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post #1 of 23
10/9/06 at 5:13pm
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I'm a long time lurker and don't get around to posting much but here it goes...I have no problem with my ds wanting his nails painted . I've done it before but my dh freaks out!!!! Ds asked me today to paint his nails but this time wanted this bright dark pink color. He usually sticks with a real light color so I can get away with it and not to many people notice . But this time theres no way you can't!!!! My concern is he has school tomorrow and I am hoping no one will make fun of him...and my dh is really going to freak!!! So do I try to get him to take it off before bed or just let it be???


Cindy
4 dogs 2 cats 2 kids and dh
post #2 of 23
10/9/06 at 5:20pm
there are a few boys in my dd's ps/dc class who come to school with dark blue nailpolish and dark wine nailpolish. i always make it a point to both teh daddy and mommy how much i enjoy their painted nails and waht cool parents i think htey are.
post #3 of 23
10/9/06 at 5:47pm
If the whole class is 3 yos, it will probably be fine. It seems like older kids are more aware of what is considered to be for boys or girls. Ds gets 6 yos telling him his bike is for girls. 4 yos don't notice, some 5 yos might.
post #4 of 23
10/9/06 at 5:50pm
I would just warn him that some kids might not think it's as cool as he does. I would help him think of some things he could say if someone does tease him. Such as, "you might not think it's cool, but I do."

My ds still digs having his nail painted, but not as much as when he was 3 and 4.
post #5 of 23
10/9/06 at 5:53pm
I would hope the other 3 yr olds wouldn't be aware enough of gender roles & cultural taboos to make fun of him.
My nephews also love their nails painted ~ all the colors of the rainbow.
post #6 of 23
10/9/06 at 6:00pm
I think it's fine. And your DH should mellow out. What harm can come from a 3-year-old having his nails painted?
post #7 of 23
10/9/06 at 6:24pm
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Thanks girls....I know it's no big deal and my dh definitly needs to mellow out!!! I tell him all the time!!! I don't want my ds to feel bad about it at all. I try really hard to let him be him kwim??
Thanks again...I will let him go to school with it on if he wants .

~Cindy
post #8 of 23
10/10/06 at 1:25am
Our son wanted his nails painted when he was 3 and 4. Our neighborhood is full of girls (few boys), and frankly it looked COOL!

So, I did it. The first time was with our neighbor's sparkly blue nail polish, the next with pale pink. He hated the pale pink "because no one can tell I've got nail polish on". So, I went and bought him dark blue (it was on sale - gee I wonder why no one wanted bright blue nail polish??) He wore it to a major family reunion. It weirded a few of my relatives out (including my supposedly liberal sister ), but hey, he thought it was cool.

He's 5 now and hasn't asked to have it on in about a year. I'm a little sad, actually. He's becoming more socialized to boys' roles. (Though not completely, he and I went for a walk today and he was pushing our doll stroller!)
post #9 of 23
10/10/06 at 1:54am
When I paint my 4 yr old son's nail I just ask his Dad if he's rather that DS got it out of his system now, or let it be a secret desire that come's out in his adulthood. :

I also tell my DS that I'll paint his nails if he lets me clip them. That's one battle eliminated.

Oh, and I use clear glittery polish.
post #10 of 23
10/10/06 at 12:13pm
we have this kit from klutz (http://www.klutz.com/catalog/product/1130) that has this peelable nail paint. my girls really love it and i feel better that it doesn't have any of the super nasty chemicals that regular nail polish and especially remover have. the pro/con to it is the paint peels off their nails really easily and will come off when they wash their hands unless they're careful. this can be great or not so great depending on your kiddo. sounds like it might be perfect for dh, though. the other great thing about the kit is i can let my dd1 and dd2 (5 and almost 3) do their own nails and it peels off their fingers, too. it will stain clothes and i wouldn't want to try to get it out of carpet, but i can get it off the girls' craft table fine, though i wouldn't care if it didn't come off of there. i wouldn't set them free with it just anywhere, but an area of hard, non-porous surfaces with old clothes and they're fine.
post #11 of 23
10/10/06 at 6:26pm
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Well I went out today and got some new colors....green, yellow and orange. We had a nail painting party in the backyard!!! Ds now has all 3 colors on his nails!!!! Very Fall like!!!
post #12 of 23
10/10/06 at 6:33pm
How about doing his toenails instead of his fingernails, if your DH isn't able to mellow out?
post #13 of 23
10/10/06 at 6:33pm
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Originally Posted by muttcutter View Post
Well I went out today and got some new colors....green, yellow and orange. We had a nail painting party in the backyard!!! Ds now has all 3 colors on his nails!!!! Very Fall like!!!
This sounds like fun!
You know, I don't see this kind of desire for "artistic adornment" any different than, oh, face painting at a party or body paints in the bathtub.

I agree that it seems harmless and actually, kind of expressive
post #14 of 23
10/10/06 at 9:48pm
Painted nails are fun. Let him
post #15 of 23
10/10/06 at 10:14pm
When my ds was 3 I owned a beauty salon. So he was around that stuff all day. He always wanted his fingers and toes painted. If dh is that worried about it, find a blue or green
post #16 of 23
10/10/06 at 10:24pm
Oh fun! Nice fall colors!!

My son would probably want his nails painted too if he saw me doing it. I wouldn't have a problem painting his nails either. I doubt DH would mind either--he'd probably just get a laugh out if it.
post #17 of 23
10/11/06 at 8:37am
Thread Starter 
The funny thing is is that I don't even do my nails!!! Ds best friend is a little girl and she paints her nails . You should have seen the look on dh face when ds came home from his girlfriend's house with clips in his hair!!!!! . He definitly LOVES to express himself!!!
post #18 of 23
10/11/06 at 12:40pm
My best friend's little boy is really imaginative and he pretends to be different characters....he has one that he derived from a Japanese cartoon called "Mei".
Well, can you imagine the look on people's faces when she takes him out of the house "in character" as Mei? He wears a pink dress, barrettes in hair and he talks in this little voice like Mei My friend and her husband are fine with it...and all of his other characters too...he is just play acting.
I think they like to watch people get unraveled
post #19 of 23
10/11/06 at 5:34pm
I paint my DS nails all the time. He really loves it. My DH has no problem with it , but then, he paints his nails too.
post #20 of 23
10/11/06 at 5:42pm
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Originally Posted by zenenlightened View Post
I paint my DS nails all the time. He really loves it. My DH has no problem with it , but then, he paints his nails too.
Right on!
It's good to know there are men who are oblivious to society's quirky hang-ups!
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