Baby shower gift basket

[Codi's Mama]

Okay, I'm putting together a baby shower gift basket for my SIL. She's having a boy. I don't know what her stance on circ is. She doesn't take suggestions from me very well. I think she's a little ditsy and she thinks I'm too crunchy.
Anyways, I wanted to put some kind of literature in the basket about not circing. Something that won't cause too big of a stir at the shower (MIL and GMIL will be there and they both circ'd). I was thinking of one of the Mothering back articles, which one would be best? I don't think the circ reprint would go over very well, but an article in a magazine would be fine. I want to expose to her that not everyone circ's without it coming off too crunchy.
Also, what would be a good, small pamphlet that I could put in there? Something that says it should be his choice. I'll probably attach a sticker to it that lists some nocirc websites and the link to the graphic circ video .

Thanks!

[mackenziesmama]

First, let me say I think its a great idea to give her the no circ info.

I wonder if the baby shower is the best place to give her the no circ info, especially if circ'ing mil and gmil are going to be there. Would it be better to wait until after the shower and just say something like, "I don't know your stance, but here's some info for you to consider. If you'd like to talk about it, please let me know". That's just me though. I don't like to cause a scene and hate confrontation. (I'm a bit of a chicken, I guess)

www.nocirc.org has some good pamphlets and I think you can download them. Also, your state might have a nocirc chapter where you could get more infomation.

What if you give her some "mainstream" non-crunchy info about not circing? I know how I was before I turned crunchy, and if someone would've tried handing me something going against what I always thought, I would've shut down. I'm not that way anymore though! I'm 100% crunchy! Knowledge is power!

AAP's statement on circumcision http://www.aap.org/advocacy/archives/marcircum.htm

CDC data showing that in '99, almost 35% of baby boys are intact. This would help show her that not everyone circs
http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/pub...cumcisions.htm

This website has position papers from medical organizations around the world. You'd have to pick and choose which to use
http://www.cirp.org/library/statements/

More from leading organizations. All of these do not recommend circing. I especially like the Austrailian statements.
http://www.circumcision.org/position.htm

I hope this helps!

[phatchristy]

I've heard that the Dr. Fleiss book is excellent...something like "what your doctor may not tell you about circumcision." How about a book?

[Super Pickle]

Codi's Mama,
Another poster made a great suggestion a few threads back: find a general baby book that has an anti-circumcision slant. Place a bookmark in the book on or near the page with the anti-circ info on it.
Another option would be to include Mothering's Special Pregnancy Issue from last year...it's got articles on breastfeeding, cosleeping, and two great articles on circumcision. You can order the back issue from Mothering, although I'm not sure how long it would take to arrive. If you got the magazine, you could put a post-it on the first page of the circumcision article with a little note saying something like, "I'm so glad I found out about not circumcising.... the more you know, the worse circumcision gets. Check out (this website) or call me if you have any questions about leaving little boys intact."
Good luck. And don't be too scared of the MIL and GMIL....just because they circ'ed once upon a time doesn't mean they endorse it. They may just regret it and be glad that times are a'changin'. As long as you stay nice and don't get all worked up, you need not fear offending. Just keep to, "I know they used to recommend it, but now they don't. So since it's not considered medically beneficial, why do it?"

[Quirky]

I really like the first pamphlet at www.coloradonocirc.org (look under pamphlets). I don't suggest the Fleiss book, because I think that people who aren't inclined to read books aren't even going to open it in the first place.

[A&A]

Originally Posted by Super Pickle

Codi's Mama,
Another poster made a great suggestion a few threads back: find a general baby book that has an anti-circumcision slant. Place a bookmark in the book on or near the page with the anti-circ info on it.
Another option would be to include Mothering's Special Pregnancy Issue from last year...it's got articles on breastfeeding, cosleeping, and two great articles on circumcision. You can order the back issue from Mothering, although I'm not sure how long it would take to arrive.

This particular back issue is now sold out, unfortunately.

[Codi's Mama]

A book wouldn't work. I gave her the book "What your doctor may not tell you about childhood vaccines." She didn't even look at it and got her dd vaccinated on schedule, even though her ped was trying to talk her into delaying.
Quirky: Thank you for that pamphlet. That's just what I needed! Info on circing and intact care!
Super Pickle and mackenziesmama: Thank you for the advice on how to handle MIL and GMIL. I like your one-liners! They should keep peace in the family!
It looks like Mothering issue #132 would be the one I need. It has breastfeeding and circumcision info in it. Oh, that's the one that's sold out! Maybe #103 would work. It's got breastfeeding and circumcision info., too.
Thanks!