I've heard it from doctors! Not about my son, obviously, but when I mention that vaccines can harm children, some doctors are quite comfortable admitting - yes, they can, and this is the price we have to pay, which is only fair. (fair??? )
Who are the "we" they are referring to, do you think? I really wonder how many of them vaccinate their own children, Spy. It's one thing to preach the Doctrine of Immunization to parents, but do all doctors and peds really practice what they preach? I know for a fact that some of them don't. And, I guess, you do too.
Do they think that their children's immune systems are superior to our childrens, or do they perhaps know somethingabout vaccines that the masses don't?
Your SIL sounds just like my MIL . Luckily we don't have this kind of discussions, I think she is scared : My dh gets what he calls 'brainwashing attempts' from time to time, this is how I hear about it
Well, as a matter of fact, I have never had the chance to discuss vaccination or autism with my SIL. And I have never actually seen her engage in quiet, thoughtful discussion.
She delivers her offensive bombshells at family functions when everyone else is relaxed and off-guard, and then she retreats. Now, who wants to start a row and spoil the party? :
I have five SILs, three with children, and one who selectively vaxes. I asked my newest SIL if she wanted any vax info and sent her a couple of emails with links a while ago, but she didn't reply. Being the youngest and newest member of the family, I strongly suspect that SIL1 has been giving her a few lectures on the importance of vaxing her kids and telling her to ignore her crazy SIL who lives miles away in the country! AND my kids are homeschooled! But that's another bone of contention.
Going back to what you said about pro-vax advocates not being in the picture later, she's not really. We meet for a few hours, two or three times a year, and she has absoultely no idea what we've been through. She has visited us once in 15 years, since ds was born, and has never brought her children.
That's another problem with having a 'special needs child', family and friends can't be relied upon to give their support. And new friends tend to have special needs children themselves because they understand and make allowances. People don't realise that 'normal life' changes completely when a family member has a disability.
It's easy to be dogmatic about vaccines when life is running smoothly, and you're not living day after day with the after effects.