Oh moma I am so sorry to hear of this!!! I had heard there had been a stillbirth but didn't know it was your family... I remember you from the FYT threads. I remember when you got pregnant. I am just heartbroken.
My baby boy died as a result of birth accident that occurred at home. We had DFACS show up because they have to look into every case where a baby dies (that's what they told us anyways). They cannot enter your house without a warrant. Remember that. We talked to them on the porch, gave them any info and references they asked for, but made it clear they were not coming inside. They never came back either, though I lived in constant nervous anticipation of a knock on the door for months!
So sorrry you had to go through that. As if losing your precious little one wasn't enough.
I don't know if you remember me, but I'm part of the local community. Maybe there is some "freaking out" but I know for SURE there's also plenty of "how can we help?" around too. We want to help in any way we can. As a mom who has lost a child, I know that ache all too well. If you want to talk, if you need a listening ear of someone who "gets it" I am here. I will PM you my number and other info.
You aren't alone. I know it feels that way sometimes. It's such a dark place, so hard to believe there's even an other side to the tunnel, much less light anywhere.