Originally Posted by Velvet005
The stories make me feel so sad and scared. I don't understand it. Why? Why would anyone want to harm a pregnant woman and her baby especially the fathers? I did not realize pregnant women were at a higher risk for homocide and domestic violence. That is awful
: I wonder what triggers people to behave in such ways.
I wondered if the stories I posted about seemed to stand out more because of me being pregnant during the times they occur. However, it seems to me that such stories would always stand out regardless of being pregnant or not. I mean who will ever forget Lacy Peterson and baby Connor?
I did not mean to start such a morbid thread. It was just something that has been bothering me.
It has been on my mind too. The front page of our local paper has one such story on its cover today. From what I have read, it often has to do with the male partner's feelings of control, possession, fear and domination -- themes that are unfortunately present in many relationships even absent pregnancy. For violent men, the pregnancy seems to put them over the edge. So if he was beating her/controlling her/felt possessive when she wasn't pregnant, these things are just amplified when she is pregnant.
I agree though -- it seems counterintuitive and is a tragic irony. I wish our culture was less violent, I wish sexism did not exist, I wish women were not viewed as possessions by many men, and I wish domestic violence (against women and children and men) simply didn't exist. I tie it all back to sexism coupled with the violence in our culture. When both of those things become less acceptable/tolerated, our culture will be a safer place for pregnant women. Until then, I will fight against violence and sexism and be thankful I am married to a man who sees me as a human being first, a sex second, and always as an equal.