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post #21 of 221
Has anyone looked into the legality of this? At least where I live the custodial party/legal gardian has to register the child for school. They must provide a birthcertificate for the child. If that is not a biological parent then court documents with proof of custody or gaurdianship must be shown. The custodial party/guardian has to show proof of residency be often a utility bill with their name on it or something else (legal) addressed to them at the proper residence.

So, I'm guessing that unless you went to court and had the grandparents named as guardian or something then the grandparents couldn't register the child at the school. Neither could the parents because they couldn't show proof of residency.
post #22 of 221
Thread Starter 
Not meaning any disrespect (I am trying to understand), but....

Does the housing authority not know about your oldest kids? Why get a house that isn't big enough for all of you?

If your mom's house is bought...why would she be evicted?

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Originally Posted by MamaInTheBoonies View Post
If they came to live with me, we would be over the housing limit and end up getting evicted and homeless.

I don't have the money nor resources to buy a house for us, yet.

My mother's house is too small for all of us to live there. She would end up losing her home and then there would be three homeless families, as one of my sisters and her family reside with my mother, also.
post #23 of 221
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Has anyone looked into the legality of this? At least where I live the custodial party/legal gardian has to register the child for school. They must provide a birthcertificate for the child. If that is not a biological parent then court documents with proof of custody or gaurdianship must be shown. The custodial party/guardian has to show proof of residency be often a utility bill with their name on it or something else (legal) addressed to them at the proper residence.

So, I'm guessing that unless you went to court and had the grandparents named as guardian or something then the grandparents couldn't register the child at the school. Neither could the parents because they couldn't show proof of residency.
This is exactly how it is in our district. The address being used must be the custodial parents/legal guardian's home. There are people who try to screw the system and illegally enroll their kids, which is why they have gotten so strict where I am. When my crew were in public school, we open enrolled them to the district my mom lives in. They got in only because there was room after all the kids in district were assigned classrooms.
post #24 of 221
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Does the housing authority not know about your oldest kids? Why get a house that isn't big enough for all of you?
The only houses that were big enough were in the ghetto. I refuse to move back. There is a huge shortage of affordable housing for families outside of the inner city.

The apartment I am in right now, I am the first and, so far, only one who has a housing voucher. It has not been fun living here. When you use a voucher, you have to stay for an entire year....if you want to move, there are tons of obstacles you have to get through.

All you really have to do is read the posts on this thread and elsewhere to realize people don't care about other people, especially large families.
No one is going to purchase 4-5 bedroom homes in safe neighborhoods just to rent them to families living in poverty.
post #25 of 221
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So, I'm guessing that unless you went to court and had the grandparents named as guardian or something then the grandparents couldn't register the child at the school. Neither could the parents because they couldn't show proof of residency.
You just sign a Power of Attorney paper here. No need to go to court or hire a lawyer. Just get it notarized at the bank.
post #26 of 221
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All you really have to do is read the posts on this thread and elsewhere to realize people don't care about other people, especially large families.
No one is going to purchase 4-5 bedroom homes in safe neighborhoods just to rent them to families living in poverty.
Not really sure what this is all about. I haven't seen any posts on here that have indicated noone cares about other people or big families.

I honestly don't see renting a place with my kids living somewhere else. I have had to move from places I lived and live with others....I would have never sent my kids somewhere else.

I guess I don't get the reasoning.
post #27 of 221
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Originally Posted by Houdini
I haven't seen any posts on here that have indicated noone cares about other people or big families.

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I would ask that person why they had children in the first place.
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Originally Posted by Houdini
I would have never sent my kids somewhere else.

I guess I don't get the reasoning.
Well, hopefully, you will never be in a position to understand.
post #28 of 221
Well, I rescind my initial response on the grounds that it was in response to a very vague initial post.

Based on the OP... no, I still wouldn't. Not just to "take advantage of better schooling opportunities."

But I don't know if more details would change my mind.

Also I'm a person who went to boarding school in 9th grade, and loved it (I chose that path and felt it was the right one for me). I was also raised by a very attached mother (well, parents, actually). Anyway, I still wouldn't board kids younger than 9th grade either under the regular circumstances that I can think of off the top of my head.
post #29 of 221
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Well, hopefully, you will never be in a position to understand.

Ok....I forgot the first one.

As far as my comments go.....there is no situation I would ship my kids off for. We stick together no matter what.

Sorry you felt you had no other choice.
post #30 of 221
whooo-eeee! Was there a sale on "judgment jeans" this week?
post #31 of 221
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As far as my comments go.....there is no situation I would ship my kids off for. We stick together no matter what.
Even if it means you are all homeless and you get to watch your kids starve to death? You would prefer that over letting someone who loved and cared about your children take care of them while you got back on your feet?
post #32 of 221
I don't think it's judgement, I think we are all just very opinionated! lol Especially when it comes to our children. Different people choose different options.
post #33 of 221
MITB

It sounds to me like you've had an extremely hard life.
I love my mother. She really loves my kids. If I had to choose life in an unsafe area without guarantee of shelter or good food versus my kids living with a woman who adores and is very attached to them and can give them food, shelter, clothes, good schooling and a good childhood I would do it in a heartbeat. Especially if I was beside myself with grief and knew I might be unkind and inconsistent.

You put your kids needs ahead of your desire to have them with you. I do not doubt for a minute that you miss them everyday.
It sounds to me like you made the most selfless choice there. I'm personally confused how it could be seen otherwise.
post #34 of 221
To answer the OP: No.
post #35 of 221
Heck, I withdraw all my comments. This thread seems like nothing more than attack on another poster. I don't know anything about the other thread, and was only responding based on some vague, unsubstantiated question.
post #36 of 221
Opinions are welcome all day long; but there is a fine, fine line between passion and judgment.

And of course a lot of people will wave their "tone is not conveyed well on message board" flags at times like this; ick.


How can anyone say they would never do anything ever? Good gravy! Who knows what's around the corner? What nasty curve-balls that can get thrown at us?
post #37 of 221
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Well, hopefully, you will never be in a position to understand.
post #38 of 221
Nope, never. BUT, if I was in the situation that some of the PP's are/were in, my parents would let me *and* the kids come live with them. My heart goes out to those who have had to make the choice, though.
post #39 of 221
You are right - none of us knows what will happen and how we will act. But some of us are pretty opinionated about keeping our families together no matter what. I haven't seen a good reason (yet) to break up a family. I only have 3 children, but I can't imagine having to send one or more to a relative (and how do you decide which one?) because I couldn't care for them. Luckily, I have family and friends to help out in case of emergency or tragedy, but I would move, get a second or third job, whatever I had to do to keep my kids together with me. Again, luckily, most of my family and friends own their homes, so we could all go live with them if need be without risk of eviction. I think they would rather have all of us than to have to raise one of my children. But, as I said before, different people choose different options and that doesn't mean either way is right or wrong.
post #40 of 221
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MITB

It sounds to me like you've had an extremely hard life.
I love my mother. She really loves my kids. If I had to choose life in an unsafe area without guarantee of shelter or good food versus my kids living with a woman who adores and is very attached to them and can give them food, shelter, clothes, good schooling and a good childhood I would do it in a heartbeat. Especially if I was beside myself with grief and knew I might be unkind and inconsistent.

You put your kids needs ahead of your desire to have them with you. I do not doubt for a minute that you miss them everyday.
It sounds to me like you made the most selfless choice there. I'm personally confused how it could be seen otherwise.
Thank you.
FWIW- they are thriving!!! No longer just surviving day to day, but actually thriving!
It is way better than having them put in foster care or some other System with strangers who may not love them or care about them and might even hurt them.

They are thriving at the school they are in, they are growing by leaps and bounds. They are loved, cherished, and wanted.
Yes, I miss them and my heart breaks that I do not get to see them everyday....but I know it won't be long before we are together again, one whole family.
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