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post #21 of 109
My mom did. AFAIK, no one in my family (in the sense of my ancestors) was given commercial formula as a mainstay. Both of my grandmothers breastfed, and their mothers were both rural farm wives for whom purchased formula wouldn't really have been an option (early 20th Century.) So the babies in my family who were born when formula was available, were breastfed instead.

MIL would never have considered it, and she's uncomfortable with me bf my kids. Her loss.
post #22 of 109
My mom bf all 3 of her children. My MIL tried with her two oldest, but had the standard hospital births of the 60s/70s and only made it to 2 weeks and then 1 week. My dh, #3, was exclusively ff. However, my SIL bf all four of hers for at least one year, so I have great support on both sides of the family (although I am the first to nurse well past one year....and two years....and three years. )
post #23 of 109
Mom, yes, 5 kids, all for 10-12 mos. She says we all weaned ourselves - I think what happened is that we got very accustomed to solids/sippy cups because we started earlier than 6 mos and she was working part time so she wasn't always available to us, so it wasn't forceful weaning but it wasn't exactly child-led, either. She thinks she's supportive of me nursing toddlers (Griff nursed to 23 mos, Reese is still nursing a lot at 15 mos) but it feels more like she expects me to want to be done and wants me to feel like it's ok to quit if I want. I don't think she believes me that I don't want to quit. Whatever.

MIL didn't breastfeed but has never given me any flack about it and is supportive. Sometimes too supportive - I think she's afraid to criticize me.
post #24 of 109
My grandmother nursed all her kids for 6 months in the 1940's. My mom nursed all of us exclusively for about 6 months and then started solids. My brother for a year (born in 1972 - weaned when she was pregnant with my sister), my sister for a year (born in 1973 - story is my sister self-weaned) and me (born in 1978) I was exclusively breastfed for 6 months and then started on solids. Then at 18 months I got sick and couldn't keep any food down and for 18 months I was again exclusively breastfed till I was 3. I finally weaned when I was almost 4.

It was a HUGE factor in my keeping up with the breastfeeding since I was 16, married and on my own, had PPD, painful nipples and was beyond exhausted with a high needs baby. I felt that my mom would disown me or forever be disappointed in me if I gave up so I didn't. Then later of course I came to be 100% solid in my own right and more of a lactavist than her.

all the women in DH's family FF from birth.

Laura
post #25 of 109
My mom nursed all 3 of her kids until we more or less self-weaned (but all at less than 2 years, so I think we had some prodding on that ). My mom was ff herself but my dad was a big breastfeeding advocate (and had been breastfed himself, having been born in rural Nova Scotia in 1921). Both my parents were very anti-formula and always went on and on about how not breastfeeding messed kids up good.

I of course assumed I would breastfeed and never even pump and give a bottle. My body had other ideas and refused to spring back, after delivering several litres of blood along with a baby, to produce a full supply, so I ended up having to supplement for a time. So my family's anti-formula stance was a bit of a mixed blessing. I had a HUGE amount of guilt and self-loathing for having to give formula, but it was also a strong incentive to keep pumping and nursing as much as possible so that eventually I DID have a full supply.

MIL ff all 3 of her kids, even though she knew breastmilk was better, because "they'd been enough of an inconvenience already". Thank god DH is super-supportive of me breastfeeding. MIL isn't unsupportive, she just doesn't understand why it's so important.
post #26 of 109
My Mom bf all three of us, only for about 5 mos though. I always knew I would bf my kids because of her. My MIL bf all seven of her kids and CLW all of them (she basically bf for 20+ years straight! ). She has definitely influenced me in my choice to CLW my ds.
post #27 of 109
Neither my mom nor MIL bfed their kids.

It didn't influence me. I knew I was going to breastfeed. I never even considered formula.

My sisters all breastfed their kids but not for all that long.
post #28 of 109
My mom BF me for 16/17 months. She has always talked to me often and in depth about her experience BFing me- it was a wonderful one. Hearing her talk about it my whole life certainly influenced my decision to BF. Actually, it was never really a decision I had to make, I just always knew I would.

My MIL... who knows. I have only met her and my SIL once each, and neither of them seem the "type" to BF. They both consider themselves "modern career women" I think... so I really doubt it.
post #29 of 109
My mom nursed both myself and my brother for quite some time... she jokes that she thought she'd have to come to kindergarten and nurse me at snack time!
post #30 of 109
My mother did not BF me. My MIL BF DH. Neither influenced me. I didn't even know I was formula fed until after DD was born.
post #31 of 109
I come from one of those rare and abnormal families where EVERYONE BF (we also all used cloth diapers, even in the 1990's when you could easeily get spoies).
My great grandmother did, and her daughters did as did my mom. Same on my dad's side. All my aunts did as well. We were rural farmer people, so I wonder sometimes if that was why (after all, the momma cow feeds her babies, right?) Generally we were all weaned by 10 or 11 months because as my mother said: I had to many things to get done rather than to sit and nurse!

My DH's mother was very urban, wanted to be very hip, talks about always doing the latest thing (she has redecorated her bathroom twice in our 5 years of marraige). One time she didn't bath his sister in 1958 for a few weeks because they told her all she needed to do was clean the baby with baby oil! Anyway - she FF all of her kids and said with my Dh, who was an accident and came much later in 1974 she said she got the "Milk shot" so her milk would dry up, but she still had it. So the Dr told her to try and nurse!?! So she nursed DH for about 3 or 4 months.


So guess who is supportive of me nursing past 6 months.

Uh - not my mother! I think in her day it was a sign you were poor, which is one of the reasons she did it, so she is very much against it! DH's mother and family are supportive. (Its about the ONLY thing they are supportive about... but that is a whole nother thread: ) It is hip now again - so Dh's mother is all about that.
post #32 of 109
my mom breastfed all 3 of us, my sis for 2 1/2 years, me for 3 1/2 years and my brother for over 4 years. My bro and I are 2 yrs apart so she tandemed. I was 11 weeks premature and was in the hospital for a long time so she hand expressed. My mom definitely influenced my decision to breastfeed. Growing up that was all I knew, I was much older when I realized that some people actually bottle fed with formula.

MIL, I'm not sure I've never asked her but DH says he doesn't think he was breastfed.
post #33 of 109
My mom did not BF me or my brother. As far as I know MIL did not BF her three kids. Not sure about my grandmothers. Both of my aunts BF my cousins, but I'm not sure for how long.

None of this influenced my decision to BF. Both my parents and the ILs are very supportive of me BF DS. As a matter of fact, MIL has become quite the lactivist!

My SIL was BF her first child while she and MIL were at lunch. I guess SIL was struggling with the latch and was quite uncomfortable NIP. A man sitting at the next table made a comment about "being inappropriate to BF in public" or something obnoxious. MIL fired right back and replied "I guess it doesn't bother you to have breasts in your face when you're at a strip club rather than being at home!" She's quite cool about speaking her mind like that.
post #34 of 109
My mom bf us (3 kiddos) for about 6 weeks each, then on to formula because she would get terrible nipple pain at that point. I do remember watching her nurse my brother though, one of my few bf memories from childhood.

MIL never nursed any of her 3. In fact I dont know anyone from dh's side of the family who has breastfed

I've always known I would breastfeed my children, even nursed my dolls Neither my mother or MIL have influenced my bfing, except to nurse longer in spite of them
post #35 of 109
My mom did. So it always seemed pretty normal to me. My MIL didn't, but SIL did, so his family had gotten used to the idea.
post #36 of 109
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Originally Posted by jlwagner View Post
My Mom bf all three of us, only for about 5 mos though. I always knew I would bf my kids because of her. My MIL bf all seven of her kids and CLW all of them (she basically bf for 20+ years straight! ). She has definitely influenced me in my choice to CLW my ds.
Can you tell me what CLW is? I'm guessing something to do with weaning maybe?
post #37 of 109
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I come from one of those rare and abnormal families where EVERYONE BF (we also all used cloth diapers, even in the 1990's when you could easeily get spoies).
My great grandmother did, and her daughters did as did my mom. Same on my dad's side. All my aunts did as well. We were rural farmer people, so I wonder sometimes if that was why (after all, the momma cow feeds her babies, right?) Generally we were all weaned by 10 or 11 months because as my mother said: I had to many things to get done rather than to sit and nurse!

My DH's mother was very urban, wanted to be very hip, talks about always doing the latest thing (she has redecorated her bathroom twice in our 5 years of marraige). One time she didn't bath his sister in 1958 for a few weeks because they told her all she needed to do was clean the baby with baby oil! Anyway - she FF all of her kids and said with my Dh, who was an accident and came much later in 1974 she said she got the "Milk shot" so her milk would dry up, but she still had it. So the Dr told her to try and nurse!?! So she nursed DH for about 3 or 4 months.


So guess who is supportive of me nursing past 6 months.

Uh - not my mother! I think in her day it was a sign you were poor, which is one of the reasons she did it, so she is very much against it! DH's mother and family are supportive. (Its about the ONLY thing they are supportive about... but that is a whole nother thread: ) It is hip now again - so Dh's mother is all about that.
Interesting that your mom doesn't support it now. That's too bad. Good for you for doing it anyway!
post #38 of 109
MIL bfed all of her kids. My mom didn't BF either of us.

Neither had any bearing on my decision.
post #39 of 109
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Originally Posted by bauchtanz View Post

Uh - not my mother! I think in her day it was a sign you were poor, which is one of the reasons she did it, so she is very much against it!
I've heard that from other people to...that BF used to be associated with poverty. Wonder if that was an advertising ploy from the formula companies!?Hmmm...I think it's good no matter economic status, one of those class equalizing things we can all give our kids!
post #40 of 109
My mother did not. She had zero support from her family (her sister actually asked me when my ds was born if I had 'the shot' yet...ya know...the one that dries up your milk so you can't bf). She had a ton of support from my bio-dad's family - especially from my bio-gma and my bio-aunt - but given the circumstances, she didn't really want their advice, I think.

My MIL on the other hand bf'd all 3 of her kids. Not for any extended period of time - my BIL until he was 9 months or so, my DH until 7 months (MIL said he nearly bit her nipple off - that was the last time she nursed him ) and my SIL until maybe 10 months? Their entire family is pretty pro-bfing though. My GMIL always is commenting on how great it is to see me nursing my dd - and that I should continue to for as long as she likes.
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