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Writing an Obituary for your child....

post #1 of 44
10/7/06 at 2:20am
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How do I do it????

We were supposed to have it in by 3pm today.
That didn't happen.
Tom and I are having a really really hard time doing this... I don't even know where to begin.
We were looking online for obituary writing help, but none of it is specific for a child.
We need to have this in tomorrow for printing on Monday since the funeral is on Wednesday.

What do I do?? This is hard enough without having to put their short life in writing to be published in the paper.

Today we picked out a plot. We picked one in front of a tree.....Lianne really loves trees. And we picked out the stone, but not the engraving... couldn't do that yet. The stone is sparkly and shiny...like Lianne and Finn.

I love them and miss them so much.

Nina

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post #2 of 44
10/7/06 at 2:30am
I am so very sorry for your loss.

I wish I had an answer for you to help you with the obituary, but I am at a loss.
It took me a year to figure out what I wanted on my son's monument. My only advice to you is to take your time and listen to your heart.

Just remember your children love you and they know your love for them is endless.

again, I am so sorry.
post #3 of 44
10/7/06 at 1:45pm
I never got around to writing an obituary and ended up letting the newspaper write the basic facts for obit. I'm very sorry for your loss. Does the newspaper allow picture obits? Perhaps a favorite picture and a bible verse or a quote you love.
post #4 of 44
10/7/06 at 2:09pm
I didn't write my son's obituary. The funeral director was an old family friend and he took care of it for me because I was in no condition to do it myself. I supplied basic facts and the photo, but he did everything else. My Grandma ended up picking out his headstone because I couldn't do that either. I was a wreck.
post #5 of 44
10/7/06 at 9:58pm
I am so sorry.
post #6 of 44
10/8/06 at 12:48pm
Couldn't read without posting.

I am so sorry Nina. I can't imagine what its like to be in your shoes.

many, many s
post #7 of 44
10/8/06 at 3:30pm
I love you Nina, call me, I wrote Carsons & my Papas, I can help you.

xoxo
post #8 of 44
10/8/06 at 3:51pm

Heartbreak

I am so sorry for your loss, Nina. The only advice I can offer is to keep it simple...
post #9 of 44
10/9/06 at 3:40am
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I decided to let the funeral director do it. If it is going to appear in the paper before the funeral than it has to be done tomorrow morning. I can't.

Today was really hard day. I tried to go to my mom's house for a family dinner. I left Tom at home with Conor.
I walked in the door and started bawling. We lived with my mom for 10 months before moving into this house in August and so I had way more memories there. Not to mention all the holidays and everything from before we lived there. I couldn't stay and locked myself in the bathroom and called Tom sobbing.
He called my brother and they took me home. I am doing better now but it will be some time before I am able to go to my mom's house again.

She is actually mad at me for it because that means that she will have to drive across town to see me....


Nina
post #10 of 44
10/9/06 at 4:13am
post #11 of 44
10/9/06 at 6:14am

bs"d

post #12 of 44
10/9/06 at 12:04pm
I love you Nina...
post #13 of 44
10/9/06 at 12:21pm
Nina,
I am so sorry it was such a hard night. I wish that people could put their own feelings aside when you are obviously going through something so much worse. My heart is with you. I love you. Please know that you are fine, there is no reason anyone should expect you to do anything you don't want to do.
post #14 of 44
10/9/06 at 1:04pm
Just wanted to send

I have read a few posts about your loss and wanted to let you know I am thinking of you ( I know that you do not know me but I am sending prayers up for you )
post #15 of 44
10/10/06 at 3:12pm
More hugs & prayers for you and your family Nina
post #16 of 44
10/11/06 at 1:38am
Thread Starter 
I feel cheated:

NELSON, Lianne E. (Age 5)
NELSON, Finnerty E. (Age 16 Months)

Went to be with the Lord on September 12th, 2006. Funeral service will be held on Wednesday, October 11th, 2006 at 1:00 PM at The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints 1620 E. 29th Street Spokane, Washington. Interment will be held at Holy Cross Cemetery. RIPLINGER FUNERAL HOME 4305 N. DIVISION SPOKANE, WA entrusted with arrangements


That was the entire obituary for both of my precious children.

post #17 of 44
10/11/06 at 1:42am


I'm so sorry.
post #18 of 44
10/11/06 at 1:45am
post #19 of 44
10/11/06 at 1:46am
My heart is breaking for you...
post #20 of 44
10/11/06 at 1:54am
this thread made me cry. i am so sorry nina. i will keep your family in my prayers.
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