Well....I wish I had advice, but I don't. However, we can paddle this boat together!!!
See...I got pregnant with DS at the tender age of 16 (after being on the pill for about 18 months). And I never told my parents...my mom found a Planned Parenthood card in my room. That was when I was 8 weeks along. My mom freaked and my dad...well...he didn't care much. They both love Makena so much now! They always have.
BUT my mom although she would never admit it, to her kids are a burden and take away from you and your goals. Not to mention they wish I'd just go to medschool instead of being a midwife!
BUT, with my miscarriage, I didn't want to tell them, but DP was like we should. I had a bad feeling about the pregnancy. And we told them at 5 weeks. They freaked a little, but oh well. What did I honestly expect? Plus, I told them while my Grammy was around and so it makes things better.
NOW.....I am 6 weeks plus a couple days and will not tell them untill Thanksgiving. It's my favorite holiday, my Grammy will again be here and I will be like...15 weeks. Let's just hope I wont be at a birth!!!
As for DP's parents and family, they are all sexist rednecks(pardon my frecnh, but they have done nothing good for us and actually have screwed us over a handfull of times...I could go on and on) AND his parents moved to Hawaii...so we will just send a birth annoucment in the mail.