A question about sex with a circumcised man - Page 2

[paquerette]

to the mamas who are just figuring it out. I used to think it was me that had a problem, too.

And don't give up on the idea of restoring. Just slowly work on introducing the concept.

Erica, it could be that he was one of the ones subjected to repeated forced premature retraction and is thus more susceptible to chronic infections. Just because he didn't have STD's doesn't mean he didn't have something else going on. Maybe yeast.

[l_olive]

If you're looking for sexual reasons not to circ, you might want to read the stories in this thread.

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=469671

--Olive

[EricaLeigh]

I'm not talking about a sweat smell, I'm talking about a VERY strong rotting fish smell. Sorry to be so blunt but it was just terriable! I'm glad that this is an isolated case! Thanks ladies for chiming in!

[LoveChild421]

Originally Posted by sandals

Would it be safe to say that sex with an intact man would lead to less "soreness"? (A friend says she gets "a little sore" after sex but that it's not related to size or anything but more like "rubbing"). I've never experienced this problem.

absolutely. Having sex with a circed man is like getting jackhammered (unless he is very consciously trying not to) whereas having sex with an intact man is like gliding and grinding together in perfect rhythm.

[mama_at_home]

I used to think that soreness and feeling rubbed raw were just a normal part of sex. It always confused me and I thought our Creator must have made a mistake because sex was painful and required artificical lube. I thought, geez, couldn't He have made it so it worked better? Obviously now I know that men were created perfectly and sex is supposed to be so much better.

[mimim]

It's been a long time since I was with a man who was circumcized, but I never noticed any difference.

[twins10705]

Originally Posted by mika85

me too.

honestly i've never been a big fan of intercourse, and all my partners have been circ'd. it is like "being poked with a broomstick" (not that i've ever done that! but ya know), its never felt good. plus you have to use lube every time. before i came here and found out how circing affects intercourse, i always thought that there was something wrong with ME. intact sex seems waaaaaay better because of course, its natural and how it SHOULD be. it isn't the most important aspect of a relationship, but it sucks when you can't be intimate without some level of discomfort involved.

Yeah, this it my experience too...except I have stinging reactions to most lubes -- and they feel disgusting to me...they also make me feel like it is too slippery and I feel like I'm going to get hurt worse(like poked in the vaginal wall at high speed). I can't believe all these years, I thought it was my dysfuction...even the women I know tell me that it is my problem and I must be too dry and should go "get some meds for that". Unreal. This is why I haven't had sex(other than 2 or 3 times we began but had to stop because of how terribly uncomfortable it was) in nearly two years. DH won't restore..and I wonder just how long a marriage can last with no intimacy or sex of any kind.

[witchbaby]

Originally Posted by Lila

This all makes me really sad that dh is c'd.

all this info makes my husband sad and angry he was circ'd.

[dynamohumm6]

Well, remember...that's the point of circumcision at the very heart of it. To reduce the pleasureable feelings. It was intended to just reduce it in men, but wouldn't ya know...double bonus, it works on women, too.

Wouldn't want people actually having sex for FUN, you know.

[KnitLady]

Originally Posted by Lila

This all makes me really sad that dh is c'd.

: : Just another thing to "love" my MIL for...screwing up our sex life.

[TigerTail]

Yes, & for the people (men & women) who say everything is FINE, I just have one thing to say: get back with me in thirty years. My tolerance for being jackhammered gets lower with every passing year.

Poor dh. Poor me. Poor mil for being societally pressured into doing it.

[dynamohumm6]

Originally Posted by TigerTail

Yes, & for the people (men & women) who say everything is FINE, I just have one thing to say: get back with me in thirty years. My tolerance for being jackhammered gets lower with every passing year.

Poor dh. Poor me. Poor mil for being societally pressured into doing it.

that's what I'm worried about.

[Lila]

Originally Posted by gemelos

I used to think that soreness and feeling rubbed raw were just a normal part of sex. It always confused me and I thought our Creator must have made a mistake because sex was painful and required artificical lube. I thought, geez, couldn't He have made it so it worked better? Obviously now I know that men were created perfectly and sex is supposed to be so much better.

I KNOW!!!
DH & I were both virgins when we got married. My mom gave me a "manual," a book about sex written from a Christian perspective. It was a great book, but I remember having those same thoughts- why does the author say to use lubricant? Have women through all time had to go in search of some artificial lube? It didn't sound characteristic of the thoughtful, loving, gentle Creator I know. Intimacy has never been easy for me, and now that I know the truth I am angry.

[JeDeeLenae]

Just wanted to chime in here... my DH is circ'd and we've never had to use lube and there's never been the jackhammer issue either. Maybe we're rare, but in my entire sex life, I haven't had either problem.

[Shirelle]

I'm not talking about a sweat smell, I'm talking about a VERY strong rotting fish smell. Sorry to be so blunt but it was just terriable! I'm glad that this is an isolated case! Thanks ladies for chiming in!

Hmm.....I'm not sure. My dh is uncirc'd (and I never realized how lucky I was until I came here!) and he has never had a smell.

[TigerTail]

Originally Posted by JeDeeLenae

Just wanted to chime in here... my DH is circ'd and we've never had to use lube and there's never been the jackhammer issue either. Maybe we're rare, but in my entire sex life, I haven't had either problem.

Ah, but have you been 'doing it' for thirty years? In my early twenties I might've said 'no problem' either. But vaginal mucusal skin gets thinner; circ'd men have to pump harder.

[muckemom]

I've been with both... there is much more sensation for me, at least, with an intact man. I can't get too far into it without violating the UA but it is really not as satisfying with a circumsized man.

[AngelBee]

Originally Posted by sandals

Would it be safe to say that sex with an intact man would lead to less "soreness"? (A friend says she gets "a little sore" after sex but that it's not related to size or anything but more like "rubbing"). I've never experienced this problem.

That sounds right. That sometimes happens to me and dh is circ.

[AngelBee]

Originally Posted by Lila

This all makes me really sad that dh is c'd.

[Canadianmommax3]

Originally Posted by JeDeeLenae

Just wanted to chime in here... my DH is circ'd and we've never had to use lube and there's never been the jackhammer issue either. Maybe we're rare, but in my entire sex life, I haven't had either problem.

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