hey, i am goign to start slow....and to the point.
i had my daughter, rain, on sept 25....at home
she was about 1 week past due...my dd #1 had been 2 weeks past EDD, so that raised no red flags...plus we had several prenatals in the last several weeks of pregnancy...heart tones, position, movement, etc was all alwasy great.
it was a very hard labor, b/c she was already dead (we did not realize it)
not long labor, but painful, b/c my body had to bring her down and out with out her "help"....
i don't know what all the answers are (spiritually or medicaly)
we ended up both of us riding to the hospital in seperate ambulances...even tho i was fine (altho in total emotional shock)
and the baby was definatly dead....it just seemed like the next thing to do, plus my midwife had already had my mom dial 911....
so i got to live out my worst nightmare of a homebirth....dead baby, hospital transport...
ofcourse most of the hospital staff we delt with treated us like shit.....criminals.......idiots etc....
despite the fact that my dh and i are well educated professionals and parents.
my dr refused to examine me after i refused an iv (i was fine and still trying to birht the placenta....i did not want or need an iv)
and he threatened us with a DFCs case on us (and our 3 yr old healthy homebirthed dd)
just to be mean....
we still do not know if he really did open one on us or not.
the homebirth community around us seems to be freaking out....people really freak out when a baby dies at a homebirth, even if there is every reason to believe that it was not preventable.
we left town to stay up in the mts and heal
i am having to regain my strength and my sanity.
it has been 2 weeks today.
i had my daughter, rain, on sept 25....at home
she was about 1 week past due...my dd #1 had been 2 weeks past EDD, so that raised no red flags...plus we had several prenatals in the last several weeks of pregnancy...heart tones, position, movement, etc was all alwasy great.
it was a very hard labor, b/c she was already dead (we did not realize it)
not long labor, but painful, b/c my body had to bring her down and out with out her "help"....
i don't know what all the answers are (spiritually or medicaly)
we ended up both of us riding to the hospital in seperate ambulances...even tho i was fine (altho in total emotional shock)
and the baby was definatly dead....it just seemed like the next thing to do, plus my midwife had already had my mom dial 911....
so i got to live out my worst nightmare of a homebirth....dead baby, hospital transport...
ofcourse most of the hospital staff we delt with treated us like shit.....criminals.......idiots etc....
despite the fact that my dh and i are well educated professionals and parents.
my dr refused to examine me after i refused an iv (i was fine and still trying to birht the placenta....i did not want or need an iv)
and he threatened us with a DFCs case on us (and our 3 yr old healthy homebirthed dd)
just to be mean....
we still do not know if he really did open one on us or not.
the homebirth community around us seems to be freaking out....people really freak out when a baby dies at a homebirth, even if there is every reason to believe that it was not preventable.
we left town to stay up in the mts and heal
i am having to regain my strength and my sanity.
it has been 2 weeks today.
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