Originally Posted by mommy68
I would love to know "why" some people are so against opening the gifts during the actual birthday party?? I don't think I've ever heard anyone just come out and say why. Most of us that think the presents should be opened during the party have said "why" we think they should do it but those that don't like the gifts being opened at the party aren't really giving valid reasons.
I've heard people say it's rude or inappropriate to do it in front of friends but not family and vice versa, but WHY is it rude or inappropriate? I'm just curious.
I didn't say that it was rude or inappropriate to open gifts at the party. In my op I did say that it could be chaotic, that I haven't liked the behavior of kids while the opening of the presents was happening, and that I didn't like the party focus to shift to the gifting.
When you give a gift it ceases to be yours. Yes, after I've spend time, driven around, wrapped it etc. I do like to know if the recipeint enjoyed it--but honestly I let go of it after I hand it over. If I didn't want to drive and shop and spend the time I wouldn't. I don't need to see the look in their eyes when they open the present, I prefer a thank you note after they've had a chance to play with/try on/enjoy whatever we have gifted.
I think many younger ones can feel awkward being the center of attention, and being expected to be grateful for everything they get. I know my dc who I want to demonstrate gratefulness to every guest cannot always rise to the occasion---because she is 6.5 and realistically that won't happen all the time.
I think there is a difference between family parties and big kid birthday parties. There is also a difference giving a gift to someone personally and at a big event.
Maybe this is a regional thing, but I've also seen gifts on display too many times, and guests ranked by what they have gifted, it really can become a big class thing and I don't like that. We have friends with a lot more than us and friends with less and I would NEVER want to put someone in a position of embarassment while a guest in my home.