What Book to read NEXT for our special situation

[nicholas_mom]

When I try to GD ds in some way, his first response is to hit his head real hard on the wall. Outside it can be the sidewalk. He will also charge like a bull towards a wall and hit his head

This is always done when he does something wrong and I need to correct him. I follow Dr. Althea for tantrums and hold him because he will hurt himself but he tries to head butt me or hit or kick me. So, I hold him in a cradle position and keep his arms agaisnt my chest and let him talk or scream his frustrations out. We have been doing this for over a year.

I think I would like to find another alternative. I feel kinda stuck in my parenting and would like to find something better to suit him and his emotional needs.

There is a sticky here of books listed here but there are alot and I want a book now to help me.

Any suggestions on the book that you think will help me with this situation?

I have read "Playful Parenting", "Helping Children Fourish", "Ther Highly Sensitive Child".

[robinkate]

Banging his head on the sidewalk would be scary. It sounds like he is undersensitive to pain. If you think sensory issues might be part of the problem, I recommend Raising the Sensory Smart Child.

Hope you find something that helps!

[LynnS6]

To be honest, I'd try "The Out of Sync Chlid" - not on the GD list, but a child who charges at walls sounds like a description of oa child sensory intergration issues (aka sensory processing). Or Sensational Kids (same topic, a bit more academic.) Or "Raising a Sensory Smart Child" which has some nice tips about how to give children the sensory stimuation they need. I'm wondering if this isn't an emotional issue, but a sensory one?

What about Raising Your Spirited Child? Sounds like he might fit that bill too.

[georgia]

Yes, I'd agree with both the suggestions so far Lynn's suggestion of the Out of Sync Child has a companion book also called The Out of Sync Child Has Fun which has some really cool ideas

I might also look into Raising Your Spirited Child, just because I think it's a great read when dealing with sensitive children (heck, all children)....

[nicholas_mom]

Thanks for the replies. When he hits his head on the sidewalk, its actually very softly. When he hits the wall, its more forceful, and he does cry in pain. So, he does feel the pain. I will look inot getting the books recommended from the libray. Thanks!