I know that I am willing to listen to my dh's concerns about a homebirth vs hospital birth for a few reasons. Primarily, he feels very strongly about it, more strongly than I do. It is his birthing experience too (even if I am the one doing all the work) and I don't want him to be scared out of his mind and on edge the whole time. Whatever the setting is, I want us both to be comfortable. I would probably be more comfortable at home, but not if he is nervous, kwim? We are partners, and we make compromises as part of our marriage. I'm sure if I cared more than he did or if he didnt' have feelings of abject terror at the thought of a homebirth he would agree to one. That is why I would like to try and get him to change his mind but if he doesn't that is fine by me too. It probably doesn't help that the only 2 people we know who have planned a homebirth have either ended up in the hospital for a C and I had a complicated birth with our first.
As for the weight issue, I am trying to be good, I really am. But I am so hungry all the time. I only gained a little with my dd, I had ms until midway through the final trimester. I have minor ms now and eating makes it feel better