Not at all!
Originally Posted by twins10705
Karen1968: So, are you saying that you think the problem lies in the relationship and that the missing body part has nothing to do with the consistent painful sex for *so many* women(who have had plenty of partners btw!)?
In fact, if you read my post, you'll see that I said: "IMO, it is as much or more about the PERSON as it is about the PENIS." As much
. Not only
I don't think you can put ALL the blame on the circ, just like you can't put ALL the blame on the person, either the man or the woman.
As for whether or not the relationship contributes? In some cases, I'm sure that it does. Occasionally, intercourse with my husband becomes painful. When it does, I tell him, and we change what we are doing - usually to a position that feels better for me, where I am the one in charge of angle and depth. That usually releives the problem for us
. I realize that won't always work with all couples.
Look, what originally prompted my post were comments like these:
"I think of how I would feel if I did get to meet someone who was uncirc'd and what if it really was all that much better? I would always think of that when I was with DH and that would kill our relationship."
"im having a hard time accepting the fact that i will never experience sex with an intact man"
"knowing what i know now, its hard to even look at it without seeing that awful circ scar."
There were only four or five posts at the time.
Perhaps I should have stayed out of this thread. But the OP ended her post with: "anyone have any suggestions how i can just forget about it?" I was trying to share my experience that sex isn't always better with someone who is intact; in fact, it can be worse.
Before I read this thread, I would not have thought a circumcision could cause such problems because it's never happened to me. I still don't think you can put the blame solely
on that, but I now realize that it can be a contributing factor, and even a significant one.