Originally Posted by ~Ryleigh's Mommy~
I mean, what did people do before the bumbo was invented if its so necessary for survival?
Did I miss something? Could you quote the moms who are saying they wouldn't survive without a Bumbo? Or reference the post #? Because I really don't remember anyone saying anything so ridiculous.
Originally Posted by ~Ryleigh's Mommy~
all the answers that are given here in defense of the bumbo are the same reasons that those mainstream moms give about walkers, CIO, baby buckets, etc (my child isn't maimed, she likes it, its not like I leave her in there all day etc etc)
You have officially ticked me off.
I'm guessing you don't "hold down the fort" as much as "keep the mommy wars' fires blazing." I don't post on mainstream boards often, but I doubt anyone defends CIO with a "she likes it." And SO WHAT if someone uses a walker and their baby likes it? Or if they use a baby bucket sometimes? I know BILLIONS of AP moms who occasionally make use of these items. Hey, I admit, I rejoice when I see a mom in the mall with her baby in a sling and no stroller. But most moms with slings IME also have a stroller with them. I HATE to see a baby carried around by a handle when they ought to be carried close. But if your babe is asleep in their carseat and you choose to leave them sleeping in there while you shop or come in from your car and put away groceries... I mean, it is worlds away from propping a bottle and leaving your kid in there until their head flattens completely out. There is a place for righteous indignation... and there is a place for accepting moms who make judicious use of modern babycare items. I could go apesh!t on you for using a bouncy seat if I wanted to. Heck, I could jump down your throat for using diapers instead of doing the natural thing and ec'ing. I have a feeling if I did a little home inspection I could find lots of things to judge you for.
It was posts like yours that made me baby-container-phobic when I had my dd#1. When she was born, I had NOT ONE baby container. No infant carseat (I didn't want the temptation to use the seat outside the car), no swing, no bouncy, no bassinett, no crib, no stroller, NO NOTHING. Just a collection of every kind of sling I had found. I figured I would hold her/sling her at all times. I even bought a water sling so I could shower with her. Lo and behold, as in love as I was, I actually did want a safe place to lay her down once in a while. AND I FELT INCREDIBLY GUILTY. I thought I was a bad mom when someone brought me a swing and I actually put my dd in it while I went to the bathroom or got myself something to eat.
With dd#2 I finally started to realize that people like you with your judgmental posts were probably full of it. A ton of MDC moms "came out of the closet" to me and admitted they made use of bouncies, swings, strollers, etc. I had a bunch of earthy-birthy friends (midwives and the women who use them) who ALL had exersaucers or walkers or bumbos (or a collection of them). So I just let go of the "perfect mother" ideal, and I tell you what, I felt so free. Dd#2 had an infant carseat and stroller, swing, exersaucer, bumbo, and a hammock to sleep in, in addition to my effing huge collection of slings and carriers. And you know what? She walked months earlier than dd#1, and other than that, for all I can tell, the only other difference is in ME. I'm a little saner. And all told, she spent very little time in any of those things (except the hammock where she spent many hours, and the carseat when she was in the car).
I hate that you made me feel once again that I have to justify what I decided was acceptable for my family. Your post is EXACTLY what intimidates and discourages others from learning from APers in general... and keeps them running back to the mainstream for all their parenting advice. If you want to make the non-use of a Bumbo, or walker, or bucket, as much of a litmus test (ie just as important) of enlightened parenting as the non-use of CIO, let me just emphatically state that I COMPLETELY DISAGREE WITH YOU and I hope the VAST majority of loving AP moms agree.
As soon as you're done berating adoptive moms for supplementing their induced lactation with formula, I'm sure I'll have the pleasure of reading your reply. (What, you say that's not what you've been doing? Well happy birthday, I guess you're not as judgmental as I made you out to be from your post.)