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post #101 of 122
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Originally Posted by JeDeeLenae View Post
Just wanted to clarify my point... I'm not trying to "defend" circ'd sex, just saying that not everyone experiences the jackhammered, sore for 2 days, need extra lube feeling. It was just kind of offensive to me for there to be a blanket statement about it when individual experiences are different. And even though I don't have 30 years of comparison, I can also add my 2 cents. Doesn't make my experience more or less valuable. My DH is very sensitive and maybe he has a little extra skin or some remaining foreskin... I haven't gone there in a while... but I think it really depends on the guy too, not just whether they are cut or intact.

ditto!
There was a previous post where someone said "about some ladies who don't have discomfort maybe in denial"?? It isn't painful or uncomfortable with my dh who is circ. I am not in denial.
post #102 of 122
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Originally Posted by mom2seven View Post
Didn't read the entire thread, but a strong 'fishy' odor is associated with trichomoniasis in women. I'm assuming this could be the case in an intact male as well.
Could be. Could also be that he doesn't retract and wash under his foreskin when he bathes. My DH always does (he's a clean penis freak ), but if he doesn't wash after intercourse and goes to bed, he always has a funky odor the next morning.

I can only imagine what it would be like if he never retracted his foreskin and washed under it. :

Speaking from experience, I've been with a lot of circumcised men, and I much prefer sex with my intact DH. I dont' get dry or sore at all.
post #103 of 122
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when he is erect, you can see the circ scar about half way down his penis,
my dh too.
post #104 of 122
I am generally a lurker, but I had to come out and post when I read this one. I have to say that the #1 reason I made my decision not to circumcise if I ever have a son is because of the experience I've had with both intact/circumcised men. There is no question in my mind what the circumcised men are lacking because I've lived and witnessed it. I have also experienced many of the negatives of sex with circumcised men that others wrote about. The intact men are just perfectly intune to my rhythms during intercourse. Not to mention giving oral sex and foreplay don't work that well when a guy is circumcised.

I know there are women out there who have cut men who might be mad about what I am writing. And, I am not writing this to hurt them, but after a while you just see a trend with the circumcised guys when you've had it both ways (a lot ). It's not their fault either, and I feel bad for the guys they don't know what they're missing.

So no tomato throwing! : Just sharing.
post #105 of 122
As far as I know I have only been with circ'd men (My first was loosely circ'd, my dh is circ'd, and my first's father, I'm not sure about, I never even saw his penis, lol). I have issues with the dryness, pain, etc and dh has problems with sensitivity. Anywho...some of the women I have known who have had it both way didnt notice any difference. However, all of them (3 that I can think of) are very, um, hypersexual? I mean, they dont need much to get them off, if that makes sense. However, with the women who were more like me and have a hard time getting there (I have never had an O during sex), they have said that intact was WAY better.
Also, fishy smell is a common sign of yeast infections too. That's what tipped me off when I had one (one and only time!)
post #106 of 122
Whatever you're doing to it, the foreskin glides over the shaft, making for less friction. In my experience it makes oral sex easier and regular sex "smoother". Though there are lots of circumcised men out there who enjoy sex, and are absolutely wonderful at it.
Whether or not a man is circ'ed is not the end all and be all of sexual experience. But yes, it does help.: And my boys will definately be left intact.
post #107 of 122
My ex who is intact had orgasms before 'climaxing' and he would do this kind of 'gasping grunt' sometimes would arrange 4-6 x he would 'be a long goer too and even a 'quadruple goer' if not a too tired out work day. I would even get 'multiple orgasms' as I recall of a UK magazines that says ways to work up on Multiple Orgasms' then with Cosmo USA it talks of 'sex hints for 'better sex'. I found it oddly interesting in comparison since UK is more likely intact unless they 'have american's there .

The only time I heard gasping grunt with circ men was when they were climaxing.

Remember the 'joke on Grease' that I'm trying to 'remember 'someone as one of the TBirds says it only takes I can't remember the minutes and I actually have the 'grease movie but it's in california in my ex apartment ergh . but it was kinda short kind of minute I think please help me 'refresh my memory' .
post #108 of 122
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Originally Posted by TigerTail View Post
Oh honey, it's ALWAYS the women who get in the orgasm pissing contests that are full of it! You're *fine*.
lol, thanks! like another poster said, i think my sil is one of those women that are 'hypersexual.'
post #109 of 122
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Originally Posted by DocsNemesis View Post
Also, fishy smell is a common sign of yeast infections too. That's what tipped me off when I had one (one and only time!)
I'm pretty sure fishy is bacterial vaginosis.

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Originally Posted by desertpenguin
i don't really want to spend the rest of our sex lives always just waiting for him to get it over with and leave me alone so i can do my own thing.
Is he not willing to do anything else for you, either before or after? :
post #110 of 122
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Originally Posted by paquerette View Post

Is he not willing to do anything else for you, either before or after? :
half the time he does before, but never after. i've only orgasmed while doing stuff sexually with him twice, and that was with a lot of help from me.

we had another discussion about restoration this morning, and i told him everything there was for me to say, so i don't think i'll bring it up again. for sure now he knows why we don't have sex as often as we used to, and i think i may have finally made my point. but we'll see if he does anything about it. i want him to want to restore, not to feel forced by me to do it. so i'm not 'holding out' or anything, but things probably aren't going to change much otherwise, and i think he knows that.
post #111 of 122
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Originally Posted by JenniferH View Post
Could be. Could also be that he doesn't retract and wash under his foreskin when he bathes. My DH always does (he's a clean penis freak ), but if he doesn't wash after intercourse and goes to bed, he always has a funky odor the next morning.

I can only imagine what it would be like if he never retracted his foreskin and washed under it. :

Speaking from experience, I've been with a lot of circumcised men, and I much prefer sex with my intact DH. I dont' get dry or sore at all.
I've found that I wash after sex now, no matter what. If I don't I tend to get a yeast infection. He washes before and after too- just a quick rinse and wipe-off.
post #112 of 122
I think intact is much nicer and it makes sense that it would contribute to nice gliding. But when it really comes down to it, natural lubrication and size influence pleasure/discomfort much more.

IME
post #113 of 122
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Originally Posted by sphinxie View Post
I think intact is much nicer and it makes sense that it would contribute to nice gliding. But when it really comes down to it, natural lubrication and size influence pleasure/discomfort much more.

IME
I've found that its the MAN'S pleasure that helps with the woman's pleasure- that is, intact men feel more and more delicately and therefore are more likely to "get it" about what women need and want. So, if he has to be rough and forceful to obtain any pleasure from sex, then he's obviously going to think that a woman needs that too. It can make for quite the "stand-still" sometimes.
post #114 of 122
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Originally Posted by Nathan1097 View Post
I've found that its the MAN'S pleasure that helps with the woman's pleasure- that is, intact men feel more and more delicately and therefore are more likely to "get it" about what women need and want. So, if he has to be rough and forceful to obtain any pleasure from sex, then he's obviously going to think that a woman needs that too. It can make for quite the "stand-still" sometimes.
Especially when the circ'd man has previously been with either lying or hypersexual women who told him he was great...hard to bring down the ego gently. He thinks something is wrong with me because that other girl looooved it.
post #115 of 122
If by hypersexual you mean them womens that are always screaming their fool heads off like in porn movies . I always just classified them with the liars, just ones that are lying to themselves as well.

Swing clubs in the 70s... Let's just say I saw a lot of that. (Hey, I was just there for the buffet. They always had a nice turkey dinner.)

Deeply passionate women may well be loud, licentious, & highly orgasmic, but they generally don't brag (or put other women down), & don't put on a bravura performance (and really ruin things for every nice, normal woman that comes after them & dares to say things like, "hey, could you... a little to the left" & blows guys minds that they aren't the magical stud that that they thought they were; that a little finesse goes farther than pounding a woman's head rhythmically into the headboard).

On a side note, I think the whole rationale of lying to men with fake orgasms just to shut them up & get them to finish does a disservice to everyone- men, because I've yet to meet a man that doesn't prefer candor (they WANT to please, God bless them), & women, because you get this whole 'that other girl looooved it' thing that is so screwing it up for other women.

I don't hate my own kind, & I have no reason to want a man I've broken up with to leave the relationship a worse lover- I'd feel that would reflect really badly on me .
post #116 of 122
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Originally Posted by twins10705 View Post
Especially when the circ'd man has previously been with either lying or hypersexual women who told him he was great...hard to bring down the ego gently. He thinks something is wrong with me because that other girl looooved it.
ITA!! are we with the same man??
post #117 of 122
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Originally Posted by TigerTail View Post
Deeply passionate women may well be loud, licentious, & highly orgasmic, but they generally don't brag (or put other women down), & don't put on a bravura performance (and really ruin things for every nice, normal woman that comes after them & dares to say things like, "hey, could you... a little to the left" & blows guys minds that they aren't the magical stud that that they thought they were; that a little finesse goes farther than pounding a woman's head rhythmically into the headboard).
post #118 of 122
Interesting rapid new restoration technique at:

http://home.epix.net/~wbpa/results.htm (note: ~ mark)
post #119 of 122
I totally missed this thread until now. Damn.
Now I'm really upset.

I have only been w/ two men, both circ'd, and I always thought the problems were my fault. DH is circ'd, and he believes its a good thing (cleanliness, etc.) and doesn't really believe that if he had a foreskin he'd feel more pleasure. He things its a load of bull, to put it bluntly.

This sucks.
post #120 of 122
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Originally Posted by MommytoB View Post
My ex who is intact had orgasms before 'climaxing' and he would do this kind of 'gasping grunt' sometimes would arrange 4-6 x he would 'be a long goer too and even a 'quadruple goer' if not a too tired out work day.
I know what you're talking about! My intact partner does this too- its like he stops, does a small inward gasp and rests for a moment. Sometimes he just stops altogether for a few minutes and we sit and chat. After a while, though, there is nothing he can do about it. Sometimes, it catches him off guard. But that's rare and after several of these "gasps"- not early on without ANY like I've experienced with circ'd guys.
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