Weekly Thread: Sept. 24th - Sept. 30th - Page 2

[Jilian]

Originally Posted by shockels

Laurarama...It is different the second time isn't it? I feel much calmer as well. And I'm plotting out what I want to do different....Like NOT eat a massive amount of chocolate everyday, and try to exercise a little everyday. I was running regularly up until about a month ago. Now I'm going to try and walk briskly for a little bit everyday.
How about it ladies? Resolutions for your pregnancy??

Me too! Last time I gained 53 lbs during pregnancy. I was small to start (113 lbs) but 53 ;bs was a little much. It took a LONG time to lost it after DS was born. This time around I'm not going to use pregnancy as an excuse to gorge myself with food I want to exercise more too. Last time I was too scared of hurting the baby so I gave up all exercise.

I'm eating all organic fruits and veggies this time around too. And I'll start drinking RLR tea in the third trimester and OILING MY PERRENIUM. No tearing this time, last time the tearing was awful!

[saratchka]

I gained so much with my last pregnancy that I'm not even completely sure how much it was. I know it was more than 50lbs, and I believe it was less than 60, but I'm not 100% sure. I'm still carrying 10 of those pounds, so I really don't want to go overboard this time around. And I definitely want to make an effort to be more active. I have a prenatal yoga video and a couple stretching videos for poor weather and hope to walk a couple miles a day in our hilly neighborhood when the weather is good.

Prior to DD's birth I ate nearly all conventionally produced foods. Now I'm eating mostly organic fruits and veggies and using all organic dairy. Organic meats are hard to come by here, (and we are meat-eaters) but I do buy the "natural" meats. I figure the lack of growth hormones and antibiotics must count for something... I really want to eat well this pregnancy, in part to keep my weight gain reasonable, but also because DD is still nursing and I want to be sure that I'm getting enough of all the good stuff for all three of us! (Let's just hope I'm not having twins - I'm not sure I can eat for four!)

[mataji4]

I was surprised to read about so many of you willing to give up a homebirth for your husbands...what is the difference between you giving birth in a hospital when you would rather be at home vs. your husband watching you give birth at home and wishing you were in the hospital??? Well, I think it is more important that the birthing woman be comfortable birthing than the husband! I'm not saying that a father's input isn't important. But considering that homebirth when using a qualified midwife is really as safe (at least!) as having hospital birth, then why would you give that up for your husband's worry?? He is going to worry no matter where you birth!

I have had three babies at home and have attended many women at both home and hospital births. I'm not even sure this time if we're going to hire a midwife or not as my births are short (last one was under 2 hours!) and sweet, and I can't imagine sitting through all those prenatals again! It always seems to me that hospital births are awkward- the robes and cords and small rooms with nurses and doctors the famiy hasn't met before going in and out...nothing I would choose, unless baby's or my health required it.

But it's beautiful that we get to make our own choices, just like getting married or not!

[todavia]

am i always the "me, three" here, or am i just a novice on the message board thing? a little slow on the uptake maybe
anyway, i also gained 50+ pound with #1 and would really like to try to keep it more in the range of 35 this time. also trying to stick to organic produce and stay away from sweets. i walk pretty much everywhere but even so, it seems like my pants are a little tighter than they should be.
i guess my biggest 'resolution' or intention for this pregnancy is to try to stay balanced and really give my self/baby, son, partner, school/work the attention and care that each deserves and not let anything fall by the wayside - no overdoing it, no excessive slacking. i could easily spend all day on these message boards...but i must resist....
glad it's almost friday though, ready for a little break for sure.

[mataji4]

Yes, wouldn't it be great to take care of everything!! To balance kids, husband, friends, work, SELF-care! I echo that intention. I am signing up for prenatal yoga classes already so that I can get into good habits BEFORE I get sicky, fussy and overwhelmed by my own body!

[zion]

Hi all! It's so nice to check in with you all every now and then!!

I have been trying really hard to hold off on telling people about this pregnancy. I am 5 weeks today. It seems like when you tell people you're pregnant the first thing they want to know is how far along. When you say 4 or 5 or 6 weeks they look worried. Like it almost doesn't count until you are further along. I know all the bad things that can happen...I've been through it, but right now I am trying to stay optimistic. I am just so excited I want to spread the word!! We are going to the beach for a week on Saturday. When I get back I will be 6+ weeks. I will only have to keep my mouth shut for a little while then I can let the word out!! Sorry for the rant!!

My Birthday is Saturday!! I'm going to be 29. Woo hoo!! Birthday at the beach. To bad no for me!! It's all good.

Hope everyone is well.

[NCMomworld]

I hope you have a lovely birthday!


My resolution for this pregnancy is to enjoy it! I am going to read the pregnancy journal I bought every day, do prenatal yoga (dvd), and spend time talking to my baby each night. My life is so busy with homeschooling 3 other children, that I know I'll need to schedule in these special times to bond with our new little one!

[shockels]

Originally Posted by violetisadora

i guess my biggest 'resolution' or intention for this pregnancy is to try to stay balanced and really give my self/baby, son, partner, school/work the attention and care that each deserves and not let anything fall by the wayside - no overdoing it, no excessive slacking. i could easily spend all day on these message boards...but i must resist....
glad it's almost friday though, ready for a little break for sure.

Violet: Well said!! That sounds like a fabulous way to move through pregnancy. I'm actually very glad you said this early on, because it is definitely something I should take to heart. Starting my new career, having a toddler, remodeling our kitchen and then finally moving into our new home, not to mention a sister planning a wedding, and a beloved cat who has been neglected lately are enough to make me feel guilty every minute of the day. But if you approach it one step at a time and give what you can when you can that's enough right?

Zion: Happy happy birthday for sat. Enjoy the beach!!!

[todavia]

Originally Posted by mataji4

I was surprised to read about so many of you willing to give up a homebirth for your husbands...what is the difference between you giving birth in a hospital when you would rather be at home vs. your husband watching you give birth at home and wishing you were in the hospital??? Well, I think it is more important that the birthing woman be comfortable birthing than the husband! I'm not saying that a father's input isn't important. But considering that homebirth when using a qualified midwife is really as safe (at least!) as having hospital birth, then why would you give that up for your husband's worry?? He is going to worry no matter where you birth!

when i first told my SO that i was planning on a homebirth with a midwife he couldn't understand why i would make that choice (what if something happens - like last time? what are you trying to prove?). as i said in another post, he was also concerned that he would have to play a major role in the birth which, for whatever reasons that i personally cannot understand, he has zero desire to do (don't want to catch anthing, cut anything or clean anything). so my feeling was that he didn't have to do anything but be there for me (encouragement, love and a cold cloth or snack occasionally) and if he couldn't find a way to be supportive and positive about it then i'd rather he not be there at all.

now, of course i hope it wouldn't come to this although i also think it's okay to have a more "red tent", all-women birth. but i really don't want to give up on my dream of a natural birth experience because somone else's fears/issues/discomfort and i know that i cannot have the birth experience i want in a hospital.

that being said, of course if any significant risk arises, i'll do whatever i have to do to have a healthy baby but barring that, no one (and especially not someone who is basing their opinion on pretty much no information or even personal philosophy) is going to stand in my way.

Originally Posted by mataji4 "But it's beautiful that we get to make our own choices, just like getting married or not!"


and for anyone who is making a different decision - much respect for doing whatever is right for you and your family. i would never impose my choice on another woman. i just want to be able to do what's right for me - and i feel in my heart that that is a homebirth.

[todavia]

Originally Posted by shockels

Starting my new career, having a toddler, remodeling our kitchen and then finally moving into our new home, not to mention a sister planning a wedding, and a beloved cat who has been neglected lately are enough to make me feel guilty every minute of the day. But if you approach it one step at a time and give what you can when you can that's enough right?

Sandra - Yes! Let's try to help each other remember this over the next nine months...but now i'm wondering if my cat is neglected

[jstar]

i'd like to not gain the 44lbs i gained last time but i tend to believe each woman has a pregnancy 'set point'. i'm starting out heavier this time i think by 5 lbs but expect i'll probably end up at the same weight. my bigger intention is to be in better shape. i went to aerobics tuesday but it SUCKED because my boobs hurt and it was way too much bouncing. i'm hoping to keep that up until 6 months or so. maybe not even that long

another resolution is to enjoy every last minute of my 'only' and give him all the undivided attention that i can. i am grieving the loss of his onliness (only a little bit at this point but i know this will change his life completely). ya know? even though it is a change that i wanted and that i think will be great for him i think he is going to be mad when mama is so consumed by this new creature. i'm scared about that.

i am soooooooo tired today. i was out in the sun for a couple of hours and it completely zapped me.

i'm not so dismayed by my hub's desire to go hospital because i'm a mega wimp and i hate pain. the thing i mainly hate about the hospital is the iv. needles gross me out. i also think the monitors bug but it has to be possible to not be hooked up to them constantly because i know they have tubs for laboring. i never made it to the tub last time. i don't mind the rooms or nurses or the vicodin (kidding about the vicodin ) i have a big doubt that i could make it through birth (want to) without some kind of pain med my goal is to avoid the epidural. i truely do believe that they 'call' c-sections far more often than necessary and that IS a risk of going the hospital route. i would really hate to have one unless it was really needed. that was my biggest fear the first time. i have the belief though that since this will be my 2nd birth my body will know more what to do and that it could possibly be pretty non-eventful. we'll see. i'm still undecided about midwife vs. the ob i used before. part of me wants to go back to my ob so i can compare my weight this time last pregnancy stupid, i know. and i liked him. but then i've never had a 'midwife' experience so i'm curious about that too.

i have huge admiration for women who homebirth (and i feel like a wierdo for not choosing it for myself because i know so many women who do). i'm glad everyone is free to do what they want.

happy 29th zion! i turned the big 3-0 when i was preg last time so no big drinks for me.

[Jilian]

Happy early birthday Chris!! I hope you have a great day!

[ChristineIndy]

Happy early birthday!

Christine

[saratchka]

Originally Posted by jstar

another resolution is to enjoy every last minute of my 'only' and give him all the undivided attention that i can. i am grieving the loss of his onliness (only a little bit at this point but i know this will change his life completely). ya know? even though it is a change that i wanted and that i think will be great for him i think he is going to be mad when mama is so consumed by this new creature. i'm scared about that.

Wow! That is so very well said - I feel exactly the same way. I'm excited to have another baby. I'm happy that DD will have a sibling, which I believe to be an enriching relationship. But I'm sad that I will no longer be able to give DD as much of myself and frightened that the transition will be hard for her. I vascilate between being grateful that this pregnancy started with no stress or fuss and that the decision about when to have another appears to have been taken out of my hands and guilt that I didn't wait longer to give DD more time as an only child. :

[shockels]

Just wanted you ladies to know, I walked past a whole table of doughnuts this morning and didn't take any!! Yeah self control! I will stay healthy, i will stay healthy, I will stay healthy....

[todavia]

good 4 you sandra

[shockels]

Violet...were you really up at 3:30 am or is that my computer offsetting the time from the east coast? Please tell me you're getting more sleep than that!

[rosie29]

Hi All! Just checking in. I just POAS yesterday and so much to think about. Vitamins...anyone have suggestions? Last time I just took what the OB prescribed but I'm leery of the gelatin and who-knows-what-else in there. Anyone have a vegetarian prenatal vit. to suggest?

[jstar]

i'm taking the rainbow light just once vits. not too bad so far. but man $26 for the bottle!

sandra - i'm impressed!

what is poas?

[rosie29]

Originally Posted by jstar

what is poas?

Pee On A Stick (pregnancy test)