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post #21 of 57
I was always an odd kid. I began intensely researching pregnancy and childbirth when I was 11. Its just always been something that interests me. My parents were very AP and somewhat into alternative health, so when I started reading about medicalized pregnancy and birth, it just didn't sit well with me. I have known for many, many years that I would have a HB, and I finally figured out several months before actually becoming pregnant that I would UP/UC.

Now, 9 years after I began my research, I'm pregnant with my first, and I am so glad that I had such an interest in pregnancy and birth back then. I can't imagine just starting my research after becoming pregnant. I can barely read the newspaper anymore, my attention span is so short!
post #22 of 57
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oh yea! my first baby was a hb!
Ditto! I'd've had it no other way. (I've only had the one babe so far, tho.)
post #23 of 57
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ETA: Don't you feel like this thread should be cross posted in the TTC and early trimester forums?
It's about time for another PSA in I'm Pregnant. I did a little advert for this forum in there and in the main DDC forum about a year ago.
post #24 of 57
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I really needed Internet access in the antepartum unit, so I could do more research.
: note to self, in case of transfer have dh bring laptop with wireless card.
post #25 of 57
I was a librarian before I had kids, so yeah... I researched everything to death before we were even married, let alone TTC. I also spent a lot of time on message boards at various sites and learned so much from other women.

I feel really blessed that I was able to have such great options in each of the places we've lived and have great out-of-hospital births with each of my kiddos. Now my biggest fear is that I'll end up in the hospital with #3, after having one great birth center and one fantastic home birth.
post #26 of 57
Interestingly, I DID...and that didn't work out that well for me, sadly.
I went in with my mind focused on NATURAL birth. No drugs, no interventions...I COULD DO IT!
Pfffht!
4 sections later, here I sit...
What a long, long road it's been.
I'll do it right next time or die trying.
post #27 of 57
I certainly did.
post #28 of 57
Yep, of course it helped that my sister is very big into researching (like me) and had two children before I did. Both home births. So I did some of my own research and decided that home birthing was for me. My dh wasn't sure or at least didn't talk to me too much about it, until the birth that is. He was impressed with how great it was and definitely wants to birth at home every time.
post #29 of 57
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Interestingly, I DID...and that didn't work out that well for me, sadly.
I went in with my mind focused on NATURAL birth. No drugs, no interventions...I COULD DO IT!
Pfffht!
4 sections later, here I sit...
What a long, long road it's been.
I'll do it right next time or die trying.
post #30 of 57
absolutely..i spent years scouring books and videos learning about doing birth the right way.

I had my dd exactly as I had planned...with midwives, drug free, no one took her from me, etc...

it was great.

Ds was born at home unassisted, also a great memory
post #31 of 57
I am preggers with my first and am seeing a midwife and doing a homebirth. But it is only through the misfortunes of others around me that I started researching the subject in time. All of my friends have ended up getting c-sections and not breastfeeding. And they didn't seem to care. And it seemed weird to always have the kid in a stroller and in a room, far, far away. So I started looking and found mothering and about two months before I even became pregnant, I went home and announced to DH that we would have a homebirth. Bless his heart, he doesn't always understand my reasoning, but he does support me!
post #32 of 57
Great thread!!!

Well I was born naturally in a hospital and my mom had all of us naturally so I never even considered having a medicated birth! I've done lots of research pretty much due to the fact that I'm trying to be a doula (I'm very new: ) so all the reading that's required lead me to research more on homebirth and midwifery care. Also I'm blessed with friends who homebirth so I have lots of wonderful experiences to draw from. I think I'm in the minority as well with being informed because there are so many women who really don't know about birth. They're too interested in what clothes they're going to buy and which stroller has the spinning rims and bells on it or the nursery theme to think about birth or how they really want to bond and raise their child. People tend to forget that this is a person and it's going to be hard work. I'm a big fan of AP and . Also, seeing the statistics between hospital and homebirth made a believer out of me! I've actually started contacting CPM's in the area DH and I will be moving to for relationship building. It's great to know your options!
post #33 of 57
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Thanks!
post #34 of 57
My real education did not start until after DS was born. Having a child has been the most eye-opening, mind-blowing, feminist experience I have ever had. Wish I had known about MDC before DS was born, I would have made a lot of different choices.
post #35 of 57
I lucked out because I had previous sexual trauma that I wasn't fully healed from and wanted the same practitioner throughout my whole experience, so I picked midwives. I knew nothing, except for what one worker at the local youth shelter said. I talked to her, told her I was terrified of going OB because the one I see wont be the one I got probably, and she's like "Honey, I used midwives for my pregnancy, they're covered by OHIP, let me get you their number" And there was no turning back.

I would have been a C-section for sure if she didn't show me alternatives..
post #36 of 57
Yes. I'm an RN, and did a clinical rotation through a midwives office during nursing school, and witnessed the difference between OB managed births and MW births on the OB floor. I always knew that I'd be calling a MW when I got pg, I wasn't comfortable with HB at the time, but was very much on board with natural childbirth. I had a decent hospital expereince, but knew I would HB next time.
post #37 of 57
Before I had my first, I knew nothing about pregnancy or birth. I knew that I was birthing at home, but beyond that, I had no ideas about anything. I was a full-time student working a full-time third-shift job and had only gotten married like 5 minutes before I became pg (Got pg on the honeymoon). Between working, classes, and being a wife, I never thought to educate myself about pgcy or birth. I just figured it would happen when it happened and how it was suppose to happen.

Like I said, I knew I would never go to the hospital to birth, but just never thought about it beyond location. I was shocked when my water broke at 36 weeks. But 20 hours later, I had a healthy baby girl born at home. Many things I would change about that time in my life and my labor, in particular. But over all, it was a good experience.

Since then, I have done massive education. And now I can rival most obs and some mws on "what to do" if xxx happens and what is really a normal variation in a natural birth.
post #38 of 57
I didn't do any research with my first... I just went with what seemed 'natural'. (no drugs, water, etc.) Unfortunately, I ended up with an emergency csection.
post #39 of 57
Interesting! Thanks for posting this. I don't have anything to add, but just wanted to say I really am interested in all the responses.
post #40 of 57
First birth, yes, first pregnancy, sorta?

My first pregnancy, I joyfully took the copy of What to Expect When YOu're Expecting my friend mailed to me, and put it next to Your Pregnancy Week By Week and figured I was all set.

And then I miscarried. I was already titchy at WTEWYE over the patronizing attitude I found in the early sections (the woman who drank daily martinis while pregnant with *her* first dares to tell us all that if we "slip" and eat a bagel once a month we *probably* won't have done harm?) And I turned to the section on loss and found the information that "you *probably* didn't cause this.. .and then a list of 10 things you might have done that caused it, with the most common cause, genetic rearrangment, as the last, throwaway. I threw the book across the room, dubbed it "What to Fear When You're Expecting," and resolved to find other info sources.

So when I got pregnant finally again a year later, I went to the hippy alternative bookstore, where I found myself a copy of Sears' Pregnancy and Birth Book, and Henci Goer's THinking Woman's Guide.

Kinda changed my life or something

FWIW, I'd already planned a midwife (CNM in hospital) birth with my first pregnancy. That didn't change (nor did the books move me towards homebirth for various reasons), but I had all the arguments at my fingertips against having my water broken, against episiotomy, against any artificial nipples for my kid.... didn't need most of them because my hospital is pretty darn natural birth friendly -- but I went in knowing what was up.
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