Promiscuious teen, help! - Page 2

[todavia]

Originally Posted by dewi

She needs professional therapeutic counseling beside your loving tender concern.

i agree that a counselor should be called in. ASAP. i don't know where your sister lives but there are agencies, programs and clinics all over the country that specialize in youth issues - self esteem, reproductive health, healthy choices - and offer free services.
i was also a "troubled teen" and i remember how i felt then - very alone and in a lot of pain - even though i couldn't admit it, even to myself, for a long time. i found "comfort" and "validation" in the attention of older guys and even though i can't say i made it through unscathed - i was lucky that things weren't much much worse. my parents forced me to go to therapy and i hated them for it at the time (just for making me) but was also so glad and relieved to have someone to talk to who i could trust not to tell my parents anything and who was a stable and caring "outside" adult.
also, another person mentioned not "judging" your sister which i agree with but i also think that sometimes adults desire to be 'cool' or 'liked' by teenagers can cloud their judgement - she has to live her life but you have to act in her best interest when she (and it sounds like your mother also) are unable to do so.
just my 2 cents....
good luck.

[Montessori Mommy]

thanks, dewi, sleepless, and violet. I've shared some of the suggestions with my momster. I've been pushing her to put sis in counseling for the past few *years* to no avail. Her attitude has been "well X says she doesn't want to go." Well sometimes, you do things your kids may not want because it's what they need. Momster talks a lot of talk, she was going to prosecute one of these internet guys, never got around to it. : She was going to put sister in therapy, never got around to it. : I honestly think sister might not like going to therapy, at first, but like other ppl said, even if she won't admit it, it would be a relief to talk to someone in confidence. I particularly think therapy would help her better cope living with momster and her BPD.

[Blu Razzberri]

I didnt' have time to read the replies here (just realized the time!!!) but I wanted to say something really quick...

I knew someone who was much the same, but it was because she was sexually abused by her stepfather (she lived with her mother, and stepfather). This caused her to seek validity in men through sex; and unfortunately does so to this day.

I wonder if there's a possiblility that something like this has happened to your sister...? Perhaps she didn't tell you, and/or wouldn't feel comfortable doing so. My suggestion is to try and arrange therapy or counselling so she can get her feelings out to someone she knows MUST maintain confidentiality.

I truly hope this isn't the case, but if it is, it's best to address the issue asap.



PS: You're a wonderful sister for caring and putting the time and effort into her that she desperately needs! Hang in there!