My dd is only 2.5, so there's still plenty of time for change, but she was a really intense, high-needs baby who has mellowed out in a big way. When she was a baby, all my mom friends felt sorry for me, and now they envy me, LOL! She was so intense as a baby -- nursing all the time, had to be touching my body 24 hours a day, separation anxiety starting at 2.5 months, easily upset, determined to do things her own way (refused to ever let me feed her with a spoon and wouldn't eat solids at all until she could pick them up and feed herself) -- that I was really worried about the toddler years. Strangely, she is one of the easiest 2 year olds I have ever seen. Very compliant, very accepting of things, potty-trained very easily a few months ago, and now goes down for naps and nighttime all by herself in her own room with just stories, a lullaby tape, and a goodnight kiss from me.
owensmom, my dd was just like your ds -- very cautious about everything. All the other babies I would see would fall down constantly as they were learning how to walk and run -- my dd walked late, and almost never fell down during the whole process. She didn't crawl until 11 months, and didn't walk until almost 15 months. She's still the same way -- really has to warm up to new situations before feeling comfortable. I have learned the hard way not to rush the process! A recent example is the YMCA open gym near us that has a big trampoline. She was watching the other kids, and I thought she would like it, so I asked her if she wanted to try it, and she said no. I was convinced that she just needed to try it to see how fun it was, and climbed up on it with her -- of course, she protested vehemently and we had to get down right away. The next 10 times we went, she refused to go on it. After that, she would talk about the trampoline at home and tell me she had gone on it or that she would go on it next time. A few weeks of that, and she was willing to go on it -- for about 30 seconds. Then she insisted on getting down. The next few times, she would get on and get right off. Finally, this week, after we have gone to this open gym about 20 times, she wanted to go on, and bounced around happily for about 5 mintues! This is a very common experience with her.