...cvqh=itn_fetus
post #2 of 7
Ugh, bad timing for your pregnant emotions! That is wierd. I wonder if any other cases have occurred and just not registered the same attention... those poor mamas, babies, and dadies, and poor women who must need a lot of help....
post #3 of 7
That is just so, so sick and fills me with anger and sadness.

Unfortunately, pregnant women are statistically at a higher risk for violence and murder than other women.

Just when you think we should be safest.........:
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Originally Posted by grapejuicemama View Post
That is just so, so sick and fills me with anger and sadness.

Unfortunately, pregnant women are statistically at a higher risk for violence and murder than other women.

Just when you think we should be safest.........:
This is unfortunately very true. I am working on a case at work where the husband killed his 8-month pregnant wife. I have had to do a lot of research and have discovered not only the above statistic (pregnant women are at increased risk of homicide and domestic violence) but also case after case after case of men who kill their pregnant wives/girlfriends/lovers. It is sooo disturbing.
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The stories make me feel so sad and scared. I don't understand it. Why? Why would anyone want to harm a pregnant woman and her baby especially the fathers? I did not realize pregnant women were at a higher risk for homocide and domestic violence. That is awful : I wonder what triggers people to behave in such ways.



I wondered if the stories I posted about seemed to stand out more because of me being pregnant during the times they occur. However, it seems to me that such stories would always stand out regardless of being pregnant or not. I mean who will ever forget Lacy Peterson and baby Connor?

I did not mean to start such a morbid thread. It was just something that has been bothering me.
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The stories make me feel so sad and scared. I don't understand it. Why? Why would anyone want to harm a pregnant woman and her baby especially the fathers? I did not realize pregnant women were at a higher risk for homocide and domestic violence. That is awful : I wonder what triggers people to behave in such ways.



I wondered if the stories I posted about seemed to stand out more because of me being pregnant during the times they occur. However, it seems to me that such stories would always stand out regardless of being pregnant or not. I mean who will ever forget Lacy Peterson and baby Connor?

I did not mean to start such a morbid thread. It was just something that has been bothering me.

It has been on my mind too. The front page of our local paper has one such story on its cover today. From what I have read, it often has to do with the male partner's feelings of control, possession, fear and domination -- themes that are unfortunately present in many relationships even absent pregnancy. For violent men, the pregnancy seems to put them over the edge. So if he was beating her/controlling her/felt possessive when she wasn't pregnant, these things are just amplified when she is pregnant.

I agree though -- it seems counterintuitive and is a tragic irony. I wish our culture was less violent, I wish sexism did not exist, I wish women were not viewed as possessions by many men, and I wish domestic violence (against women and children and men) simply didn't exist. I tie it all back to sexism coupled with the violence in our culture. When both of those things become less acceptable/tolerated, our culture will be a safer place for pregnant women. Until then, I will fight against violence and sexism and be thankful I am married to a man who sees me as a human being first, a sex second, and always as an equal.
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I was thinking about this as well. The case last week was only about an hour or so away from me. It makes you think about who you talk to that's for sure. It makes me much more paranoid if someone was to come a knocking.
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