rape - Page 2

[trmpetplaya]

Originally Posted by SweetAfton

When I was 18, my boyfriend would force me to give him BJs, but not sex. I didn't break up with him because I wanted to marry him : and I thought I could never get someone as good as him. I also thought that the pain of breaking was worse than giving him what he wanted sexually.

: except I was 16... He broke up with me a few months later and then we got back together 4 months after that and then broke up and got back together two more times before I figured out that dh was a good guy who cared about me (we were good friends through all the ex-bf breaking up and getting back together bit...) and finally broke up with ex-bf once and for all.

's to you and your dd. I don't know what I would do in your place (I never told my parents about anything ex-bf did - nor will I ever tell them), but it sounds as though you are handling it well!

love and peace.

[momfirst]

Originally Posted by SweetAfton

As for talking to his parents though? I don't know. What does DD want you to do? Have you talked to her about you talking to his parents? I can see both sides of that equation.

She wants to talk to the boys dad (parents are divorced and he lives with dad). I said if she wants to that's fine, but I want to be with her (or if she calls him on the phone, I want someone nearby...just to back up whatever is said) which she agreed to.

DD said she wants to confront the boy and said that her friend will 'make' her say something. So we talked about how no one should *make* her do anything. If she wants to say something, great, but no one should *make* or *force* anyone to do anything.

We've contacted a local rape counselor and she has an appointment to talk to someone there. Her school is also going go work on "empowering" her to be able to stand up for herself. She's also talking to the couple of social workers that we know until counceling can start.

I'm also checking in to what I legally have to do since I have guardianship of her. I know I have to notify the courts if she is hospitalized or anything like that...so I am assuming that this is up there as well.

Thanks again for all your input. It has really helped a lot!