post #161 of 173
10/11/06 at 2:47pm
Ok, I just want to say thank you so much for this thread. You have helped me understand so much about my own sexual relationship. My dh is circed. We have only been with each other. I have often faked, and wished, prayed, hoped, and hurried for it to be over. I would never in a million years want to hurt my dh so I have kept most of it from him. During pg I can't stand sex. It hurts so badly. I am swollen and sore for hours or even days afterwards. My dh is a very loving man and isn't in it for his own gratification, just for mine. I thought it was all my fault I "didn't like sex better." I thought it was my body letting me down when I had uncomfortable or painful sex. We have been married 7 years. We've gained a lot of experience and knowledge of each other. I am usually able to avoid some of the trauma, but it still happens. I usually have to be pretty buzzed to have amazing sex. (I must be relaxed enough or something.) How sad is that? I'm only 22 and I'm so scared about what sex will be in 10 years. I've mentioned restoration briefly before. Thank you for giving me the motivation to really pursue this. I hope my dss' wives thank me some day for sparing them this! Hugs to all you (us) suffering women out there. I hope that it gets better for you someday.