i wasnt quite sure how to word my title.
i have always felt i need another word instead of 'discipline'. i kinda find that word v. negative. yet training is not a word i like either. maybe guide perhaps.
for instance i have found i have never ever had to discipline my 4 year old. i have had to guide her and teach her but not truly discipline her. when someone asks me how i discipline my child - i have no answer. i dont know what to say. i say i talk and reason with her. i have never had to do timeouts with her. or take any priviledges away. i do 'threaten' for lack of a better word on those rare ocassions. if she wants to do something i tell her not to do - then i tell her ok u can do it but tomorrow u cant have that. for right now a 4 year old acting like a teenager that has worked pretty good. its mostly about eating candy (tried the eat a pound and she wont do it again. she loves it so much that she could easily eat a tonne a day.)
right from when she was a baby i never said no to her. adn if i had to on those rare ocassions i explained why. for instance if she wanted to play with my staple pins i would callthem dangerous and then poke her gently with it to show her what dangerous means and then put it away. she had v. strict limits. seh could climb on teh dining table but under certain circumstances. if she wasnt doing those she couldnt climb.
discipline to me means stopping bad behaviour, punishment. and seriously she has never been bad. i mean yes she needs guidance from me to know its a 'bad' behaviour or socially unacceptable behaviour - but hse has never had to learn thru punishment. i have had to remind her a few times why we dont push or take every toy... but never thru punishment.
anyone feel like me?
i have always felt i need another word instead of 'discipline'. i kinda find that word v. negative. yet training is not a word i like either. maybe guide perhaps.
for instance i have found i have never ever had to discipline my 4 year old. i have had to guide her and teach her but not truly discipline her. when someone asks me how i discipline my child - i have no answer. i dont know what to say. i say i talk and reason with her. i have never had to do timeouts with her. or take any priviledges away. i do 'threaten' for lack of a better word on those rare ocassions. if she wants to do something i tell her not to do - then i tell her ok u can do it but tomorrow u cant have that. for right now a 4 year old acting like a teenager that has worked pretty good. its mostly about eating candy (tried the eat a pound and she wont do it again. she loves it so much that she could easily eat a tonne a day.)
right from when she was a baby i never said no to her. adn if i had to on those rare ocassions i explained why. for instance if she wanted to play with my staple pins i would callthem dangerous and then poke her gently with it to show her what dangerous means and then put it away. she had v. strict limits. seh could climb on teh dining table but under certain circumstances. if she wasnt doing those she couldnt climb.
discipline to me means stopping bad behaviour, punishment. and seriously she has never been bad. i mean yes she needs guidance from me to know its a 'bad' behaviour or socially unacceptable behaviour - but hse has never had to learn thru punishment. i have had to remind her a few times why we dont push or take every toy... but never thru punishment.
anyone feel like me?
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