Just for an update....
My MIL works at a dental office in a state about 8 hrs away from us. We were planning a visit this week anyway, so instead of scheduling with a dentist in our community, she suggested coming to her dentist, who is a ped dentist, and just wonderful!
My oldest (just turned 6 sunday!) was amazing! Had x-rays, hygentist cleaned his teeth, and turned out he needed 3 fillings. Went back yesterday, had them done with nitrus and novicane (sp?). I"m glad he is taken care of. The story with my 2 yr old is horrifically different

: He has either trauma issues or decay on almost every tooth in his mouth. He refused to have anyone look at him willingly, so with pappa holding him lovingly, the dentist coaxed his mouth open. Ds gave him a chance to do a pretty thorough assessment. His work can't be done in a pedi office, he just can't handle it. So, the only option for him is to go to the local hospital, with the dentist and have him sedated for the surgery. He has 3 abcessess in addition to decay and reconstruction that needs to be done, so I don't think that I have much of an option at this point.

I am sooooo sad about this. He is soooooooo little. I'm glad that I can at least trust the dentist though, and I do know that this is a last resort kinda thing. They rarely send children to get the work done this way, and they try everything they possibly can to work with the child in their office, with the least invasive options tried first.
I think for oldest I will try to look into the xylitol gum, but for little guy, unless someone can point me in the direction of some very strong research, I think that I'm gonna have to submit and have my baby put under to get this work done.

Big

s to anyone else going through this.
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