Ped is refusing to treat us anymore.

[Think of Winter]

Just got home from our 4 mo well-baby, where ped refused to continue to treat our dc is we didn't do the dpt right then and there. I told her I wanted to at least go home and think about it and read a bit more, and she said if we didn't do it NOW, we weren't welcome back. She was pushing the pertussis, with lots of scare tactics. Now we're feeling like bad parents. BTW, she also said I need to stop bfing our 33 mo ds because dd is dropping on the wt chart. I guess I just want to vent a bit. We were moderately happy with the practice, and it feels bad to be asked to leave. But I read about the pertussi vax in The Vaccine Guide, and I really don't want her to have it.

[Plummeting]

Well, it sounds like they're relatively uninformed anyway, so good riddance. Now you can find a doctor who actually knows something about breastfeeding.

[LoveChild421]

A Dr. like that has no respect for the concept of "informed consent". She is trying to coerce you and not allow you to become informed.

[adtake]

I'm so sorry you had a bad time!! It is so frustratin the find a good dr these days. We are on #3 and he's ok right now.

Stand your ground and do not give in to the Dr. They are not your childs parents, you are! Be strong and be informed! This is not even an issue of vaccines, its an issue of parent choice! I can't belive she was pushing so hard! So sorry !

Start the hunt for a new Dr. Check your tribe here and see who people in your area are using. Another great place to ask moms is a LLL meeting.

I know it's hard to change and start new somewhere, but your peace of mind and your childs saftey are at stake.

Hang in there and be reasured you are a GREAT MOM!! keep nursing those babies!! and follow your heart!

[lml41981]

My daughter is only 1, but I refuse to allow my child[ren] to witness their mother being bullied. It sends the message that it is ok to bully or be bullied. I believe that the doctor was attempting to bully you into vaccinating, and that is not ok. I would leave that practice and not look back.

[amnesiac]

Maybe your doc would like a copy of this:
http://www.cdc.gov/nip/vacsafe/paren...-hcp.htm#first

I know it doesn't feel good to be asked to leave, but it sounds like there's really ineffective communication between the two of you so you will probably be more comfortable somewhere else anyway, KWIM?

[Emmalina]

Well done for sticking by your guns and protecting your little one from people who are uninformed. Whether you choose to vaccinate or not is your decision. Good luck finding a better doctor.

[christinadanielle]

at my dd 1 yr well baby i refused the mmr. our dr gave us some info on the vax and told me that i had until she was 2 to decide if i wanted her to have the mmr. she said that after 2 is was the office's policy not to treat un-vax'd kids. she was very nice, polite, and respectful. she gave me time to really think this vax thing through. that is the kind of doctor you need colleen95. someone a bit more understanding of your situation. so maybe it is good they asked you to leave, it gives you the opportunity to find a fabulous dr for your baby! there are plenty out there.

[MamaPossum]

Just remember bad Drs are a dime a dozen, but I know exactly how you feel as I just went through the same thing.

[Plummeting]

Originally Posted by christinadanielle

at my dd 1 yr well baby i refused the mmr. our dr gave us some info on the vax and told me that i had until she was 2 to decide if i wanted her to have the mmr. she said that after 2 is was the office's policy not to treat un-vax'd kids. she was very nice, polite, and respectful. she gave me time to really think this vax thing through. that is the kind of doctor you need colleen95. someone a bit more understanding of your situation. so maybe it is good they asked you to leave, it gives you the opportunity to find a fabulous dr for your baby! there are plenty out there.

I'm glad she made you feel good, gave you plenty of warning and spoke respectfully to you, but I don't believe it's ever nice, polite or respectful to refuse to treat CHILDREN because their parents have decided not to vaccinate.

[DanAbimytwomiracle]

I would find another ped. Like others said, they are obviously ill-informed about bf as well. It's not like your baby has LOST weight, ust that the RATE of growth has slowed, which is completely normal.

My ped pressured us about vaccines for a bit, too, but has since accepted that we are simply not giving any more right now, and haven't in 2 years. I'm not sure whow they'll take the new baby, but if I have to switch, I'll switch.

[eco_mama]

that's exactly what our ped did. so we said fine and never went to another one. you should be happy though, at least you don't have to be involved with such an ill-informed person anymore.

[Bad Mama Jama]

Originally Posted by EcoMama7

that's exactly what our ped did. so we said fine and never went to another one. you should be happy though, at least you don't have to be involved with such an ill-informed person anymore.

I hear that. Leave and take you money/insurance with you. These doctors work for us and not the other way around. I left dd's 1st ped after the doctor I love resigned and left us with her less-than-friendly partner.

We pay for these services in some capacity or another. Don't let them bully you. I'd also write a letter to say how displeased I was with their brand of service and include a print-out of the Providers' Guide: Helping Parents Who Question Vaccines and enclose that as well.

[blessed]

Originally Posted by LoveChild421

A Dr. like that has no respect for the concept of "informed consent". She is trying to coerce you and not allow you to become informed.

This is exactly right.

Her behavior is unconscionable and a breech of medical ethics.

[Maggies*Mommy]

Ours did the same thing. Since he is considered "one of the best" in our county, I think he figured we would go ahead and do it. We never went back.

[*GreenMama*]

UG. Find a new ped and make sure to let others in your tribal area know which doc this is!