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post #141 of 173
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Originally Posted by Mom2Natalya View Post


Cheer up!

Hugs!!
How utterly patronizing.
post #142 of 173
What is the motivation here? The angle of all these newish posters saying it's no big deal, as though some of us have not had enough experience with an intact penis to know the difference?
post #143 of 173
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Originally Posted by Mom2Natalya View Post

There's some nice friction, but nothing that you can't get from angle and position in a cut men.
Cheer up!

Hugs!!
Hm...since when is lack of friction the problem here?

I've had enough "friction" for two lifetimes..thanks!
post #144 of 173
Yeah, I wondered about that too. Not really a firm grasp of the problem, wot?
post #145 of 173
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Originally Posted by TigerTail View Post
What is the motivation here? The angle of all these newish posters saying it's no big deal, as though some of us have not had enough experience with an intact penis to know the difference?
The intent was probably for those of us who haven't known an intact man to not be so much jelous. I doubt the pp actually wanted to say that those of us with problems should just get over it. I didn't read a "you don't have any problems" attitude, it was more of a "you're not missing THAT much so don't fret about it" attitude.
Perhaps she would like to come back and explain it for us?
post #146 of 173
>.>

Some days I wanna rent my DH out for $50 a shot...

Any takers? I trained him myself....
post #147 of 173
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Originally Posted by Pandora114 View Post
>.>

Some days I wanna rent my DH out for $50 a shot...

Any takers? I trained him myself....
Pandora?
post #148 of 173
>.>


Well I *AM* Gonna be giving birth in December..there *Will* be that 6wk + Period of abstinence..

I'm willing to share! 'twill be the season after all..

>.>
post #149 of 173
FWIW, why do so many men and women assume that what they experience is the only variation or norm that is out there?? I mean Brandi-- maybe you are just lucky because your body is very accomodating or whatever??

And this is not only experience, but how their body is formed/shaped/ or in the case of circ. altered. And of course, why do so many of doctors assume this. too. And for doctors I can add, why do they assume that every birth, episiotomy or other surgery has a 'standard' recovery, etc?

Some of this we just don't talk about. But I for one was glad that I discovered I wasn't the only person that took 6 months rather than 6 weeks to recover from birth-- and saddened to learn that it was much more common than anyone lets on? That most of us figured we were 'abnormal' before finally seeking a doctor or confessing to friends/partners/mothers/ or searching the web for answers.

And sex is no different. I don't have any idea what other people experience and barely understand my own sex life to feel like I could make a blanket statement about sex. I mean, there are several things that I could try to "blame" it on my dh's circ, but the truth is they could easily be related to other things and I"m left to muddle through it all and figure out what to do about it.

And doctors are not much help about that, imo.

Jessica (with the non-normal but perfectly normal for the most part body I think)
post #150 of 173
Pandora, how uhmm, generous.
Wonder if he thinks that's a fair value?

Jessica

(Felt like this needed to be a part from my prev ranting)
post #151 of 173
He'll be happy if the proceeds of his endevours go towards a Nintendo Wii, an Xbox 360 and various games to go along with...

Will pimp my husband for video games....

post #152 of 173
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Mom2Natalya View Post

I have had sex with intact and cut men, about 50/50 actually. . . and there's really not much difference to be honest.
too bad i can't make that judgement for myself.

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Originally Posted by Mom2Natalya View Post
Cheer up!

Hugs!!
while im sure you had only the best intentions with this, i have to agree with A&A that its patronizing.
post #153 of 173
Wow. Just wow.

Friction? Really?? Is that what I'm missing out on?

post #154 of 173
You just need to find a different angle, my dear. To increase the friction. Because that's what raw, swollen, bleeding vaginas require- more friction.

Sigh.
post #155 of 173
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Originally Posted by TigerTail View Post
You just need to find a different angle, my dear. To increase the friction. Because that's what raw, swollen, bleeding vaginas require- more friction.

Sigh.
So I'm confused. Is more lube the answer? Or is it friction?


I'm sure if I just cheer up.....
post #156 of 173
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Originally Posted by Mom2Natalya View Post

I have had sex with intact and cut men, about 50/50 actually. . . and there's really not much difference to be honest. You don't notice the foreskin so much because as soon as the man is erect, the foreskin naturally pulls back. There's some nice friction, but nothing that you can't get from angle and position in a cut men.
Cheer up!

Hugs!!

That's really rude. There are alot of women on here that have endured alot of suffering because of this issue, and to chalk it up to needing a change of angle or position IS patronizing. I agree.
post #157 of 173
She responded to the OP, and judging by her glib and flippant answer, clearly hadn't read the thread before she posted. I hope she does, since this thread contains so much incredible information and so many raw emotions. I'm sure she'll learn much from it.

It's been a while since we had one of these threads. I always get a lot out of them... even though I can't seem to post my own feelings and experiences on the subject. But mine are similar to what others have said. :

Pandora- Pics???? Who's going to rent him sight unseen?

Tigertail- what an interesting former profession! I mean that sincerely.
post #158 of 173
OT: If it's severely vertically challenged, unestablished, out of place, mean, ugly, patronizing or otherwise baiting: Don't feed it, report it.

Jen
post #159 of 173
Also OT/ but how can you see which post someone resonds to? Can you see that? Sometimes that would be nice to have a:
I'm repling to someone
I'm replying to all or
I'm just commenting on the thread option (and maybe there would be more, but 3 is a good number).

When I see that it is a long thread and I am replying to OP w/o reading through, I usually try to state that in my post so that it is clearer.

Jessica
post #160 of 173
True dat, Jen, but I tend to think people are on the up-and-up and just really really uninformed when something like this appears. They pop in and think they're helping, because they haven't taken 5 minutes to lurk and read and understand the forum. I don't have an itchy trigger finger with the ! button (maybe it should be itchier...)
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