OK, I'm going to try to do this without pissing anybody off :
It took me a while to figure out what was bothering me. At first it was the whole idea that intact sex must be better, somehow, that the grass is greener, etc, and that you/they/she must be missing out by never being with an intact man. And in my experience, that just isn't true.
Now, though, I understand the problem is deeper for some, and although that seemed to be the original "issue" of the thread, the posts that followed brought up different issues.
I am still puzzled by the women who carry so much sadness/anger re: their DH's circ. I guess - because of my life experience or just because that's the way I've always been - I've learned to accept that things are just the way they are, and why put so much energy into something you can't change? (I'm thinking specifically about the poster(s) who said she cries just thinking about her DH's circ.)
I know it's not the equivalent, but I don't understand it any more than someone mourning the fact that their partner's finger was cut off in a schoolyard accident. Yes, it's horrible, and yes we wish it never happened, and yes, even, it might affect the things he is able to do or how he functions, but why not deal with the fact that it happened and move on? Figure out how you can, realistically, make the situation better, and direct your energy toward that.
IMO, there is very little to be gained by anger directed toward DH's parents/doctors/society for something that happened 20 or 30 or more years ago. The world was a different place then, and his parents aren't you, and you wouldn't make that choice...
I felt the same way when I read this post originally. I actually called my DW from work because I was so offended by the idea that a woman could talk down about her husband or partner because of something they had no control of. I do understand that for some people, sex could be better, but I don't think that excuses belittling or talking bad about one's partner because of choices made by their parents so long ago. I'm not going to say much more than this, because I don't want to hurt any feelings, but this thread made me really uncomfortable.