Wow, i see him changing so much!!

[Canadianmommax3]

My ds is 11 he will be 12 in April, ( i am going to start crying now) i know this sounds weird, but i see him changing so much. Not exactly becoming a man but just growing up (voice, his actions) it is so strange!! I just see something i haven't seen before.
Why did i not notice these changes as much when he was younger?

I also have to say he is so sweet to his little sister.

[NiBeKa]

I totally understand what you mean. I look at pics and think I miss those little boys. Where did they go? and when? I think you notice it more now because instead of just a physical change he's becoming a real person (crazy way to put it). It's great that you see these changes even though you don't want him to get there yet. It's rather bittersweet. Our job is to raise wonderful little people to adulthood and when we start to see them approach it, we're not ready. Can you tell it's a sensitive subject with me too? OK now I'm crying too.
Enjoy your "baby boy", the next several years can be wonderful.

[Canadianmommax3]

thankyou for understanding!!

[UnschoolnMa]

I understand and have (am still?) BTDT. My Ds is 15 and well into the whole puberty thing but I still see new things. Dd is about to be 13 and I see the changes a lot in her. She has matured mentally in the last year quite a bit.

[nolonger]

I think the changes really must accelerate at this age. I miss my babies and my toddlers, but I miss my 13 year old and my 16 year old just as much.

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If it's any consolation at all, 12 and 13 are some of my very favourite ages for boys. They're such independent, intelligent, well-formed human beings but they don't seem to have the hormonal/sexual issues that girls do at that age. They can be so sweet and gentle and devoted to younger kids and mamas who need a bit of help or just some kindness.

I hope you enjoy every moment of this time with your young man; it goes by so quickly.

[Canadianmommax3]

thankyou!!

[tinybutterfly]

I have an 18 year old and a 12 year old...both boys. I know what you are talking about.

[Storm Bride]

Originally Posted by noordinaryspider

If it's any consolation at all, 12 and 13 are some of my very favourite ages for boys. They're such independent, intelligent, well-formed human beings but they don't seem to have the hormonal/sexual issues that girls do at that age.

I'm finding the same thing with ds1. He's so obviously not a "kid", anymore (the being taller than me thing is a bit clue!), but he's still...uncomplicated, in some ways. He's getting a little moody, and more sensitive to perceived criticism than he used to be. But, he definitely lacks that sexual edge that I remember with me, my sister and our friends at the same age. I'm not looking forward to that stage, honestly...but this is life. (He has great taste in girls, though...I know who his "crushes" have been so far, and they're really talented, intelligent, kind, friendly, strong girls.)

[Canadianmommax3]

well my "baby" came home and told me has his first girlfriend, she asked him out. Well actually the way they do it is they get their friend to ask the person if they're interested. Than relay the message back to friend lol!

My son asked me if i was mad he had a gf, i said no just treat her with respect and no making out! (just too see what he would say) he said ewww mom that's gross!!
Whew!!!!