Originally Posted by thismama
...I just was really shocked at the phrasing... that after all you went thru, the money you spent, she didn't have the right to malnourish herself. I thought it was important to point it out.
Look, I hate to stir the pot here; but for someone who's signature puts religion under fire; you sure are focused on other peoples wording! You concentrate too hard on the words, and not enough on the POINT. The child isn't eating, and the mother is trying to find solutions...no need to put her under attack! - Respectfully.
I don't know alot about nutrition, to be honest, I just try to avoid sugars and try not to impose my dislikes onto my son (which I'm doing successfully...he likes shrimp *barf*). But something I did learn from my mother (who catered to me, her picky child); was how to hide things. As said before, spaghetti is the easiest to hide things in, and what I do, is make large amounts of pasta sauce, then noodles, and mix the two, then freezer bag child-sized servings for those nights when I don't feel like cooking or he won't eat what we're having. Couple of things to consider...
- select your pasta carefully. You can buy cool tri-colored pasta that are made with spinach and tomato. Or, consider buying a pasta maker, and make your own.
- you can also buy tortilla's that are made with spinach (and one's made with tomato) but you don't have to tell her what's in them. (a good idea for that, esp. if she won't eat wraps - sandwiches - is to brush them with butter; cut them up, and bake them in the oven for a few minutes until they're crispy. Then serve them as chips; maybe even with dip (like, Philidelphia chipdips - cheeze product!! - they come in various flavors, let her pick)
- tofu. I'm not a vegetarian, nor did I grow up eating tofu. I came across it under unfortunate circumstances. I was pretty broke, and I found out that tofu is a good source of alot of vitamines and proteins; so I started mashing it with a fork into little bits, and making pasta sauce from half ground beef and half tofu. You couldn't even tell it was there. Look up tofu recipes too (though, you're a vegetarian, so you probably already know)
- iced cream...I know Breyers makes natural iced cream, so maybe it's worth checking the label for the nutritional content...? There could be calcium.
I found this site that has a list of iron rich foods: http://www.bloodbook.com/iron-foods.html
so that might help.
Also, ALMONDS (dry roasted, 240ml/1 c. = 389.2mg Calcium; 5.2mg Iron)....you can buy them slivered (great for chicken flavored rice; or in salad); you can buy them whole for eating by the handful, or for baking; sliced (GREAT for cake decor and so on); and ground ...which is my favorite...I always throw a couple spoonfuls into sauces ...maybe she'd even like it by the spoon/handfull?
If you can manage to get in just three leaves of spinach some way some how, that's 25mg's of calcium. (yes, I just read that off a pamphlet I happened to get at the grocery store today
I guess you'd have to look at it like this: being a vegetarian, you don't eat meat; but what if you were suddenly in a place where you were faced with having to every day? Perhaps, infiltrate your kind of food into her diet slowly (like, start with once a week, or wherever you're at, then slowly go up to something small everyday on the side of what she's used to, until you up the portion and downsize what she's familliar with to the special meal). I know you have your own tastes and other kids; so maybe the freezer and the microwave will be your best friend for awhile. And just keep trying new foods and just ask her to try it and that's all; and when she dislikes it; ask questions like "what is it that you don't like? Is it the taste...? How it feels in your mouth? Is it because there are too many foods put together? Is it because it's one food by itself? Is it because it looks strage?"...asking specific questions might help you better determine what specifically it is she dislikes about the food and you can work around it better.
I'm sorry for my long rant, I hope I helped even a little bit!