Originally Posted by Marsupialmom
My son had a physical last May there is a reason to physically check for hernias. He had his underwear on the entire time. My dh was in the room and the doctor explained everthing right up front to my son but he never mention a thing about my son's forskin nor touched it. I cannot tell you the last time I saw my son naked, nor my dh. There needs to be more communication of what is normal for males. Men's penis, testicals, or scrotums unless being laughed at are not discussed. Nor is mens penile health unless of course it is for a perscription of viagra. There is little to no talk about males needing to do monthly self exams. There is little to no explantation of why the doctor might check the scrotal regions, want to ask men about humilating? Most of them will, and are expected to laugh it off though.
The realities are men are more likely to die from prostate cancer and testical cancers than women breast cancer. We need to educated and enpower or sons on their health. Instead of saying no touching teaching them to ask questions, research, and letting them know it is ok to say no and comeback later after they do their research.
I also don't think it is always appairent that our children have hernias. They can hide or only be noticable while crying or straining. If you are a child with a hernia if you always had pain while straining then you might assume it is normal.
I know! Dr's should be more apt to educate men on their various body parts than to just chop them off!
My DH gets a yearly exam (Because he's Military) And even if he wasn't he'd go anyway. He does the full round, and will be getting the reccomended prostate exam when he hits age 40, OR If he shows symptoms of prostate enlargement before then. He does monthly self exams of his testicles because that's what the medic taught him in basic, check himself for cancer, and it was doubly important when he was on ship, so it was twice a month then.
We have all sorts of hype for womens reproductive and breast health, but what about the men? seriously? I LOVE Spike TV's attempt to get more men into the routine physical thing. I thought that was a great idea, and more networks should do that...there really SHOULD be more awareness about Male reproductive health taught in schools, put out on commercials, and whatnot..
Not everyone joins the military....and not everyone has insurance to go to a Dr each year...so it's up to them to know the symptoms, and to do self checks. Heck, most men/boys can check THEMSELVES for a hernia if they know what to look for!
But the difference between a grown man going in for his yearly physical (and Grown woman going in for hers) and a child, is, the grown adult is fully knowledgable and consenting to what is going to happen in that exam, be it a testical turn your head and cough exam, a pap smear, a prostate/rectal exam. The child does NOT, and should be told by the Dr what he/she is going to do and have full right of refusal if they so wish. Just like an adult. When younger, it's up to US to advocate for them. "I need to take a look at his/her genitals" Your answer should be "Why, what purpose, what exactly will the exam entail, will you insert/retract/spread," If any of the answers do not satisfy you you can refuse the exam on behalf of your child, who is too young to really say yes or no. At around age 3 + when they can make their wishes expressly known, if they say no, you stand up for them and say NO as well.
My child's bodily integrity above all else. I'll teach her the need for routine sexual health when she gets to the age of NEEDING routine sexual health checks, same with my son. And to tell me if anything is going wrong down there, because children know their bodies better than we do.