I get what you are saying as well, but they way you approach will determine whether or not you reach someone or shut them down.
I am not saying the CaC should be for 'making people not feel so bad about formerly circ'ing.' I am saying that some posters on CaC completely eliminate people from feeling like they can explore the issue and not be nailed to the wall.
When I first started exploring the issue, I told the MDC member I was PM'ing that I wasn't going to talk on CaC b/c the poster seemed pretty brutal. After talking with him, I finally posted and I did get nailed. It really just shut me back down and had I not had Yoshua to IM with, I would have completely quit asking questions. Funny thing about Yoshua.....he can present it in a way that is completely honest and not give you any leeway to excuse your way out of it, but he can do it without being insulting and demeaning.
That to me is the best tactic to take.
In the year and a half that I've been here, I've seen this board change from a helpful, advice-giving board for expectant and new mothers to a forum for intactivists only. We aren't going to save many baby boys if all we're doing is preaching to the choir.