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post #81 of 119
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Originally Posted by RubyWild View Post
I was attacked by a dog as a child, so I'm not really a fan. I do not say hello to them. I've had people say, "You're not really a dog person, are you?" and I acknowledge that and appreciate that they are okay with me being standoffish. I'm not usually afraid of them, although I can't stand German shepards since the attack, I just don't like being near them.

I hear you. I am the same way with white dogs and small dogs (below my knee) as every attack (and there have been many) has been by these dogs. So I am overly cautious about dogs, and if I walk in to a house and a dog jumps on me, I will turn around and head out until they control them.
post #82 of 119
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Originally Posted by MamaInTheBoonies View Post
I don't remember where, but I remember reading something about ppl who need pets. They are ppl who cannot form healthy attachments to other humans, but because they are alive and need to feel loved, needed, and wanted, they get pets to fulfill those empty parts they cannot get with other human beings.

Not a bad thing, but it does make sense when you meet a person who holds their pet above you, a human friend/family member.

Personally, I won't visit a dog owner unless their dog is well-trained or else locked up. Yes, I was a dog owner and do have love for dogs, but I have witnessed too many attacks from seemingly 'harmless, safe' dogs.
I am that person. My cats rank as high up as my children. And above dh. He knows this. Some people will : but this has been his understanding since we were friends in high school. I had a tough childhood, was very shy, and had no friends. The only people-things-animals in my life that have been there for me consistently were my cats.

So my cats DO rank higher than any guest in my house. That does not mean that I would allow my guests to be mistreated or expect them to give attention, though. I pick my cats up and put them in my room with some food if there are guests who dislike them.
post #83 of 119
Your cat ranks higher than your husband?
post #84 of 119
My dog ranks higher than my husband....nobody ranks higher than my dd, but
Havoc outranks Dh. Havoc has never hurt me, never lied to me and is ALWAYS there for me.
post #85 of 119
When my pets start out ranking my husband I think it's time for me to find a new husband.
post #86 of 119
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Originally Posted by HelloKitty View Post
When my pets start out ranking my husband I think it's time for me to find a new husband.
I with you. :
post #87 of 119
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Originally Posted by shannon0218 View Post
My dog ranks higher than my husband....nobody ranks higher than my dd, but
Havoc outranks Dh. Havoc has never hurt me, never lied to me and is ALWAYS there for me.
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My cats came first, have never lied to me or hurt me. My dh knows how important they are to me, and that if he decided that he didn't want to live with my cats anymore than he would have to live outside, not the cats. Like I said, he knew this for years before we got married or lived with each other. He knew the ground rules. It is a package deal. Now would I not buy dh a bday present so that Spooky can get a new collar? Heck no.

It may sound crazy to some people, but it has a lot to do with what MITB posted. I am just someone who has some psychological issues from my childhood. My cats are for life. 50% of marriages disintegrate. And any single man would be under my cats (besides my ds, that is)-not just my dh. I would never get rid of my cats for any spouse. It is about respecting my needs that were agreed on prior. I would never marry a man who disrespected my love for my cats. That my dh is okay with my cats (he hates them but would never let anything happen to them) makes me love him more.
post #88 of 119
but then again, we have a very animal friendly family. my mother and father and sister and grandmother and aunts, etc. all will go oiut of their way to oogle the animals as much as my ds! And they get as many gifts too. Even the bunny. :
post #89 of 119
I try and make my dog stay at the top of the stairs (six stairs, front door is visible). If she comes down before I say, the leash goes on and I stand on it, keeping it short. About 90% of the time she stays at the top of the stairs (all aquiver, but there). I really really hate when she does jump on someone and they pet her while I'm trying to get her back, they are totally undermining my authority. One day I'm going to yell.

Oh, and I had cats when I met dh. He knew if I had to choose it would be the cats. They are dead now, and we won't be getting more, but they were there first.
post #90 of 119
My dog outranks my dh too! Even if I got a new dh, doggie comes first! lol
post #91 of 119
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Originally Posted by HelloKitty View Post
When my pets start out ranking my husband I think it's time for me to find a new husband.
I was thinking the same thing, but then again a good spouse is probably harder to find than a good dog, and even not so great spouses have their uses.
post #92 of 119
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Originally Posted by shannon0218 View Post
(if I'm not expecting someone I allow the dogs to answer the door and make like I have zero control of the beasts )
OMG, I have played this game SO many times! Especially when shady looking dudes come to my door *at night* trying to "sell" me something. Suddenly I just have NO control over my dogs and have to hold them back and I just don't know how to stop their barking. :
post #93 of 119
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Originally Posted by HelloKitty View Post
I don't expect my guests to come on in and put on a puppet show for my children but I certainly don't think it's too much to ask to say hello. If someone can't do that then they shouldn't come to a home with children, they are people too. Just like if someone came into my home and ignored my husband - that would be incredibly rude. Why are children different?
They're not. But if your husband licked my crotch when I walked in the door I probably wouldn't come back. Then again.... maybe I would!

Since you brought up that it would be rude to ignore a child in response to the post about ignoring a dog, that my expectations for behavior around ten times lower than my expectations for behavior around a child. And even so, I would not expect a child to lose their minds every time someone came over.
post #94 of 119
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I actually think it's a mark of bad training when I come into someone's home and their dog is jumping all over me.
Agreed.
post #95 of 119
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Originally Posted by Periwinkle View Post
Since you brought up that it would be rude to ignore a child in response to the post about ignoring a dog
Not to be nit picky, but again, I didn't. I brought up that it would be rude to ignore a child in response to the post about ignoring a child.

My kids lose there minds whenever someone comes over. Maybe they need to get out more!
post #96 of 119
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Originally Posted by primjillie View Post
My dog outranks my dh too! Even if I got a new dh, doggie comes first! lol
You should put that in your wedding vows!
post #97 of 119
Ahh the romance!
post #98 of 119
Once you have kids, the romance is gone. For some of us, not all of us, but you know. So maybe the same is true when you have pets.
post #99 of 119
Nah, I still love my dog after kids
I should say though that not just any dog would come before my dh, Havoc outranks dh, Bedlam....well lets just say if we split up I really hope he takes her
I think years of dating is what did it for me. They say they love dogs, but then a month or 2 in they start wanting to change things. I finally started taking Havoc with me on dates, if the 2 didn't get along, why bother waiting till after dinner
Dh won me over because on our first date (fall fair) I left Havoc with him while I ran to the bathroom, I came out to find he had bought Havoc a bottle of water because Havoc looked thirsty : That was when I knew he was a keeper!
post #100 of 119
When guests come into my house, our young fox terrier goes into her crate. I can't trust her not to jump/lick/nip at guests. She's getting better about relaxing when people come into the house, so it's a long process.
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