Originally Posted by Amys1st
Bundlefishmama- I remember you from our ddc and I remember during the 10 day duration we were all worried about you and the baby because you didnt post since you couldnt. When I read about the group b strep, my heart started pounding since I saw what could happen with it. I was so relieved when you baby came home. I do know that you would have ptsd from your experience and I was glad to see you here!
I remember being so touched when we finally got home and I got online to our ddc and saw that so many mamas had posted wondering if we were OK and what had happened. I had asked my dh to try to get on and post a quick update for me, but I think he was barely keeping it together just taking care of our other kids! If anything at all good came out of that whole experience, my dh now appreciates me a lot more - no more "what do you do all day while I'm at the office working hard" arguments!!
I can imagine how offensive and hurtful it would be for a mama of full-term babies to dictate to you how you should care for your preemie, or seem to judge you for the difficult decisions you've had to make. I can relate a little because I have had people tell me, even after hearing what happened to Andrew, that they would refuse the GBS test during pregnancy and/or refuse prophylactic abx during labor if they were + for it. That they see it as just one more "unnecessary intervention"! It's every mama's right to make her own decision for her baby, but I find that a little insensitive - I want to get involved in some GBS awareness campaigns I've heard about, and some of my friends have implied that I'd be supporting "medicalized childbirth" by doing so
Another supposed friend said to me, "You realize now that with your future babies they're going to want to induce you early and completely control your labor to make sure they have enough time to give you extra abx, right? Are you going to agree to that?" She said it in this really cynical tone implying that I've gone over to the dark side or something if I even consider doing anything like that to minimize risk to future babies. I mean, I am all for standing up for your beliefs on childbirth and parenting, but when a true medical problem occurs, which is more important, sticking to your doctrines or doing what's necessary for your baby's health or life?
ETA: I also *love* the people who imply that it's my fault that Andrew has severe allergies and digestive issues now (allergies to several foods incluing dairy, soy and nuts, blood in his stools, reflux, eczema, systemic yeast with recurrent thrush in his mouth) because "you gave him all those mega-doses of antibiotics right after birth when your breastmilk should have been colonizing his system properly" - hello, I'm an LLL Leader, I know
that is what should have
happened, but those antibiotics saved his life
!! Sorry, thanks for allowing me to vent!