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post #1 of 34
10/8/06 at 8:42am
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In the intro thread, it looked like there were several mamas with toddlers -- let's chat!

DD is 25mos. She is so much fun!

It's going to be interesting, seeing how our family changes when this baby is born... I think we sort of revolve around DD quite a bit and things are going to be a little different when we have to split our attention between two children.

My kids will be almost 3 years apart, how about yours?
post #2 of 34
10/8/06 at 9:28am
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My DD is 30 months old so she will be a little our 3 when the babe arrives. I haven't really told her yet. I am looking for books so that will help explain with pictures!

It will be interesting and fun! My sister gave birth to her 2 second in July and DD is very helpful and interested when we see each other!
post #3 of 34
10/8/06 at 2:48pm
Me too! DS will be 37 mos. when new babe arrives; which is kind of interesting as my sister and I are 3 years apart too.

DS is a cuddly, loving boy, but I'm not so sure how much he'll want to share his mama's affection and time. Also he is nursing, so I'm interested in seeing how pgcy affects his nursing as well as his nursing-to-sleep routine.
post #4 of 34
10/8/06 at 4:30pm
Me too! My little boy just turned 3 in August and has wanted a baby for so long! I am so excited to see him with a sis/bro. He is so sweet with other babies and is already telling everyone that there is a baby in mommy's belly so cute! To bad we have to wait 9mos!
We'll have to do an update when the babies are born to see how everyones tot is adjusting
post #5 of 34
10/8/06 at 4:52pm
Well...dd is only 18 months, but she's a confirmed toddler. She'll be a bit over 2 when this babe arrives. We just went to a bday party for one of her friends who was turning two (his mama is due the last week of May and I was suppoed to be her doula! ) and I just kept looking at him and seeing the future.

DD is really verbal and totally baby obsessed so I'm hoping we can explain things to her in a gentle way. But two is a bit young for the sibling talk!
post #6 of 34
10/8/06 at 7:09pm
DD - the love of our lives is 24 months now, so she'll be around 33 months old when baby arrives! We told her as soon as we got a positive pregnancy test... we're all excited!

DD is still an avid nurser, so I'm preparing for tandem nursing... should be an adventure!
post #7 of 34
10/8/06 at 8:46pm
My DS is a little older - 3.5. He'll be 4 yrs 4 mos when the baby arrives. I'm excited for him to have a sibling, but sad for the transition he will go through. He's been my only one for so long and he LOVES all the attention. It breaks my heart to think he might feel less loved when the new baby comes

On the other hand, he's old enough to help out a lot and understand things better. I hope he wants to be there for the birth and I plan on giving him a special job (like cutting the cord or putting the hat on the baby) so he can feel included and bonded to the baby. Luckily he knows a lot about birth already because I'm a doula and he sees birth stuff all the time.
post #8 of 34
10/8/06 at 10:13pm
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My DD (26mos) and I have been talking about the baby... sometimes she says she wants to be a big sister... and the rest of the time she says "Baby, go AWAY!"

I think she *is* going to have trouble "sharing" me, but I guess that comes with the territory...
post #9 of 34
10/8/06 at 10:14pm
Our son is just over a year. They will be 21 months apart.
post #10 of 34
10/8/06 at 10:39pm
My youngest will be 3 months away fro turning 4 when this baby is born. My husband and I are freaking out tho because she is suoer high maintenance. My oldest will be 6.5 years and #2 dd will be 5.5 years. Where and when will I get my strength back?!?!?!? Dh had a vasectomy on Sept 15th and well, we never thought that it couldn't really happen. I am happy tho!
post #11 of 34
10/8/06 at 11:17pm
dd is 5 and ds is 21 months. He'll be about 2 1/2 when baby comes. DD wants to be in the birthing tub with me. DS is somewhat jealous now, especially when I hold other babies, so I'll make sure we have plenty of rescue remedy and holly bach flower essence around to help. I think the kids will adjust well to another sibling. DD can do many things for herself and her brother and is a huge help. DS loves to be helpful too, trying to copy big sis. He's good at helping pick up toys and taking his dishes to the kitchen and hopping up on a stool so I can get his shoes on and climbing in his carseat. He will be sad to loose sling time though
Victoria
post #12 of 34
10/9/06 at 2:38am
DD is 35 mos now, she's been asking for "new real baby" for over a month now. It's funny when she said she didn't want a baby doll . She started wanting a baby at home when we went to visit a friend who's just given birth to a baby girl. DD has been talking about real baby ever since. It could be that she is lonely being a single child. Well, hopefully that'll be remedied some time next June
post #13 of 34
10/9/06 at 3:44am
My son will be three in december.

He alternates between not wanting a baby- anything to "I want a baby sister" That was tonight anyway.

We shall see.
post #14 of 34
10/9/06 at 5:09pm
My son will also be three in December! He doesn't fully grasp the reality of the sibling, but that's OK- neither have my husband or I! I'm excited for him to be a big brother, but also a little bit sad- if that makes any sense? I want to treasure our alone time for the next nine months!

I look forward to hearing about how it goes for all of us!

Be well,

Candace
post #15 of 34
10/9/06 at 5:30pm
When I ask DD if she wants to be a big sister, her reply is, "Daddy will get one!" :
post #16 of 34
10/9/06 at 10:38pm
Ds will be just over two when this babe arrives, I am curious how he will react and how the dynamic wil change in our family, from three to four. For the past few months I have made a habit to point out babies whenever we see one, and show him to be gentle, I havent told him he'll be getting a baby bro or sis, I'm not sure he would even remotely understand right now!!! We, too, are still nursing and I dont really know how this pregnancy will affect our nursing relationship. I guess time will tell!
post #17 of 34
10/10/06 at 2:24am
Dd will be 3y3m when #2 arrives. As this point(2 and a half) she is adament that she doesn't want a baby, a sister, or a brother. None of the above, no way, stop talking about it right now before I freak out. We kind of thought we'd drop it for a few months and maybe she'll have a new attitude. We told my IL's over the weekend and they kept bringing it up with her (even after I told them it's upsetting her and we are going to leave it alone for awhile...grrr) and brought her to tears once. Anyway, makes me scared of what kind of a transition period we will have. Like a pp said, I feel sad when I think of how this might make her feel. I don't think she's going to want to share her nursies either. People say tandem nursing helps to bond the siblings, but I can see dd just wanting that creature to get off of her boobies. We'll see! June is a long way away in the life of a 2 year old. Let's hope for the best!
post #18 of 34
10/10/06 at 9:46am
my dd is 25 months and is the light of my life, i am really enjoying her a lot. It is hard to imagine sharing myself with 2 kids. I worry she will really feel the difference.

She is also a very keen nurser so i guess tandem nursing is fine, funny my sister asked when rachel was going to stop, and my mom just piped up ' oh of course before the new baby' i just left it, she does not have to stop at all.

I just find my dd still often wants to be carried esp if we are out shopping and my energy just does not stretch that far- any ideas, she was almost throwing a tantrum in the shop today because i would not pick her up
post #19 of 34
10/10/06 at 1:29pm
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I just find my dd still often wants to be carried esp if we are out shopping and my energy just does not stretch that far- any ideas, she was almost throwing a tantrum in the shop today because i would not pick her up
My DD is the same age and we have the same issue!

I've been trying to encourage her to walk (I hate using the stroller, although sometimes it's a necessary evil)... but in a way where I am (hopefully) pointing out how awesome it is to walk and be independent and all that, rather than in a way where I am saying "I don't want to carry you".

I mean, I *wish* I could carry her forever, but realistically speaking that's just going to get harder and harder as I get bigger and she gets bigger. And then once there is a newborn I'll be carrying the infant.

Hopefully I can get DD more "used" to not being carried BEFORE the baby comes, so that there are fewer jealousy issues, etc...
post #20 of 34
10/10/06 at 2:25pm
My DD is 16 months right now - her second birthday will be one week before my due date, so it'll be almost exactly 2 years between them. DD is still nursing avidly, more so than before I became pregnant, in fact. I'm planning to tandem nurse - that should get some good reactions from family.

I've not said much of anything to DD about a little brother or sister, as I don't think she has any concept of siblings yet. A friend will have her second in January, so I'm hoping that I can explain to her in that context. Maybe it'll make more sense to her with a concrete example. But honestly I think the new baby will be a bit of a shock to her and I'm quite nervous about the transition our family will experience. DD is definitely the main focus of my life, and I think we'll miss the relationship we have now when it changes to make room for the new little one. Honestly, I think the change will be healthy, just hard.
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