That said, I would like to address a few of the comments that were made to me:
Actually, I do not get involved in the threads where there are "wars" going on about BF vs FF, CIO vs co-sleeping etc. I will try to nudge someone in the 'right' direction though. Say, if they are having a hard time BFing and are thinking about giving up I might say "You might try some fenugreek and a nursing vacation to help your supply come back", and then I will have to put a little disclaimer on there saying "but you are not a failure if you have to switch to formula, you tried your best!" Or if someone is having trouble with a colicky baby, I might suggests a sling. If someone is considering CIO, I will say "have you considered co-sleeping?" and describe all the benefits of it.
Hmmmm, I thought that since I was posting on MDC about moms on a mainstream board, that they would know that I was talking about moms who's babies never left the carseat except for a diaper change, or whose kids toddled around the house in a walker alllll day with juice bottle in hand etc. I personally have nothing against "containment devices" as long as they are limited to 10 minutes a day etc. I have on many occasions left my baby in the car seat when she fell asleep and needed a nap. You know, this reminds me of when I post on my mainstream board, I have to write a disclaimer to every statement I make, because someone is bound to take it out of context that I am being judgemental. But I figured that on MDC, people would understand what I mean.
Well, since you do seem to enjoy bashing me today, I will go ahead and list all those things. Well lets see, first there's my bouncer. Like I said earlier, since we all need to put our babies down somewhere where they will be happy, I chose that because it is somewhere where she can sit up, and it supports her correctly. I have a swing that was given to us. And while it has never even had a battery, she did sleep in it for the first 5 months of her life. She had severe GERD and choked on her own stomach contents when put on her back. I did not feel like going out and buying a crib so I could use a Tucker sling, so I put her in the swing next to my bed at night so that she could be elevated. Oh, and she even has a binkie, because I do not feel like holding my nipple in her mouth all night after she falls asleep. I have carried her in the car seat when she was sleeping, and I even used it to put her to sleep. I had her in the hospital because I could not find a MW willing to HB in my area. Where she then got a HepB shot, Vit K shot, and eye goup because due to medical complications with me, my husband did not follow her to the nursery to make sure they followed our birth plan that she was not to get any of those things. Yes she does wear cloth diapers, because before I came to MDC, I had never heard of EC. Hmm what else makes me a "bad mother" that you can further attack me for.....I still don't feel that "bond" with my baby that every good mother is supposed to have. She is extremely high needs, and I have never been able to just sit and spend quality time with her. I have to be walking around bouncing her, thinking of different things to distract her from the pain of her reflux. She is 7 months old, and I still have not had one day where I don't cry and feel like pulling my hair out. I have shut myself off from the world because everyone blames her behavior on my parenting. As a result of that, no one else but me can hold her (not even dad). At least once a week, I feel like dropping her off at the hospital and driving far far away. It has taken me over 3 hours (and counting) to write all this, becuase when she naps, she only stays asleep for about 10minutes at a time and I have to keep going and nursing her back to sleep so she gets a decent amount of napping in. So yes, I am a horrible mother, and I find the comments that I "put myself up on a pedestal" (just because I wanted to defend people who don't use a bumbo )extremely hurtful. I have never felt like a better mother than anybody I've ever known.
Wow, I think that was definetely uncalled for. I never brought up the subject of FFing at all. Furthermore, how do you know that my child is biological, or that I even chose to breastfeed? I can understand if you disagree with me that I don't think that bumbos are necessary for everybody, but I think you are taking this way too far here.
This is exactly why I post on a mainstream board, and usually only lurk on MDC. Because even though I am the complete opposite parenting style of the people over there, and it breaks my heart to read about all the poor babies crying until they are hoarse, or having to get fitted with a helmet for positional plagiocephy, at least over there, if you make a comment that someone disagrees with, they do not call you names, attack you personally or your character. They disagree with you and tell you why. While I disagreed with people that a bumbo is the only way that your baby won't suffer needlessly if you are a single mom and you need to put them down, but I NEVER said that anyone who used one was a bad mom or attacked them personally like what was done to me here.
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 I'm guessing you don't "hold down the fort" as much as "keep the mommy wars' fires blazing."
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And SO WHAT if someone uses a walker and their baby likes it? Or if they use a baby bucket sometimes? I know BILLIONS of AP moms who occasionally make use of these items. Hey, I admit, I rejoice when I see a mom in the mall with her baby in a sling and no stroller. But most moms with slings IME also have a stroller with them. I HATE to see a baby carried around by a handle when they ought to be carried close. But if your babe is asleep in their carseat and you choose to leave them sleeping in there while you shop or come in from your car and put away groceries.... There is a place for righteous indignation... and there is a place for accepting moms who make judicious use of modern babycare items.
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Heck, I could jump down your throat for using diapers instead of doing the natural thing and ec'ing. I have a feeling if I did a little home inspection I could find lots of things to judge you for.
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As soon as you're done berating adoptive moms for supplementing their induced lactation with formula, I'm sure I'll have the pleasure of reading your reply.
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This is exactly why I post on a mainstream board, and usually only lurk on MDC. Because even though I am the complete opposite parenting style of the people over there, and it breaks my heart to read about all the poor babies crying until they are hoarse, or having to get fitted with a helmet for positional plagiocephy, at least over there, if you make a comment that someone disagrees with, they do not call you names, attack you personally or your character. They disagree with you and tell you why. While I disagreed with people that a bumbo is the only way that your baby won't suffer needlessly if you are a single mom and you need to put them down, but I NEVER said that anyone who used one was a bad mom or attacked them personally like what was done to me here.
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I'm not understanding. Bon bons, birds chirping, angels singing? Where did you get that from? Is that sarcasm or thinly veiled hostility? 
. Or have them advertise with MDC 
: ) and I always hated wearing my sling in public because my boob would litterally smoosh out the side where the ring is. I swear, it looked like my boob was right about where my hip was. SO embarassing. 
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